Is it impolite/cras

The only people who know the full cost of our wedding is me, H2B and my mum. Some of my friends have asked and speculated but its none of their business!

A few people have asked me as we're living at my folks to save and they ask how much we've saved / how much of that is gonna get wiped out on the wedding!

If I feel comfortable with them I tell, if not I just joke and say "enough"!

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I think it's really rude for people to ask and I would never go about telling people how much or how little we'd spent. I would just politely reply saying I don't like to discuss money.

The only exception would be if a friend was specifically looking for a recommendation for a photographer/stationary then I would privately discuss it with them.

Someone once asked me how much my engagement ring cost!

A surprising number of people have asked how much ours is or what we expect it'll all cost us. I just say we will spend what we can afford. One girl at work actually pushed for a figure then said "having looked online at your venue, I think you'll be lucky to spend under £xx" !! I didn't know what to say. The only people who will know the exact figure are my parents & us.

Impolite yes but how much it bothers me depends on whos asking and the context.

A friend is getting married a few months before me and we've helped each other a bit and recently had a bit of a 'I'll tell you how much mine is if you tell me yours' moment, just purely for comparision of what we were each getting for our money and where we'd prioritised etc. She was adamant that we were spending more than they are but was suprised at just how close our figures were.

I don't think it should matter how much or little a wedding costs as long the couple are happy! Its definitely rude to ask someone who much they've spent, its none of their business! The only peeps who know how much we're spending is me...and the H2B!

I don't even know what I'd say to someone if they asked me how much we've spent ?

We've been asked a few times, and we don't really get offended by people asking. Usually just don't answer the question, but did tell a friend the cost of a few bits as she is planning a wedding for next year and was trying to get an idea of costs.

H2B gets really offended when asked how much my engagement ring was.

Like most of you, only H2B and my parents know how much it's costing.

I think its really rude to ask someone how much they have/are spending. I dont think money really matters anyway in some cases. I have been to a wedding where silly money was spent (the bride told anyone who would listen how much they had spent) and to be honest it lacked something. There was nothing personal about it, they had just thrown money at it.

H2B and I arent spending much on our wedding simply because we have a home to run and 3 children (and a dog! lol) to feed! That being said it doesnt mean that our wedding wont be beautiful, it will just be very small and personal and in our eyes it will be the best wedding in the world... because its ours ?

You can't put a price tag on love ❤️

I must admit, I have asked friends how much their wedding cost.

A lot of friends have offered advice and wanted to talk about my wedding plans and when I've asked, they've been more than happy to tell me. They've ranged from 16k to less than 3k and I'm pleased they did tell me because it's giving me more of an idea of the things I can have with the money we've allocated to our wedding. I never really second-guessed the whole 'do i ask' question, because I genuinely havent got a clue about costs and such. But then, I'm literally in my first few weeks of planning. Those I have asked, haven't told me it was rude xx

It's bluddy rude imo. I've had those sorts of questions from one friend of mine and it really p!ssed me off.

It is very rude for people to ask IMHO.

A friend has asked what my budget is and was met with a wry smile. I didn't have to say anything, she knew that meant I wasn't going to tell her.

Exactly this! Tell them that next time somebody asks you.

To be honest, it doesn't bother me. If someone asks, I tell them. Having said that, I don't think anyone's actually asked me besides my family!

I didn't even know there were people who would ask outright!

I've been fairly open about how much we're spending with my MOH, who is also planning her own wedding at the moment and it's been good to share stuff like that. My parents have an idea, and I mentioned it to mil this weekend and she almost fainted from shock (even though as weddings go ours is fairly low budget!). Other than that, no one has asked and I wouldn't expect anyone to! Other than people needing an idea of costs if they are planning a wedding themselves, wanting to know is just plain nosy!!

I think it's rude to ask generally however often people will say on here - it's a good place to compare what you get for your money, set a budget etc. Whether or not you want to share those details is entirely up to you!

I have only been asked once and that was a work colleague who was talking about her friends' wedding, as she had just had a text saying the bride was paying for her BM shoes and accessories. I asked how the bride could afford those extras, and she said her father was paying and it was coming to over 30k! She asked me but I honestly couldn't tell her... all I could estimate was it is somewhere between 18 and 23k, but as I have deleted stuff off my budget as and when its paid off and catering costs haven't bee fully worked out, I have no clue what the full total will be! I don't care if people ask, I will answer any question about anything and money is no different.

To be honest, I would find it really rude and impolite to ask how much a weddng is costing. Unless they are paying for something towards it then it's nothing to do with them. What's important is not how much you spend but how much you enjoy the day. When I got married, we managed to keep to a low budget and still have a brilliant day.

No one has ever asked me this. My mum asked if it was an expensive wedding, and I told her that our venue was very pricey, but that I'm saving on basically everything else and it should end up being about the average budget. I haven't told her the exact number for anything (except the real bargains)!

If anyone has the right or privilege to ask that question, it would be her, so I would say go ahead and talk to your immediate family about these things, or your closest girl friends, but other people out there shouldn't be asking this! It's rude, imho.

No one has ever asked, and to be honest as I am still planning I have no idea of the final cost yet. We are trying to keep it as low as possible, but keeping to what we want. I think I would just say 50K just to shut them up !

Loads of people have asked me! Luckily I don't mind in fact I often bring it up myself either to share a bargain or shock people by how expensive some stuff is!

I would answer only if it was helping somebody with their own wedding planning, I have responded to a few things on here regarding costs for example none of my friends have asked anything about the money side of things and the only time i mention money related thing to them is when I am happy because I have bagged a bargain.

No one has asked me this unless it was one or two mates who are also getting married and its good to be able to get ideas and compare with each other.

But people who are just being nosy should keep their nose out! its none of their business. Its upto the couples who want to spend what they want.

This.

I've found that generally people are more likely to ask about the cost of an individual element of the wedding rather than the overall cost though. I usually dodge the question and answer with a joke or say I don't recall. But then I don't like talking about money generally, so I do this even with non-wedding related stuff!

Hmm just realise the OP asked this question about 2 months ago!

Think it was bumped by a spammer BV.

One of my managers asked me how much my wedding was the other day, I laughed it off changed the subject and she asked me again. Soooo me being me got peed off and said the first number that came to my brain £22k (its no where near that much)

Now she keeps trying to get me to buy stuff from fortnum and mason - Cant win she is so nosey and no matter how many times In tell her to let up she wont.

I think it is wrong and rude for people to ask how much a wedding is costinbg. I haven't told anyone, and that's not because I am embarrassed, but because it shouldn't matter what it costs and it is none of anyone else's business.

Having said that, I have, during a bridezilla rant, blurted out the "per head" cost but that's it. I guess if you have a friend who's planning a wedding also, it's helpful for them to know a ball park figure etc but I certainly wouldn't be divulging this information to anyone else.

No-one has asked me outright . I've been open about cost of some things to a couple of brides on here or the 2013 facebook group, it doesn't bother me too much (just posted how much my reception is costing on the 'Am I being stuck up?' thread). But I don't think I'd sit there and reel it all off if someone asked me outright but I can't imagine any of my friends asking me like that tbh.

I think that really is up to you. I've not minded much about people knowing our budget so I've told people who have asked me directly, but I wouldn't offer it out without being asked, and most things I am not prepared to tell people how much each thing costs, as they do not need to know that. But its all down to what you want and how you feel, if you feel odd saying, just respond to the question with "too much" and laugh.

Its very rude for people to ask I'd say but I love telling people how much I spend as Im a bargin hunter! Got my dress today for 300 pound (2nd hand) and its still in a local bridal shop for 895 pounds!!!

I think its a rude question to ask personally. If anyone were to ask me i think i would make a joke and brush it off by saying i dread to think. We are trying to keep costs down too but everything soon adds up.

I think it's a bit weird, because on individual items people are happy to share and compare costs and bargains, but for some reason revealing the total seems taboo. We often ask on here if a reception venue's package is a good deal, or what we are getting for the money, for example. I don't really care if people know about our costs. Thing is, with us, everything *seems* relatively inexpensive: evening only reception at village hall, and marrying abroad alone. I have a relatively expensive dress but people seem to "allow" that given that our other obvious expenses are minimal. what bumps us up to more like the "average wedding cost" is the fact we're extending the overseas marriage to include an uber-luxury honeymoon. So even if you think someone's wedding is cheaper, it may not be. You also never know if someone's "wedding cost" incudes honeymoon or not. Some people include engagement ring in costs too. Without knowing what it includes, knowing someone's total cost is meaningless.