Irritated

No I can see where you are coming from I don't like being dictated to either!

No not at all. If I was you I would sit him with people he doesn't know. Haha. I know spiteful and why make other people suffer when people in his family like him. I would be mad.

What a Wally?!?!?

Might he have Asperger's?

Your not being touchy. He sounds so rude! My blood would boil over that one!

I'd sit him on a table on his own with that attitude!

I suppose you could look on the bright side that at least he has RSVP'd????

Sit him at a table with people with the same mentality....the kids table! (Although an insult to the kids!!) x

Yes.

To the 'am I being touchy' part. Not the bridezilla part.

People are weird. All of us. Some are more quirky than others, so just let him get on with it. You don't have to sit next to him, so why care? Put him with his relatives as he requested, and he'll pipe down and be happy.

I'd say you are being a bit touchy because I suspect you would have put him with his relatives / people he knows anyway, because you know he's a pain. It's just that he's been odd enough to demand it on the RSVP that has put your heckles up. Just forget about it.

I don't think you're being touchy. It's stressful enough to organise a wedding.

It's very rude of him. I know how I would feel because I hate to be dictated to as well, just try and ignore and carry on doing what ever you were going to do.

Obviously I don't know what this person is like to know, but as someone has already mentioned, there could be aspergers or autistic tendancies in there somewhere. People of that age (I'm one of them) often had stuff like that ignored when they were at school/in their teens and so their social skills were just taken as awkward or non-existant (or, of course rude). Nowadays, the awareness in youngsters is much greater and these issues are likely to be picked up and worked with at a much earlier age.

That said, he could just be being rude!

However, whichever way it is, this sort of thing will only bother you if you let it. My sister and mum came close to pushing a reaction from me the other day over hotel rooms at the venue. My response was simply that I refused to do stress over this wedding....its a time of fun and celebration, not stress....if they want to do stress, they can do stress between themselves.

So, deep breathe, smile and think of all the other stuff that is going well. And if there's a chance he's got a bit of aspergers about him, then give him the benefit of the doubt, and cut him some slack on the basis that he's not just being a PITA.

That's what came into my mind as well. I too have mild Aspergers and struggle in social situations with people I don't know - but mine is mild enough that I understand putting that on a wedding RSVP would be weird and kind of rude. Maybe this guy doesn't get that.

It is a kind of weird thing to write on your RSVP... But it sounds as though he's maybe not great in social situations. He might well be aware of that himself and is worried that you'll sit him next to strangers which will make him feel uncomfortable and he wouldn't be able to relax and enjoy your wedding. Maybe you should let him know he'll be with people he knows so he won't get anxious beforehand and he might arrive relaxed and be happy to meet some new people too.

exactly what I was thinking. He might have social skill difficulties and needs some understanding here. My son has AS and it can be very difficult for him in social situations but he tries really hard and the family all understand and work with it. You'd accommodate someone in a wheelchair so why not someone with an invisible difficulty?

I thought aspergers too... its impossible to tell without meeting him but as someone who use to work in mental health care what you listed can be typical character traits