Is it just me......... (Pregnancy related)

No not petrified in the slightest, personally I would be over the moon if I got pregnant.

If you're using a reliable method of contraception, then...yeah. If one falls pregnant accidentally, there's always gonna be life plans that are affected and need to be changed as a result. Your wedding is no different. Don't worry about it.

You've got nothing to worry about if you're taking all the right precautions! ??

My baby making days are over now, we've got more than enough smalls between us!! Pregnancy has never crossed my mind while planning our wedding. I'd be shocked/scared if it did happen though, now you mention it! Not because of cost or dress or anything wedding related...its the thought of sleepless nights and sore nips all over again haha!

In all honesty - yes.

^^ This ^^

Unless you have had unexpected pregnancies previously when using contraception I can't really see why this is something to worry about. If it is stressing you out, use several methods of contraception to be safe.

I for one would be over the moon to fall pregnant before the wedding! We are due to start IVF after the wedding so in a bit of a different position.

Think some of you are totally mis- interpreting my original post. Obviously this is a subject that will touch a nerve for people in certain situations, and I made the content of my thread quite clear in the subject header which I believe is the thing to do when talking about potentially sensitive topics.

Thanks for all the helpful responses

I wouldn't say I feel petrified about it but I definitely had an irrational pregnancy panic moment yesterday just after we'd booked the honeymoon. We just paid the entire balance in one shot and I thought how awful it would be to be too pregnant to fly without being able to get a refund for the honeymoon, so much money would be wasted. I'm sure it would be a blessing If it did happen but I would rather it be a blessing that comes along after the wedding! haha.

Hi pink1986 , I am sure you are worrying about nothing, so long as you are using protection then you will be fine. You don't need to get a grip, obviously you have voiced how you are feeling on here and there is nothing wrong with that Xx

That is 100% what I mean. I myself may struggle to conceive naturally after health issues 10years ago but obviously won't know until we try so we'd be delighted, but we've scrimped and saved for a long time to pay for this wedding and we really have no spare cash as a contingency.
At least I know it's not just me, thank you

Thank you

I was thought about it but only the money side of things.

we couldnt afford a baby and a wedding But my wedding is still 17 months away

This is also a worry for me, I've always said I don't want children until I'm married. It's not that I wouldn't make the changes if it did happen, but it is something I have always been conscious of. I know that I'm taking the relevant precautions, but there is always that tiny possibility and it would just feel like such a huge change in the way I see my future!

Don't worry about it, that won't help at all!

Wow, I think a lot of people have totally misunderstood your original post. I feel the same as you. Me and other half can't wait for kids. I'm 32 next month and don't want to put it off any longer. But now that our wedding is 7 months away (and I'm panicking about EVERYTHING haha) this has also worried. I know that if it happened that I would be over the moon, but right now the cost of a new dress, cancelling honeymoon (I wouldn't fly long haul whist pregnant, it's bad enough as it is) and the possibility I'd be throwing up all day are all I can see. I keep reminding myself that it's extremely unlikely this would happen (I also remind myself this about every other panic I'm having at the moment). I also remind my self that if it did happen I wouldn't care less about any of the above and would be so happy. I think planning weddings just makes us a bit crazy haha x

It didn't even enter my head when we were planning.

Maybe you all need to abstain?

I know how you feel, I keep joking about it with OH. I have two already and planning more but it definitely won't be until after the wedding, newborns and pregnancy are too much damn hard work.

I will definitely NOT be abstaining for the next 9 months either so if it happened I would just have to suck it up!

I'm probably having a daffy moment but I don't get how your original post has been or could be misinterpreted.

In the nicest possible way yes you do need to get a grip - it seems like a lot of unnecessary worry.

YES!

Dont get me wrong, I adore my children. BUT both were unplanned. The pill failed twice (on the second attempt it was the one and only time we didn't use 'double protection'.

We are very much done at 2 and the thought of getting pregnant again fills me with fear. Lol

Nope sorry, don't get it. In this day and age, there is no need to worry about accidental pregnancy.

Well that's not true. No contraception is ever 100% effective.

Yes you need to get a grip- as well as add a 'BT' into the title of this post.

If you are that worried- stop having sex. There are plenty of hitchers that would jump at the chance of being pregnant, no matter what the timing.

Yes you need to get a grip- as well as add a 'BT' into the title of this post.

If you are that worried- stop having sex. There are plenty of hitchers that would jump at the chance of being pregnant, no matter what the timing.

Yes you need to get a grip- as well as add a 'BT' into the title of this post.

If you are that worried- stop having sex. There are plenty of hitchers that would jump at the chance of being pregnant, no matter what the timing.

Yes you need to get a grip- as well as add a 'BT' into the title of this post.

If you are that worried- stop having sex. There are plenty of hitchers that would jump at the chance of being pregnant, no matter what the timing.

Erm....not a clue how that happened. Trying to post from hitched from your phone is like trying to herd *** cats.

Never heard of abstinence then? Or doubling up your contraceptives?

Who misinterpreted the OP? I think I've missed something.

You asked for advice and whether (in your own words) you needed to get a grip & people gave their opinions.

Nobody misinterpreted your post. You asked if you need to get a grip, don't ask the question if you don't want the answer. If it really worries you that much, stop it. One of my closest friends got pregnant and she was very sick on honeymoon at the grand canyon, but being pregnant doesn't completely stop your life, just don't actively try and I'm sure you'll be fine

Who misinterpreted the OP? I think I've missed something.

You asked for advice and whether (in your own words) you needed to get a grip & people gave their opinions so I can't see anything wrong.

Unless there's naked dry humping, I think you're right bekkijane, abstinence might just be effective.

Of course, and therefore I accept that there will always be a chance of pregnancy. I'm fine with that, doesn't mean the timing would be great though. Oh and even doubling up still isn't 100% effective either.

Seriously can't believe how harsh people have been to the OP. 'Pregnancy related', clue is in the title no? Way more clear than BT which I actually had to search to find out what it meant.

I'm still lost. Not sure who has been harsh to the OP. I definitely don't think that advising to put 'BT' in the title is harsh, it's something that has been happening on Hitched for years for those who might be sensitive to the subject and BT is even more discreet.