Is he yours?

From what you've said I think B is most likely. I would never ask this question though for fear of offending.

I get it from the other side. I regurarly holiday with my friends and quite often take their wee ones out for a walk or to the playpark. I've lost count of the amount of people who have commented on how cute they are. "Yes, they are aren't they, thanks" Is my usual response ?

I agree with maxi - probably B.

It's a bit rude though - Almost the same as - was it planned?

I wouldn't say it's a normal thing to say but it's probably just one of those 'speak first, think later' comments, probably comes from C being fair and you not. But then again, that's not entirely unusual - I know quite a few people over here whose kids are noticeably fairer/darker than one parent.

It's in the same vein as asking if a baby was 'planned' or if twins are 'natural', I guess.

How are you getting on anyway? Have the renovations progressed/condo sold etc?

Oops - I meant to post this on BT... that's what sleep deprivation does to you.

Well that's good, I am not being totally unreasonable being just a tiny bit offended.

House renovations going OK but costing far too much. Condo still not sold... ah well....

How's you?

Things are mostly going well here, we've hit some BT related glitches, but are working round that. H is working lots, traveling lots etc but is nicely settled into his job and got promoted recently as well. We're off to the White Mountains tomorrow for a few days for a work related thing and I'm just hoping the weather picks up!

It's a shame your condo hasn't sold yet, are you still getting viewings or has that dried up as well? We're just starting to talk about buying a place over here, but that probably a while off yet!

Oh, it must be (c). ?

I think it's a common thing to ask here as we get so little maternity leave, that it's very often a nanny looking after teeny babies.

How odd

people are very random

? BG

I wouldn't have been as restrained as you I'm afraid! I would have said that I'd stolen him and made slippers out of his Mum!

Then again, in my case it would have been because I would look far too old to have kids, so people would assume s/he was a grandchild ?

How do you feel about it? From what you've said about C being very fair and you less so, I'd imagine it to be an incorrect assumption due to that. ?

How is he other than being dead cute?! Is he a good baby? My friend and her 'C' have just left (along with her husband and daughter). He's going through the terrible 2s right now. Dead cute but deathly scream on him!

I'm afraid it's probably B. My friend Z's husband is African American so her children are quite dark in coloring, she is constantly asked by blunt, rude American people if they are her children.

I think people over here think:

light child, dark adult = adult is nanny

dark child, light adult = adopted children

It's amazing how small minded people can be.

If I were you, I'd imagine they are asking because you look so good that no way could you have given birth a mere handful of weeks ago?

Thanks all. I think its most likely people being small-minded and assuming that I am the nanny because my skin is darker than his. I have no idea how he ended up with such fair skin and red/blonde hair though... I keep joking with H that I don't know who the father is as there is no red hair on either his side or mine! Peaches: He's very cute when he is sleeping, but that is not much of the time. He's a total porker - weighed in at 11lbs 9oz at his 1-month checkup. Right now I feel my life is just one long cycle of eat, burp, poop, change diaper, then it is time to start all over again. It doesn't help that I am still trying to keep my own business ticking over, and this week H has left me home alone while he has gone to China for a week! Of course he has picked this week to have that 6 week growth spurt and is constantly hanging off my boob and whining!

Surely people are just asking because it'd be rude to just assume the baby was yours when you could be out and about with a friend's or a family member's baby too as well as perhaps being a nanny? I wouldn't have thought it'd be rude, but i haven't been on your side of the fence yet!

I think it's B. I have a friend who is 1/2 Jamaican and her husband is as pale as milk, and so is their child.

When I am out with them , people assume that the child is mine, as she is similarly pale, and Emma is the nanny, because she is darker than her daughter and me.

I say it is probably B. I have dark brown hair, dark brown eyes and olive skin, and somehow produced a blue-eyed , blonde son who looks nothing like me at all and appears to be a clone of his father.

We were at Legoland a few weeks ago and someone assumed I was his step mother!

Firstly, congratulations, I had no idea you were expecting (makes note to take more notice in future ? )

I always say a baby is "cute", I think it's one of those standard things you say when coming across a baby, obviously yours in really cute though I'm not saying otherwise ? So I wouldn't take that as a reflection on you being a minger! I'd say it's most likely that B.

Are these people you know/who would know you to see? My first thought was maybe they hadn't realised you had been pregnant. Other than that I'd definitely think b.