invites driving me bonkers!

We just said "please recommend a song for the DJ" on our RSVP cards. So far only one person has, but I've only had 3 replies and other people have said to me "you'll have to wait a bit for the RSVP, I'm really thinking about which song to pick!" which is lovely, shows they appreciate it.

I'm of the school of thought that you shouldn't put gift information in with the invitations. Personally if I got a wedding invitation with no info, and it wasn't a very close friend/relative (i.e. so close I'd already know what they wanted) I would automatically bring a cheque. You could make a wedding website and put gift info on there, and then just include the link in the invitation. That's what we've done.

This little poem has been included in some invitations I've just made for some!

GIFTS

We know it’s not traditional

It’s not the way it’s done

But instead of a wedding list

We’d love a bit of sun.

Please do not think of us as rude

Please do not take offence

We do not want to upset you

That’s not the way it’s meant.

We’ve lived together quite a while

And some of the bills are paid

We’ve got our plates, our pots and pans

Our plans have all been made.

So if you’d like to give a gift

To help us celebrate

Some money for a honeymoon

We really would appreciate!!!

We are in the same position and as we are not having a honeymoon we have no need for holiday vouchers or currency. I feel that the people we are inviting should know us well enough to know that we dont mean any offence by asking for money - We would prefer money to vouchers as we are then not restricted in where we can spend it. Im going to word ours along this line......

'Although we do not expect gifts, we do appreciate that some people would like to give us something in celebration of our marriage. However, as you all know, we already have a home together so we don't need 'stuff'. Therefore we respecfully request that if you would like to give us a gift that it either be money for us to put towards setting up our forever home or if you really would prefer to give a gift then it has to be 'Unique and Useful'. If you would like ideas or have something in mind, please contact my mum to confirm that no-one else has already thought of it.'

As harsh as this may sound, if we get lots of similar gifts or things that we don't need then we will be ebaying them and putting the money towards us moving house and hopefully baby stuff!

We've cut the info in our invitations RIGHT back and basically said that all the info re: accommodation, food, how to RSVP etc is all on our website. We're asking people to RSVP by phone or email because I don't fancy going through half the hassle I've read on here with people not posting back their cards in time and then having to ring round to chase it all up.

Gosh, personalised egg banjo for you then.

I remember the days when people were grateful for what they were given! ?

Ive never heard of an Egg Banjo so I googled it and now im hungry.......?

with regards to be grateful for what I am given...... im grateful for my health, for having a roof over my head and for sharing the love of my wonderful friends and family. Having material possessions that we will never use, nor reflect our tastes seems a waste of resources to me. If people chose not to give us a gift that is fine, if they want to give us something Im sure they would prefer to give us something useful and in our case we like unique (Which doesnt have to mean expensive).

I would rather have money put aside for hopefully furnishing a nursery, to pay towards our annual English herritage memebership, or to have a honeymoon sometime next year depending on what direction life takes us. Too often, people are made to feel guilty for expressing what they want yet by doing so we can actually become happier with what we already have. I really dont understand why it is okay to ask someone for an expensive dinner set but you can't ask them to put £20 into a piggy bank for you! Thats just my take on it anyway and im comfortable enough in knowing that most people disagree with me!

We've said that we would like cash on our invites, but we've also said that we'd be grateful for a dog sitter for the night or help painted a room ?

A lot of our guests gave us quite big house warming gifts, so we aren't expecting much in the way of wedding presents.