Inviting someone from work - dilemma

I'd invite her if you get on with the pair of them and share interests then why not!?

Invite who you want. If you're bothered, you could always ask her not to shout about it at work.

See that;s what the logical side of me says but.... I did have a very brief discussion with her about it (not specific just about inviting maybe 1 person from work) and she said it might make that person feel awkward.... and as there's only 7 of us, even being quiet about it wouldn't make much difference....

but thanks - think will see what SB thinks - plus have to wait + see who else drops out LOL

I work in a small team too - 12 in total. I have invited 5 of them with partners but none of the others.

I decided that I would only invite those who I would stay in touch with if I left.

Hard to advise on your situation though as it depends on the team dynamic there... sorry not much help.

I have some similar dilemmas, with people from my old work and my new work, and some of the new work previously being at old work...it gets messy!

Could you not invite them all to the evening, but bump up your friend to a day guest if a *space* becomes available? If they have baby sitting problems they may not go anyway.

I avoided this problem by getting married over 200 miles from work and not inviting any of them! ?

If you know her BF well, could you invite him with her as his +1 and then it doesn't really count as inviting someone from work...?

SK - thanks but unfortunately that doesn't work as we're getting married in Cardiff so evening only invite not really an option for any non-wales peeps!

Mel - also no as I met him through her

aghhhhh am sure it'll sort itself out. I kind of think that if people are going to be that offended they should know better. Its obv the 2 of us are close.....but shes just been made a director too, so maybe it will be awkward. grrr

I do llike to get my own way

If the two of you are that close I think you'll be fine given the distance. You can also make it sound more like 'oh buggar, Auntie Jean has had to drop out so I have a space to fill' rather than 'I like her more than the rest of you'. Obviously give your friend the heads up before though.

Failing that, honesty is the best policy!

This had slipped my mind - you have the same excuse I had for not inviting people from work. Even the people I'm really close to and socialise with outside work didn't get an invitation. They came to one night of the hen, but not the full weekend and not the wedding.

SK - that could be a good one..... *sort of doing favour* hmmmmmm

Hmm it's a difficult one! My OH and I both work at the same place and are having similar issues! Especially as they guy that used to do my job invited my boss to his wedding earlier this year, so he has now kind of set a president! Also i have chosen a really good friend of from work as a Bridesmaid! Depending on the venue and date (ha ha still not booked! that's another post!) we are thinking of having 3 people each from work and partners and then if we have room invited the rest to the evening do (although that shouldn't be too much cost if we end up haveing the favourite venue of the moment). I guess you have already booked the date and venue as you have sent out invites, but otherwise i woul dhave suggested having a midweek wedding so they can't (in theory)n shut the office! That's what we are doing anyway!

Definately think the Evening do invite is the way to go (if you are having one) it is a good compromise, or invite them but say no partners (I read in one of the magazines that this was possible with people from work as then they will see it as a night out instead) this also means that the partners can stay at home and look after kids! I'm not sure if this would work at my work, but it might work at yours?

I work with 8 people in my office so have invited them but not their partners to the evening. The building itself is big so I have invited a few others and one girl is coming with her friend during the day.

I was worried about offending people at the start and then thought stuff it it's my wedding I can invite who I want and if people are upset with it then they can deal with it!

SG just invite her and explain if she feels uncomfortable and doesn't want to come then that is fine. Personally if she chooses not to come then I'm be upset by that but at least you have asked. It is a nightmare but you can't go asking people just for the sake of not offending someone and likewise you shouldn't not invite people for worry over that reaction amongst the others.

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Thanks all, am going to see how many more dropouts I get (sending invites next week) and then make a decision at the beginning of May

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I'm only inviing who I am closest to in work, I don't really care if anyone gets annoyed, plus only a people can be off at the same time, 1 full time and 1 part time so that's what I'm inviting...I am the full time and my friend is part time plus her husband who I know and her sister with her husband as she only works 2 days a week and doesn't work on a Friday anyway ?

As it's always said on here, it's your wedding, invite who you want.

I'm also in a pretty small team, there's 9 of us in total, but we're actually all quite close. I have recently been umming and ahhing about whether we can squeeze some or all of them into the day, but have had to just be realistic and so I have (for the moment) decided to just invite them all to the evening. That way the ones with partners (which is 3 of them) can bring their other halves along too. I would love to have them all there for the whole thing, but our guest list is so packed as it is already that I am having to restrict it to just family and very very close friends. I also think that at the end of the day, they would probably rather just come for the evening party anyway so it would mainly be for me that I would be inviting them!

With your situation, if it's only the other people in the office that's making you hesitate to invite this 1 girl, I would say that if you feel you would like her there on the day, just go for it and invite her and her other half. Especially as you get on well with them both, plus you have space on your guest list. You don't even have to mention it to the others, but if you feel like you do you can always put it down to space on the guest list, as someone else said.

Think I've waffled on a bit there but hope you get what I mean! ?