Is Hitched cliquey?

Boring call huh? I'm in a boring lesson!

In response to the question - I'll post in reply to anyone if I think I have something useful to say and to be honest, no posters wind me up especially.

I'm usually more reluctant to post to emotional posts as I'm not too good with expressing sympathy in words and don't want to risk offending anyone.

Oooooooooo this is a goodun!!

I must admit when i first joined i felt it was quite clichy.......but not so much now, maybe cos ive got to 'know' people here! i tend to reply if i have something nice to say lol

but more and mroe find myself replying to regualr posters, as theres then mroe banter and u can joke about a bit more!? IYKWIM!?

Have to agree with Trickers. I do love a good 'meaty' thread, and if I see one with potiential, I HAVE to have a look. I do sometimes look for posts by those I 'know' too.

I don't find it so cliquey now as it used to be.

I reply to anyone to be honest. If it is a thread I can give advice on, I post pics to help th Bride visualise what it will look like rather than trying to describe something.

I do reply to non wedding threads too.

I just read that as "two peonies" - I thought it was a bit fluffy! Must calm dwama threads by spreading flowers!

I am not fussy. I'll reply to anyone really.

I'll reply if i think i can either help in anyway or have an opinion on the OP. I wouldn't say i only reply to the people i "know"

I tend to avoid controversial threads as it's best to keep neutral when you're in business LOL! It used to be VERY cliquey a few years ago but not so much now. I like to think I give everybody equal time with the time I have when I'm lurking whilst working, rather than just answer florists questions.

I'm not fussed either - if I feel I can help I'll post.

But I dont tend to even open the threads that have been done a millions times before unless I have a lot of time on my hands. ?

Yes I reply to anyone if i think i can help or just want to stick me beak in ?

I'll reply to any thread where I think I can help or where my opinion might be relevant.

I don't think it's too cliquey here - you just get to know the people who post regularly

I am so nosey i think i look at any threads regardless of who started it.... whether i reply or not depends on my mood mostly

I will reply to anyone really....and nobody winds me up....(not that much ?)

as for the meaty, heated rows- I will confess I love reading those threads!!

Hi CB

when I first joined I "thought" it was quite cliquey.. when you are a newbie and you dont get much feedback or replies.. I felt it was quite that way!

But to be honest, I think its just that when you are on here a long time etc you get to know posters and when you first join those older members have been on here for awhile and just know each other better.

Once you have been here for awhile it doesnt appear to be cliquey but probably newbies think there is a cliquey group..! :o)

But I reply on posts I feel I can comment on.

I do stay away from the heated ones to be honest unless I have a valid opinion

I reply to any post that I feel I can help with. Due to not being a bride anymore I do find myself losing track with peoples plans which I miss out on but I just don't have the time now to be reading all the posts unlike I used to.

I don't think it's cliquey but it's only natural when people feel they know each other that they have more in common or want to chat more to them.

I had assumed it would be really cliquey when I first joined, but I was surprised to see that it really isn't. I suppose it has to be a very dynamic forum because there will always be newly engaged people popping in and joining up. It just wouldn't work if it was all closed friendship groups.

I'm on another (non-wedding) forum that is very often accused of being very cliquey, which it's not at all. It's just that a core group of us have been posting there for several years and have become good - and in some cases real life! - friends with the people on there. There's a lot of history, which gets mistaken for cliquey-ness.

I must admit when I first joined I did feel a bit out of it all. But I think its like being the new person in any bunch of friends...you dont always feel included untill you get to know everyone a bit and feel them out. All the abreviations where a nightmare too...it was like you were all talking in your own weird language!

That thread with them all listed realy helped lol

I Dont think its cliquey but i def have my favourite hitchers and those that im frineds with oin fb that i will make a effort to reply to.

There are certain people that get on my t!ts that i ignore and i LOVE a good meaty thread!

Hmmm, interesting.

*strokes chin*

Ha ha - I still have trouble and I've been on here 7 years LOL! I find myself referring to the bible too!

I don't think it's cliquey, no. I go on a lot of music forums and some of them are terrible, you're considered a newbie until you have 500+ posts and can be made to feel really awful if you post anything.

I generally only reply if I think I've got something constructive or helpful to say, which isn't very often haha!

I think it's quite difficult as a HiB sometimes too, is that just me?

I'll reply if I trhink I can help, although have paranoia about being a thread killer so often don't respond at the moment. I don't think it's as cleeky as when I first joined, but I think it can be a bit cyclical. So you join at thhe same time as a bunch of people they will be the ones you relate best to. Odds on your weddings will be in the same 6 moth to a year span you wll look for their reports etc etc. When A new influx arrives they will again be puled to threads that are similar to thir own issues and a new cycle etc forms, it's not cleeky so much as similar things to discuss.

I don't find it cliquey on here - I think the fact we all joined for the same reason helps.

I go through phases with my posting, somtimes I have loads of time to post and reply to nearly everything where as other times I've been busy and have only time to read posts.

I like the threads that get quite heated - if I'm not posting in them you can guarantee I'll be reading them. ?

No one on here annoys me or pees me off but there are a few that amuse me. ?

This is what i was thinking but couldn't think how to word it!

I dont think it is too cliquey, I go on other wedding forums and find them more cliquey, and on the other hand I find Hitched can be a bit more honest which I think is a good thing, if someone asks for an honest opinion I think it is right that they get one !!!

I reply to any thread that I think I have a useful response for, and would hope that others do the same for me, but I do tend to read but not reply to emotional topics as I think it is hard to give advice to them as what I would do is not always what anyone else would or should do !

And I love reading the heated debate topics and do reply if I feel I have something to contribute to the 'discussion'

I'm a newcomer - within the past month - and have not found this forum to be at all cliquey.... People are very welcoming, as we're all in the same situation.

I agree about music forums getting cliquey - political ones are even worse!

This is the only forum I use on a regular basis at present.

Nah, wouldn't say clickey. I also tend not to post on personal threads but def enjoy the slightly heated ones. I really like the fact that there are lots of honest opinions out there.

It's not "too bad" although I think certain posters are quite cliquey. The phenomenon drifter suggested certainly exists, and naturally so - around being more interested in people getting married the same time as you, but there are also some people who worship certain people and will agree with everything they say/jump in their threads.

It's interesting, because I always try to respond how I feel regardless of whether I "know" the poster, but in some cases you know certain people's reactions will be different dependent on who is posting. I think this happens in all forums though, and indeed in life - people try to associate themselves with those that seem "popular" or whatever.

BSB - that's an interesting point. I certainly wouldn't change my opinion or agree with someone just because I liked them. Similarly, I'd expect honesty from those who post on my threads. I don't see the point otherwise.

Besides, that's what the 'Cricket bride fan club' * is for, surely?

*membership now open, folks!

Unless we disagree on something fundamental, I try to keep debates and friendships separate. Disagreeing with someone's POV in one thread wouldn't stop me being chatty and friendly on another one, iykwim.

Unless of course the disagreement was because they said they liked to kick puppies and the chatty thread was then about how lovely puppies are. You get the idea!

I like to offer advice where possible & have a natter where possible too! One thing I don't want to do though is come across like I'm touting for business...

I dont think its clickey people certainly have there favourites but there's nothing wrong with that, If I've got something to say that is helpful Ill say it.

Just out of interest CB, do you think it is?? Or are you just asking out curiousity>