My OH's gran is going a bit funny with her old age, she is also hugely religious but in a sort of creepy brainwashed way that really freaks me out. I am not religious but will be polite and listen to her when she starts talking, whereas OH is really rude and just gets his phone out or walks away or something. She will turn any convo to being 'the word of the Lord' but doesn't see the hypocracy in some of the things she likes to get on about (posted here before about her homophobia and prejudices - but its OK for her to feel prejudiced because God has 'spoken' to her in her dreams and told her it is her mission and so on.)
Hub came home t'other night after visiting her and she had been bending his ear for a couple of hours about a situation that has apparently really offended and upset her, involving me, that she has basically fantasised as I know 100% it never happened. It paints me in a really bad light to his family. Basically she thinks that at some point in the week or so before the wedding I had a go at her about religion and made comments about her 'just clinging on to her prayer beads'.
Firstly the week before the wedding she was in hospital with a virus and I went to visit her once with OH and she was out of it, saying she could see angels on the ceiling etc. I only talked about the usual things, such as taking it easy, resting up and so on and didn't comment on her religious stuff at all.
Secondly as far as I know 'prayer beads' means rosary beads, which to me is something that people of the Catholic faith use. OH's gran is born again Christian, so that is something I would never have said to her anyway even if we were discussing religion.
She was very quiet on our wedding day because she had woken up late, her family had picked her up and she hadn't got ready so was all of a fluster. She was actually really miserable looking and I don't think we have a single picture of her smiling. At the time I put it down to the fact that she had just got out of hospital, is very elderly, was tired and possibly hadn't had much time to be prepared and so on. But now she has decided to discuss it with OH, saying it had really upset her but after all these weeks she has decided that she has 'got over it' and 'doesn't hate me' but that's why she was so down on our wedding.
I feel really upset because she hasn't spoken to me about it when she has seen me, and has been nice as pie. It also upsets me that she thinks I have done this horrible thing, offended her about religion, and I of course wouldn't want a frail old lady being upset over anything.
I am also concerned that she is saying these things to other family members who might not be aware that this is one of her 'funny moments' and of course this makes me look a right cow, upsetting a religious devoted lady by making comments about her faith. OH doesn't think I should try to discuss it with her, as far as she is concerned it happened, no matter what I say, but she is 'over' it. He also doesn't think we should say anything to any other family members of his, in case it worries them that she is now fabricating entire conversations/situations. I really don't know what to do or if I can do anything.
What would you do? Just shrug it off and forget it, or talk to her about it?
