Including lost loved ones in your big day

Somewhere near the entrance barn we will be having a small table with my gran and grandad's wedding photo (grandad died about 7 years ago and granma is very poorly and unlikely to be able to travel to the wedding as she lives in Wales), and my mum and dad's wedding photo, as my dad died about 6 years ago. I will write a small card to place nearby just to remind our guests that my dad and grandad are still a part of our family and our day. I just hope it won't make people cry too much!

Hi i get married next year, i lost my lovely mum 8 weeks ago, i am having her ring and my bouquet is going to be made same as hers, My dad doesnt want to make my big day too sad by having photgraph of her as my mum wouldnt want that, instead we will toast her and i will be putting my flowers on her grave, i was told by one friend to leave her chair free but again my dad didnt go for that!! it will be so hard without her though /

H was close to his uncle who died not long before the wedding, as part of the ceremony the registrar lit a candle for him and said a few words, after dinner h gave the candle to his aunt to keep, It was very emotional.

I think if we had recently lost someone close they would have got a mention but felt it would be a bit morbid to start mentioning people who had long since died.

I know what you mean. My Dad died nearly 11 years ago and most people will have forgotten about it or got over it by now. So that's why the things that I'm doing will not be obvious and most people won't even know

I think the wedding photo thing has become trendy as it fits with the vintage theme (I mean absolutely no offence by this, but I think that's why people think of it now)

My Mum's best friend, who I loved so much, died 15 years ago but I thought it would have been inappropriate to mention her in the speeches after all this time (plus her Husband was there with his new wife). So I instead, I wore her bracelet as my something old. Her husband noticed it and commented on what a lovely gesture it was. I think a little nod to those you loved is nice without being obvious.

That's really sweet Panjita