Irrationally nervous!!

Focus on your groom!

Don't look at the aisle people and look straight ahead just at him

That will also look romantic and you can check out the aisle peeps once the ceremony bit is over and you can relax with him by your arm!

If you want something natural, take some Rescue Remedy which might calm you down a bit.

Good luck for the day, might it be better than you ever dreamt of! x

Deep breaths and look at Mr Fletcher! Everyone is there to support them and see you getting married, you couldn't embarrass yourself if you tried. Have an absolutely lovely day

I love weddings but thats the one thing that has always terrified me too... when I stand up to talk in front of people I giggle terribly (to the point where I cant breath and fall over ☹️)

I was really nervous in the run up even though I am a teacher and used to addressing groups of people - people were surprised when I said I was nervous but I really was. On the day I managed by just thinking about the next thing I had to do, so calmly getting my make up done, then my hair, then into my dress etc - eventually my sister and BM (who knew my coping strategy) pointed out that the next thing to do was the actual ceremony but by then I was really calm and just looking forward to it. I'm sure you will be the same - remember everyone there is rooting for you, they are the people you love so you don't have to worry about being embarrassed in front of them! Good luck and have a great day ?

I'm the same. I get married a week on Saturday, the 9th. I'm terrified. I'm afraid I can't really offer any advice, I just wanted you to know you're not alone. xx

Oh, and the blubbing I get too. I burned our wedding music onto disc last night, and decided to play it in the car on the way to work. I had to stop for 5 minutes to compose myself!! I'm hoping a nice bottle of Asti on the day (I don't like champers) will settle my nerves lol. x

Like Forever Wedding Dance I am also a teacher. I work in a large secondary school and have often given speeches at awards evenings, stood up in assemblies etc. NOTHING compares to how nervous I feel when I think about my wedding day, so I completely empathise. My advice would be to cling on tightly to those who are best at calming you down, ironically for me this is the groom but next best thing is Dad. I also think the advice from another reply to focus on your groom is a good way to go.

I'm sure you will be fine on the day and even if you do cry or come across as nervous, this will only make you even more endearing to your guests who will be rooting for you. Good luck and have a wonderful day x

Thank you all so so so very much for your messages!

I have considered herbal remedies and alcohol is looking essential on the morning of the big day haha. And I ADORE champers but may have to bucks fizz it up a bit as doubt Mr Fletcher wants a drunken bride staggering down the aisle...

Any more helpful advice will be welcomed!!

-x-

This sounds like a really good thing to do. Just taking small steps rather then thinking of it as a whole. I cant say that i am nervous now but as the time has ticked along i have noticed i have become more nervous. Sometimes i listen to the bridal entrance music as i walk to the station and in my head i think right ... flowergirls walk .... mum walk .... bridesmaids walk ... then i get to my bit and my stomach just flips! Thats just walking to the station ha.

I too cry at everything - the amount of times when meeting with my photographer i had to pretend to look at my list to gather my emotions. Also the other day my mum asked if i wanted banners at my hen do at her house, that was it, i lost it. Sobbed over banners!?!?!

Good luck, have a lovely day and just keep telling yourself all will be ok its all your loved ones.

I found a large glass of prosecco helped ?

I think the advice to take it in small chunks is really good. So first walk down the aisle, then say the vows etc then before you know it that part will be over. Remember everyone is there to support you.

I will be opting for a swift shot of something strong before I go down - if I drank the whole morning I'm am sure I'd have to stop half way down to vom (nerves and alcohol don't mix well with me).

Just focus on your H2B, imagine you are there with him and him only and your saying your vows in a quiet room together. Easier said than done but worth a try.

x

I feel the same as you do.

Just remember that although people will be looking at you they're all people you like/love/are close enough to to invite them to one of the most important days of your life.

Take it easy, focus on your OH and try to ignore everyone else (apart from the registrar!).

I'm sure you'll be ok. When the day comes you will be too busy thinking of other things to be nervous... Well I hope so as I'll be a quivering wreck otherwise!

A good Scotch whiskey should sort you out haha!
I feel a bit nervous when I think about it too, but i'm sure it'll all be fine on the day.
You'll be more excited and happy to be marrying your OH than worrying about everyone else
You'll look your absolute best so no better time than all eyes to be on you really!

Hey sweet,

i suffer from spouts of anxiety so I know how you feel.

I have 5 main things for you to do : ( hope they help )

1. Breathe ( sounds stupid - but - the more oxygen you get to your brain the less anxious you will be. Deep breaths )

2. St Johns Wort - tablets - herbal remedy , take a few days to work and can affect contraceptive tablet so be careful if you don't want to become pregnant.

3. Calms ( another herbal remedy and you can take them with St. John's )

4. Rescue remedy ( I use the dropper that you drop under your tongue- again herbal and can be taken with the above )

5. Breaking that anxious cycle - part of anxiety is a circuit of irrational thoughts - sounds silly , however if you find yourself drifting into this circle shout STOP or NO in your head as loud as you can and then think of something completely different like what you want to drink etc

I hope this works and offers you some comfort. You will be absolutely fine . Just remember anxiety / panic won't kill you xxxx