So I was on a high after spending hours at the weekend doing my handmade invites, personally delivering 75% of them and looking forward to the responses...
I come home today to find out that one of my aunts has been in touch with my dad to say she is confused, why has she and hubby been invited to the day and my two young cousins only to the evening? She has hired formal wear for them and are they not allowed to the church? Etc etc.
We are getting married in a small chapel that seats 60-70, and have invited immediate family, aunts and uncles and a handful of close friends and this covers the seating allowance. I come from a large family with at least 30 cousins...most are older with partners, some even have kids of their own. There is no way we could accommodate them all, and you can't invite some and not others as that would start an argument in its own. Partner is from a very small family, he has 3 cousins - all over the age of 20. We have invited them all (all 3 of them!) because as you could imagine his family are very close as there are so few of them.
The response that she got was no cousins are coming, that's the decision and no exceptions will be made. That's what I wanted, and have planned for , for the last 15 months. but now I feel guilty as she has arranged formal wear for them - even though her save the date card received back in September only said to her and hubby...and partners cousins are going to be there. Although they are not children as I said.
gaaaah!!! So disappointed to have had a reaction like this and so soon after just putting invites out.
