In memory ideas?

I'm thinking of having a small locker with a pic in it tied to my bouquet that way they will be coming down the aisle along side me (in a way)

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Locket even*

That's a great idea will keep it in mind, thanks.

- I too had a locket with photo in my bouquet.

- During the ceremony there was mention that my brother was giving me away as my father was no longer with us

- We lit a candle during the dinner (during speeches) & mentioned that it was to represent the absence of my father, & also had a few pics of him, & other family members on a small side table

- We also raised a toast to 'absent friends & family'.

I agree, that you dont want to mood to be too sombre. People will be aware of your situation, & will want to see you & OH happy on your special day, rather than it seeming like a repeat funeral.

You can show respect & how much the person meant, without going over the top.

Thank you s_douglas for the advice, I agree and she wouldn't want that anyway. Your ideas are great, remembering them with nods and the charity games are a great idea, thanks for the help.

I'm thinking of hiring a wishing well x

A few things that i have seen and quite liked it doing a reading during your ceremony for loved ones lost, and another one i found yesterday which i love is this as part of table plan x

Some lovely ideas...

We lost our first pregnancy last year so moved the wedding forward, I have called my table names after flowers with the main table called "Poppy" as that would have been our babies name.

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Thank you x

That's really sweet x

I agree above, when my mum got married she had her dads picture in a locket, wrapped around/tied into the handle of her bouquet. That way, when she walked down the aisle he was with her. She cries every time she looks at the photo on her wedding day. You always then have the locket afterwards to keep aswell, as a reminder of your mum and your wedding xx

I personally like the idea of the table, as you can have it by you in the room. A photo of hers, something that belonged to her and 5 candles... Each to represent each year she has been gone and dearly missed xx

Here is one from a wedding recently which I loved... Every guest had a balloon, on each of which they had to write a message to the bride + groom, with their wishes. They all then went outside, and let the balloons off... The meaning behind this was that her dad was up above watching them, and by receiving the balloons he could read each message and make sure they come true, watching over his daughter and her new husband. It put aside a part of the day just for him, and the photos taken of the bride and her groom releasing their balloons, all teary eyed, is now on a beautiful canvas on their wall xx

I'm struggling with this also - does anybody have any reading recommendations for absent family/friends?

I've just ordered a book of readings so I will post again if i find anything

I found a really lovely idea on one website. To have all your bouquet in one colour and have one white flower in the middle - think that will be so lovely. As i'm having roses i think this will work really well

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A very cheesy but still touchy you can wear a silver touched locket in which a photo of your mom and you is tagged. Or you can organize the menu of her choice. Include the dishes what she likes the more. You can also raise a toast for her on her memory in your wedding.

My sister is lending me my mother's earrings that she inherited as my 'something borrowed'. I'm now thinking of attaching my mother's locket to my bouquet for the day, thank you for the tip

My father and the OH mother have both passed away and we feel there should be some part of them in our day other than an absent toast at the wedding. We are only having 50 people so its a little easier for us to do but we are naming the tables after people who mean a lot to us but can't be there (not the top table as too contentious with parents new partners to consider!) so our parents and beloved grandparents will have a table each with their name on.

My dad died nearly 20 years ago and he is in my thoughts every day and though I am so excited about my wedding I know it will never be the day I dreamed of as a little girl as he is not there to walk me down the aisle or give a speech. ☹️

This thread has made me feel quite emotional! It would be nice to raise a toast, perhaps eschew the traditional 'to absent friends and family' and instead actually name her and say something about her to make it more personal. If it wouldn't upset you too much you could have a chair reserved for her during the ceremony or reception? Some people like this idea, whilst others aren't so keen...

You could also include her favourite song in your set list - maybe dance with your dad to it, or with someone who was close to both of you as a way to honour her. I love the idea of including her favourite flowers - if you have them in your centre pieces she'll be all around your wedding! Wearing some jewellery of hers could keep her close to you. Hope this helps. x

I agree with Zoe - an emotional thread. I love the idea of the balloons - I think it is a beautiful idea.

Whatever you decide you know she will be watching down on your special day and the fact that you have thought so much about how to include her is sweet enough x