Invitation Question...?

We are just gonna put adults names on the invites and hope they realise its only them and not their children. If children were invited most people would expect their names to be on the invite or for it to say 'and family'

Im really just relying on people to realise this cos I don't know what I'd say if they rsvp'd to say they were bringing children.

Hopefully most people will be glad of the opportunity to have a night out on their own!

Thanks - that's what I was hoping! ?

Think i'm currently overthinking everything at the mo... ?

Hi sorry but really disagree i think unless you have told people and they know its only adults they would not even think about it and fetch there children as they are part of the package

We are not inviting children either and worried about people bringing there children so on the info card im putting in with the invites it says 'Regrettably we are unable to allow children at the ceremeny and reception'. My friend put this in small writing at the bottom of her actual invite too as she didnt have an info card.

i agree with carrie

My friend recently went to a wedding, he'd had the invite and rsvp'ed and assumed that it was a whole family event, it wasn't and there was no where for the kids to sit and they hadn't catered for them. All a bit embarassing for everyone involved.I'd put a polite note in to say that you want to make sure that parents are free to enjoy the day without having anyone to look after or worry about.

Don't rely on people realising this! We even had single guests (we had a small venue so couldn't add plus ones to our single friends) send our reply card back to us adding their own "plus one" even though we had hand written the names on the invites to make it, what we thought, was obvious!

We didn't put in the invites about the no kids policy, we just spoke to those who did have them and if you phrase it right then they won't have an issue and as you say will be happy to have the day off!

I would personally read that as being only the adults invited. I worked on the basis that if the kids were invited their names would be on the invite. But, I know that sometimes people just assume the kids are invited so I would maybe mention it when giving out the invites or adding a little sentence on the invites.

Sophy that happened at my mums wedding too, although that was 25 years ago, but she didnt put anything about children being invited and people still bought them!

I'd say that would be really embarrasing for your friend - how presumptious to assume!!

Ooooh - mixed responses!!

I can't believe that people would assume. How wierd would it be that you wouldn't include someone's name on an invitation!

Mmmmmmmmmm a bit of tricky one. I would put something like regrettably children are not allowed at the venue as some people may assume their children are invited. I don't see the point in bringing children to a wedding anyway,they get bored and you don't really get to enjoy your self.

I'm having the same dilemma. We don't have space for people to bring their children too (already at the maximium numbers after cutting people off the list without allowing for extended families children too. However I have no idea how to word it as OHs neice and nephew will be there so it's not like we can say no children. But then they are more closely related and we see them alot more iyswim? This thread has confused me even more now!!lol

I'd put the info re: no children in the 'Wedding Info' document (assuming you are doing one - with directions, acommodation, gift list that sort of thing) and you really don't have to give a reason but 'venue restrictions' covers a multitude of reasons.

I'm the same - not having children at the wedding. Its such a long day for them. I think the names on the invitation indicate who is invited to the wedding. I also think its rude for people to assume their children are invited when their name isn't on the invitation.

I'll be putting a little bit on the info sheet that goes with the invitations to mention that we want the adults to come and enjoy themselves so leave the kiddies at home.

Sorry, but I would assume the kids are invited unless told otherwise (especially little ones). but actually mentioned this to OH last night and he said the complete opposite. In any case - you can see its not clear-cut so I would put a little not in there just in case.