AAAARRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!! ? ?
Sorry, just had to let the frustration out.
I'm getting a wee bit bemused at these threads asking "is it OK", or "am I allowed to" or "am I supposed to".
Of course it's OK or allowed, and you can if you want to, you don't have to if you don't want. The only thing you HAVE to do is have 2 people and 2 witnesses stand (or sit) in front of an approved person (vicar, registrar etc) and say some official words and sign a book.
OK, I can understand people asking whats traditional, and tradition plays a big part in weddings. But these days I think it's a case of anything goes. By all means if you're superstitious you might want to do some research. If you want to stick with tradition you can get ettiquette books easily enough, and the internet is a great place for information.
But you don't have to do everything by the book. If you want to break from tradition, or aren't superstitious then feel free to ignore your auntie who says it's 'bad luck' or your mum who says 'you're supposed to' or your friends who says 'do you really want to?'. Tell them they're being old-fashioned, or superstitious, and although you value their opinion you still disagree with them.
I've lost track of the number of times I've replied to posts with this message:
It's your wedding and you can have what you want!Rant over. And breathe...
