Is anyone NOT having favours?

We went to one where they had no favours, just an individual white rose for each person with a name tag tied to it (as place cards)

I am considering not having them, unless I can find something reasonably priced, functional and useful to both genders. That's quite a tall ask in the wedding world but I have seen some great ideas on here (trolley key rings, stubby holders to name but a few).

I have also heard tale time and time again of them just being left on the tables once the day is over, so unless you have something in mind that you specifically want to give people (charity donations/pins, cookies etc.), then in your case I wouldn't bother. IMO they are a 'nice to have' and if you'd rather spend the money elsewhere then do it.

US! for a few reasons really:
. Budget - needed to cut down and would rather have 2 extra people than favours for everyone
. Why should we - we are paying for all the guests to have a 3 course meal, evening food and alcohol...please tell me why we should buy them a gift as well??
. Experience - i have worked on and been to several weddings ... all of which have had favours and all of which at least 50% have been left behind!

I think some favours can look really cute expecially when they are part of the name place but they are a unnecessary expense that to be honest nobody will miss if they aren't there...i would never sit at a table and think 'hey where the heck is my gift?!?!!?'

The only favours that I believe (up to now unless anybody can prove me wrong with something unusual!) are for a good reason and that i can see why people have done them is the little charity pins...i think that they are a great way of remembering a loved one that has been helped by a certain charity or just generally supporting a worthy cause...i'd much rather see someone spend £200 donating to charity than £200 on tiny personalised chocolates that some guests will munch there and then when they are drunk, some will take home and half of them will just be left on the table...

Have them if you have the money to spend but personally i would prefer to either spend the cash elsewhere or save myself a few hundred!

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I've been back and forth with this one for all of the above reasons, waste of money. Right now I think I may just go cheap and cheerful with organza bags filled with imperial mints, will hardly cost a thing and it will add a bit more colour to the tables!

Ive been back and forward on this too as it does seem costly. Instead I've bought some boxes from eBay at 99p for 10 - need 60 in total and bought some haribo from Makro for about £15 for 5kg of sweets so I'm all in for £21 - just need to make them now

Looking back at the 'favours' from other wedding I really don't think much of them. My brother had chincy little frames for everyone to put one of their photobooth photos in, and one of my cousins just had little boxes of smarties at the table, which everyone ate at the table! And as for all the other weddings I've been to I cannot remember for the life of me if they even HAD favours- and you know what? I don't mind or care.

So we're letting our pick-n-mix sweets bar be our favour. Guests can fill a baggie and take it home it they want- or that can eat it there

We're not mainl,y because we're not having a receptiong as such but even if we were having a larger wedding I do think is a waste of money. To me the cake was the favour that people whent home with. This seem not to be the case anymore ?

We won't be having favours though I will probably put some sort of a goody bag together for the children coming just to keep them entertained. I'm thinking we'll probably have a sweetie table so that will count as favours really

We're not!

We didn't want anything foody and the only thing we liked were £5 each and with 110 people coming to the day do, we'd rather put the money towards our honeymoon.

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We're not bothering. We decided that we wanted to make sure we provided plenty of wine and food instead. I remember a wedding if the food and drink has been good and plentiful, rather than for the favours.

We didn't bother with favours - no one minded (at least I've never heard any complaints from any guests that they didn't get anything)

Not as such by itself but our placecards are doubling up as favours - they are wooden hearts painted with the names on so a nice little something to take away.

Don't see the point of elaborate expensive favours!!

Oh we might do some choccies as well because our table names are types of chocolates so we might do a miniture bag of whatever the table name is for each person which will cost a few pence!

For pure tack factor I'm having these on the tables...

https://the3dmarket.com/products/copy-of-hearts-happy-eyes

We didn't have them, and they weren't missed (well if they were it must have been someone with far too much time on their hands to worry that a favour wasn't on their place setting and therefore their opinions don't count rah rah rah!)

Completely off topic but the corsages arrived and they're lovely! Very nice card too - thanks!

As you were, thread.

IMO the best favours are those which can be eaten or drunk, that way most people will use it there and then and you'll not feel you've wasted cash on them.

They do help with table decorating, I like the idea that the favour works as the name placing as well as this helps keep costings down.

I do like favours myself and have never attended a wedding and not received one but with that said I wouldn't think anything of it if I didn't get one tbh, as always, its down to the individual, so do what you think is best.

Regards

L x

haha love these!

We're not doing favours, we simply can not afford them. Besides which we're providing two meals, entertainment and they all get to have a weekend away with friends and family.

Now I feel happy to leave the favours out, Thank you

WSS! Totally agree. We've got a teeny budget and I really don't see the point of wedding favours, so we're not doing them. In my opinion, there are quite a few "traditional" wedding things, like favours, that are totally unnecessary and that no one will miss. So, in this day and age of belt tightening, they're the first to go!

Oh goody!! The card was the outer bit from our wedding invites (we have so many left over!)

Happy corsaging! x

I agree with you all about them being pretty pointless and a waste of money.

I have been having second thoughs about mine though as we're getting married abroad and I do think that we should give our guests a thank you for coming as it's costing them a lot of time, effort and money to come to our wedding.

We're not ...I think that they are an unnecessary expense that people won't even notice. Having worked in hotels for several years throwing so many away after the wedding (after eating the chocolates!) or as someone else has said, seeing people eat them before their meals, I really don't see the point. My MIL spent a fortune of favours for her wedding and I don't even know what happened to mine. If we have any spare cash our friends would much prefer some extra bottles of wine.

We are having favours but for similar reasons as JennyH10 - we are getting married abroad and would like to give gifts as a thank you. I have order silver flip flop key-rings for the ladies with an engraving small hip flasks for the men. Only about 20 guests and as ordered from china work out about £1 a head!

I kinda agree with most of this thread but there can be an element of fun in it too. We are hiring our village hall so had to supply our own glassware anyway so we bought champagne flutes from Ikea and glass painted them with everyones' names and a ribbon etc. They've worked out at £1 a head. Folks might not take them home or they might drop them but it'll be a talking point during the champagne reception I'm hoping! As for pointless sugared almonds...er no thanks.

Same. We are getting married abroad wifh only a handful of guests and as a thank you for coming half way around the world we are giving the ladies a bracelet each and the men cuff links. They are from etsy, so not quite as extravagant as it sounds!

If we were getting married at home we prob wouldn't bother, tbh.

Glad you started this thread, i was wondering too, i thought about favours doubling as name places, but the venue provides the name places, so im not going to bother. I might put some sweet bags out for the couple of youngsters we have attending. I was thinking about attempting to make a couple of sweet trees for people to help themselves to instead of favours, but its expense so might leave them out! thats if i dont eat all the sweets myself!

We had made the decision to not have any, then I was speaking to someone who got married last year, and she asked what favours we are having and when I said 'I don't think we are going to bother', she was shocked and replied 'OMG! u have to have favours!' which has made me ask this question.

You don't 'have to have' anything! That kind of attitude really annoys me.

End of mini rant ?

It annoys me 2, but it did make me think, its the 'done thing' and people will be excpecting them, but I am not wasting my money for people to leave them behind, Im glad I started this thread, its helps me make up my mind.

We are having mini Green & Blacks chocolate bars tied in gold ribbon, they will add a bit more color to our neutral tables as well as giving the guests some nice chocolate to nibble on.

I do agree that they are not a necessity though and nobody expects them.

Nope we're not having them - waste of time, money & effort! of all the wedding ive attended as a guest i couldnt even tell you what if any their favours were so don't see the point