Invitation wording - Help please!

Hmm that's tricky. Can't really help with who to invite from as although we are getting a little help it's in equal amounts from all parents and we are paying the bulk of the cost. We are therefore putting our names on the invites...can't you do this, I doubt anyone would be offended because the alternative is you put all their names on :-o speak to them first maybe. OR do the traditional bride's parents because it's tradition?? Not sure.

With the actual wording, we weren't overly formal and we are having a church then hotel wedding with sit down meal. We just said 'x and x' invite xxxxx to the celebration of their marriage on this date, time, church then onto the hotel for dinner, drinks and dancing'...something like that.

WOW, Good luck with this one ?

Im having mine in a church and doing the normal my parents inviting the guests to the wedding (there paying for the reception) however my sister saved any arguments on how it was done as said X & X are inviting X to their wedding. So unless you know it will upset someone you could o it that way. There are alot of sites online that they you the way to word it. xxx

Could you say

Miss x
and
Mr. x
together with their families
request the honor of your presence
at their wedding
Saturday, the seventeenth of May
two thousand and eight
at half past four in the afternoon.

As a compromise that won't take up to much space!

Thanks all. ?

I quite like the "together with their families" option, but hadn't realised that you can (should?) do the invites from the bride's parents whoever is paying.

Definitely going to discuss it with all of them before deciding, in fact we're all meeting up tonight, hence the slightly panicked post for help!

I don't think you do put it from the bride's parents regardless of who's paying. As Sange said - the invites come from the hosts. I like the 'together with their families' option or just explain the situation to the family and just have yours and your OHs name.

You could always recognise the people who have paid in another way I.e gifts etc and something in the grooms speech?

I like the 'together with their families' option too. My parents are paying the majority of ours, and H2B's parents are paying the rest so we are also in the extremely fortunate position of not paying very much (we both decided to go over budget on our own outfits and pay the difference, plus over-budget on our wedding rings and a couple of 'extras' so we are paying a little but not eseential bits). We have gone for Mr & Mrs Brides's Parents together with their daughter, Mary-Jane and Mr & Mrs Groom's Parents together with their son, Tom Dick Harry request the pleasure blah blah blah. (Not our real names, obviously!)

Sorted now: going with

N
and
A
with their parents
request the.... etc

No fuss, everyone happy.

Thanks everyone, for lending an ear.

I used the " together with their families" option, even though we are paying for 95% of the wedding. No one has moaned about it and it still looked professional.(I hand made them)