Invitation Wording

Why not wait for them to ask you (or your family)?

Some people REALLY dont agree with asking for money for a honeymoon!!!! whereas i see it as exactly the same as including a gift list. and i personally would rather know what they want whether it be money or gift. if they didnt say i would enclose money. saying that we havent put a note in cos OH prefered not to so we are telling parents if anyone asks we would like money for the honeymoon. but if we were goin to i would probably write that we have been together for 9 years, we have a lovely home which we share with our 2 children and although we dont expect a gift from our guests as them coming to the wedding is enough for us, we realise some people are interested in what we would like. and as we dont really need anything for the home we would ask that anybody wishing to give us a gift, would give us some money to go towards our honeymoon so that the money can be enjoyed in a very special holiday with our sons.

phew, that took a while!

What we are planning to do is have a combination giftlist, with a few gifts on it or donations for our honeymoon. That way the more traditional people can get us a gift (though we don't really need anything as have lived together for over 2 years already) and the people who know we won't get a honeymoon without help can contribute to it.

I think (and from what other people have said to me when they have recieved money/honeymoon poems etc) that its really rude...

We have told our parents the name of a store we would like vouchers for and if and ONLY if someone asks (Most have) then they can tell them.

I just think it cost so much money for someone to go to a wedding with travel/drinks/accomadation/outfits that its a lot to ask for a gift, and money puts them on the spot and can make them feel uncomfortable if they cant afford it.

Just my opinon... Just know that it doesnt go down well!

Pink, thats why we didnt do one in the end because alot of people find it rude or presumptious or something. like i said,i would rather someone tell me and i wouldnt attend a wedding without giving a gift of some sort but thats just me and i understand the other side of it too.

i think its a really hard decision but if you want to put that in then just go for it, its your wedding and im sure you are only inviting people who are close to you anyway and im sure they will know you well enough to know you dont mean anything bad by it. but i would mention you dont expect a gift because if people feel you do then that might get their back up