Invites and children (again!)

? That is just beyond rude! Especially as you explained the no children policy. Definitely stand your ground, you will regret it if you give in and everyone turns up with their screamers.

Oh my gosh, soooooooo rude!!!

How rude can some people get? Planning my wedding has taught me how selfish people can be, I think they forget its YOUR wedding !

We had this, we had just written the parents names though, no note to explain, and I though that was bad enough!

Wow that is either incredibly rude or incredibly stoooopid. Glad you stood up to them!

Good for you, stand your ground!

I certainly would in your position.

Oh my god, there's no way that was a genuine 'you've missed his name off, never mind' that is VERY rude! Well done for standing your ground and not worrying too much about it.

If I'd been feeling a bit bad about it before, I certainly wouldn't be feeling it now after that response ha!

Glad it's not just me that thinks she was rude! The joys of wedding planning!

I'm dreading all these little bits when I finally send my invites (Wedding is in Dec 2013 so best get my butt in gear!). I'm having my families children there as there is noone to leave them with seeing as they will all be flying down to our wedding. Not sure on what to do with friends kids though... May say fine for reception but no to the ceremony as there are restricted numbers. Oh the politics!

I think their response is pretty rude, they didn't even ask, just assumed

Incredibly rude!! Reminds me of being at a friends wedding where no children were invited. Brides cousin totally ignores this and brings her 3 children. Very rude and arrogant. God knows where they sat or what ate.

I cannot believe some people, especially when it comes to weddings!

What was her reply when you told her he wasn't invited?

We also had a no children line in with the invitations, explaining that because of pressure on numbers, no children were invited. It wasn't that we didn't want them, we just couldn't afford them. If we'd invited one we'd have had to invite 18. H2B's cousin sent him a message on Facebook asking if they could bring their daughter (who we've met once, eight years ago). "I know you don't want children, but she's 16, so not really a child." So we can't afford to feed a child, but we can afford to pay twice as much to feed your teenage daughter? I don't think so.

One of H2B's closest friends went on so much about how we should have invited his children that I came close to disinviting him. He claimed his ex-wife wouldn't come without the children (8 and 6, hardly babes in arms). It turns out she's not coming because she doesn't want to have to spend the day with HIM, she'd have been quite happy to leave the children behind with grandma.

I don't understand why people can't just go with what you have written on the invite. I never dreamed of how difficult writing up a guest list and planning a wedding would be, however i would never just invite extra guests to someones wedding. Plus, if a child turns up unexpected, they may get a little bored with nothing to do. meh, i can see this same issue ahead for me. p.s i am enjoying the sun ?

^^ let us know please ?

Very rude though, i wouldnt heve the cheek to even think my kids were invited (if i had any) let alone ask. We are inviting kids to the reception but only nieces to the day. Really hope im not in this situation soon.

Oh wow thats rude!

we have had more people who's children were invited (a 2 year old and three young teens overall so far) accept the invitations but say 'we wont be bringing the kids' than anything else.

We will have about 8 teenagers and 8 under 8s! all family, Nephew, cousins, children of cousins...

the evening do we have invited more but most won't come as theyre too young and a lot of parents seem to like evenings away from their children!!

Hilarious. Reminds me of the person who rsvp'd to our invitation saying that they (including children's names) could not make it. Said children were never invited in the first place.

It was a winner all round really as we hadn't wanted to invite them in the first place!

Hehe, she's probably whinging on Mumsnet/similar about how rude it is not to invite their little darlings!

I'm totally on your side on this one though, and how polite I would be in my response to her message would depend on how much I a)valued our friendship or b) actually wanted her there.