Invite dilemma - advice pls ladies

Eeeek i feel your pain as we've had similar. We had a rule of if we didnt know OHs they were only invited if they lived together. Usher asked if he could bring his gf, we agreed as they have been together a long time. My brother asked about his gf he has only been with a couple of weeks - we said she was welcome to evening but not daytime.

I think if i was you i'd have stood my ground and called his bluff - would he really miss his brothers wedding for some girl he just met in pub?! You'd hope not...but if your OH has said she can come you might be a bit stuck i'm afraid.

Now that is just not on, I would be fuming.

Girlfriend - fair enough, but not just some girl he knows just for the sake of having a date, and to then be so unbelievably rude about it when you confronted him. Stick to your guns, he's the one in the wrong. I would not have this if it happened to me!

After being on Hitched for quite a while I'm amazed that I can still be shocked at how some people act when it comes to weddings, but I am ?

What a nasty bloke! My sisters are all bringing OH's but then they're married - it's ridiculous, imo even if it is your brother to expect a plus one. Like AR says though, it seems as if you're stuck with her. ☹️

Thats terrible some people just dont think, but then again its only now im starting to plan my wedding im seeing how strict you have to be with numbers i was accounting for 150 but this was before my O/H done his side of guest list and the number has shot up, just pleased we are hiring a hall and doing our own buffet, so maybe the brother just doesnt nor hadnt thought about these things and has gone completely the wrong way about it x

I would be telling your OH's brother that if bringing a random singer who isnt even his girlfriend to the wedding is more important that his brother then dont bother coming at all!

What a rude tw@t!

If he is Usher i assume he will be on the top table and random singing woman would be sitting on her larry on another table so its not like her being there is going to make a difference to him.

haha, that made me giggle. We're not having the ushers on the top table, just the Best Man/Chief BM. I think the problem is now though that the OP's OH has said "just bring her" - now if he/they go back on that, it'll just look like OP has been forced into it by OP.

The only other option is to get OH's parents to have a word.

I can't believe some people!

Outrageous stuff. The fact that you offered to meet him halfway and he's come back with this response. Tell him to pay for her meal and wine if he's so determined to bring this random girl. The cheek! Hope your OH tells him where to get off.

Thanks for your replies ladies!!! Glad you've all got the same opinion as me ;-)))

Just spoke to o/h and ended up bawling! Apparently the bro sent him an email saying this has all got out of hand and thanks for saying she can come!!!! Am still so angry, I just want to kill the f****r!!!! I had even explained the reason why - like we have numbers and couldn't afford the £50 it will cost us to feed/water other people.....but no, as long as he's got his own way, that's fine!!! And this isn't a teenager we're talking about here - he is in his 40's for godsake!!!

Rant over x