Invites Wording - and name

If your making them yourselves to people who know you by your middle name could have that invite with that name on and family who insist on first name have that invite.

but if having them made go with your middle name if you don't want people to start calling you bu your first name your friends will know who you are and so will your family but they will just still keep using your first name.


Any invites we have set out like above I don't think it had brides surname on.

Are the groom's parents paying for the wedding? As if you're going with tradition then the invitations come from the bride's parents. Obviously you can do whatever you like (we had ours coming from both sets of parents and lots of couples have the invitations from them) but I just thought I'd check!

It depends how formal you want your invitations to be with regards to your name. I used my full 'sunday' name, despite no one calling me that. Why not use your first and middle names?

OH parents are paying for everything and also very much hosting (we are getting married and having reception at their home)

Ahh I see. Makes sense then!

Because those invitations are usually from the bride's parents, and you assume their surname is the same as the bride uses. The groom's surname is often given, because it would be the only mention of it on the invitation.

In this case, I think the OP should use the name she is usually known by, and her surname. I also think her name should appear second, after the groom's - it will scan better.

The only change I'd make if you want to be very proper is to make it "Mr and Mrs X Deer".

But only if you're keen on misogynistic naming conventions.

I didn't know at the time that it was being sent out from the grooms parents. So I would go with what others said.

I think, in your particular (unique) circumstances I'd list your full name (forename, middle names, surname), as then your family will be familiar with the names you've put, and because you aren't actually related (yet) to the couple who are hosting.