Invitations and children..

Since you're okay with it either way, but would prefer the kids not to be there, what I would do is this...

Address the invitations to the parents only. Leave names off the RSVP. If they want to bring the kids, they'll probably either ask, or assume it's okay and write the kids' names on the RSVP. If they don't want to bring the kids, they won't.

If it's possible for you to ring people just after the invitations go out, perhaps you could ask politely over the phone or face-to-face. I find people are less likely to take offence when faced with a real-life person rather than some anonymous, easily-misread text on a page.

We've included children in our guest list and therefore on the invitations. We are finding though that a lot of people aren't bringing them so they can have a night out without them.

In our additional information we said that children were invited and if they were coming could people let us know whether they would need a children's meal and/or a high chair.

I think if they are welcome to come you need to include their names on the invitation.

We decided to invite close family children and those under 6 months only... otherwise our numbers would have doubled. We addressed the invitations to whoever was invited and put a line in the extra info that said "Due to venue capacity we are only able to invite the children of immediate family and those under 6 months".

It didn't stop OH's second cousins adding their child to their RSVP (grrrr!) but they are only evening guests anyway so not that bothered...

I think if you are going to give them the choice you will need to invite them all, they can then decide if they are not bringing them...

We are not inviting children to our wedding apart from our son and the ones in the bridal party. it would be impossible to invite everyones children as we only have a small venue and over 70% of guests have children and thought it unfair to only invite some. we have invited everyones children to the evening reception though. i am going to include a little note to explain why children aren't invited. i found some examples online as wanted a little help with how to word it.

I know a couple of people have already told us that they're not bringing the kids, so I assume for them it'd be OK not to include them on the invite.

Perhaps an informal chat/email about the wedding - like a save the date email will whittle it down a bit - some people will then ask about the kids and if it's OK to bring them. I know I'm going to have one 1 1/2 year old at the ceremony and one 10 month old at the reception already, but they're OK as we don't have to provide meals for them as they're too young.

Can't think of a polite way to put it but we'll be making sure that no kids come to ours - we're not bothered about having any of our own so why on earth would I want other people's there on my wedding day?!?!

Everyone knows we don't really like kids so I can't think it'll be a shock - the family members that have kids will, I'm sure, be happy to have a grown up day where they can let their hair down. If someone decided to fall out with me because their child wasn't my priority on my wedding day I honestly don't think I'd lose any sleep over it!

But that's just my opinion ?

We dont want kids at our wedding either - mainly because OH aunties kids are an absolute NIGHTMARE and even OH auntie said its a brilliant idea that were not having kids there... We included a note saying unfortunately due to space issues we are unable to invite any children to the wedding, and also please no hats' LOL

But apparently my OH other auntie cant read and has decided to invite her son along... :/

But as said above if youre not too bothered about having kids there or not - you could just address to parents or you could put in a note if you decide you dont want kids there. x