Is it to soon?

Hi There

Its not for anyone else to say whether you are too young/right age/been together long enough to get married, if it feels right for you both then its the right thing to do. Everyone moves at a different pace. Just enjoy the build up of planning the wedding and make sure you both enjoy the big day!!

Congratulations on setting your date! You must be sooooo excited to finally have a day to plan towards.

I don't think age is important; as you say, you've been together for longer than many couples who are already married. If it feels right for both of you, then that's all that is important.

Let us know how you get on with the planning; most people seem to be very friendly on here ?

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My cousin started dating her husband when she was 13 and he was 15. They got married 3 weeks after her 20th birthday. She is now 43 and they are still together. They have 2 children aged 16 and 12. It is one of the most solid marriages I know.

Only you and your OH know if it is right for you. The opinions of people who don't know you don't matter. The people who do know you are happy for you. Are you having doubts? - I'm not sure why you are asking.

Congratulation on setting the date, its so exciting to have something to work towards isnt it.

I dont think anyone can judge on age. My mum and dad started dating when they were 15, my dad got a tattoo with my mums name on age 16. They got married when they were 20 and have been married for 36 years now.

If you both feel like your ready to get married then thats fantastic, its menat to be. Age doesnt make a relationship more or less stable in my eyes.

I will be 26 when we get married, some have said this is too young but when is the "right" age?

Good luck with the planning!

Thank you x

You've been together the same number of years as me and my OH, we're older than you but have had loads of negative comments about getting married next year because we don't live together yet. I think as long as you're both happy and ready then it has nothing to do with anyone else.

Oh no I'm not having doubts I have never been this happy in my life. I guess I'm asking because my OH grandparents are old fashioned and I know they will most likely look down on the marriage. X

Hi YB101, like everyone else has advised, no-one else's opinion should matter. Providing you & your OH know this is the right thing for you that's all that matters. There are no guarantee's in life that say that if you marry younger or older that it will last a lifetime. I know many couples that have married under 21 & are still going strong & I also know of couples that have married near to 50 that havent lasted.

In your heart, you know what is right.

There is no right answer. I was engaged when I was 18 and that never made it as far as a wedding and I look back now (i'm about to turn 35) and I think THANK GOD!!! (especially when i see his pics on facebook! ha ha!) ... but then, you also see couples in their 80's who have been together since they were 'sweethearts' at the school!

I think the best advice I can give you, is that you can never be confident or sure that something is forever - you don't know what will happen in the future. What you can and must be confident of before you marry, is that you will both never stop trying and working to keep the relationship happy and healthy. If you're getting married, don't do it worrying that you're making the right choice or not, do it with the determination that you will have a long and happy marriage

Congratulations!

Who's to say what the 'right' age is?

Both my OH and I will be 22 when we get married. We've been together for 5 years, engaged for 4 years, and bought our first house together nearly 2 years ago. We couldn't be happier! Why wait to get married just because some people might have the opinion that we're too young.

Happy planning! Nice to see a fellow young bride!

Sam x

I think you've been together longer than some older couples are before marrying and seem sensible enough to be waiting even longer! So I wouldn't worry about your age, people shouldn't judge you for it and no one else can know when you're ready aside you!

My parents got married at 22 and 23 (56 years later still going strong), my stepdaughter at the same age (7 yrs now and seem very happy) and my daughter will be 23 when she marries in 3 weeks time (she would have been 22 but we had to move the wedding). If you're happy just go for it!

I'm the same age as you and my partner is the same age as yours so I know where your worries are coming from. We got engaged at the beginning of last month and I was so nervous about what others would think, but at the end of the day we know our relationship is strong and I don't see the point in waiting just for age. So I'd say ignore what everyone else may or may not be thinking as only you and your partner are in this relationship so, to be honest, their opinions shouldn't matter xx

I agree with everyone else, age is irrelevant. I have two best friends. One got married when she was 19, the other when she was 30. They are both still happily married. I am getting married in March and I'm 37. I would never judge anyone on the age they are when they get married. It's only a number. What matters I feel is that the couple are mature enough to make a relationship work and no-one knows that other than the couple themselves. So don't worry about your age, it's really no-one elses business.

There is no 'right age' to get married, just what is right for you as a couple. That fact you are a stable couple suggests it's probably right for you. As for the traditional grandparents, the fact you want to get married before you start a family suggests they should approve.

My partner and i are 24, a little older than you, and will be 25 when we marry next April. My younger sister thinks it is very young and both my parents think we are quite young. They married at 27 (not much of a difference!) after being together for 2 years. When we marry, we will have been together for 6 and a half years and will own a house. He is in the forces, has been for two years, and so we have weathered a fair amount between us. We will also be paying for the wedding ourselves.
I was surprised people were even bothered as we are both in full time employment with steady jobs having been through university together, have been together for so long and are so stable in our relationship. People just need to have something to fret over sometimes or just pass comment on. If they only thing they were are worried about for your marriage is that you might be a bit young, don't let it bother you!

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If you know it's 100% right then that's all that matters - I'm surprised his grandparents would be annoyed if they're old-fashioned - surely old-fashioned people would prefer you to get married as you're living together?

I think my worries come from hearing the stories about when my OH parents got married....They got married when she was 23 and it was on his 21st bday!( same age as what we are going to be) and OH dads parents done everything that could to try and stop the wedding. And they failed. But his parents still aren't fond of his wife after 22 years of marriage. But I do try my best to get along with OH grandparents and they try to get along with me. So maybe they might realise we are happy and just let us get on with it (I hope) x

That could be a problem they have specifically with your fiance's mother to be honest, if they still don't like her now!

You've been together a reasonable amount of time and you live together so you know that works, so it's definitely not 'too soon' in that sense! And you're also not rushing into the wedding, as am I right that you will have been engaged for about 3 years by the time you get married? My h2b's best man and his wife were together from age 15/16, bought a house together around age 21/22 but didn't get married until they were both 25. Less than 2 years later they separated and have been ever since (a few years ago now!). So timing doesn't always matter!

Hi

Congratulations on your engagement and setting your date. You shouldn't worry about what people think I will be 23 when I get married this year and I thought the same but at the end of the day I have been with my partner for 5 years its not like we've rushed it which is the same with you and your partner you have been together a while nd as long you both love each other and are happy that's all that matters.

Also From your post it seems that all your friends and family are happy for you so don't worry just enjoy your engagement, planning and day x

There is a mild judgement for younger brides but to be honest everyone judges everything and without fact no ones judgement can be correct

personally I dont think thats too soon for yous it not like your 16 and have been dating for all of 3 weeks (ive genuinely known this happen by the way, in most cases thank god for needing parental position)

there was a cute story I read the other day about a 9 year old getting married to a 7 year old, when I told people a 9 year old and 7 year old got married they all automatically jump on the 'thats disgusting' thing but the story is actually beautiful...

two kids that grew up together on a chemo ward where told they where terminally ill, make a wish asked what they wanted and the said they wanted to get married so they went to the courts and made it offical just for them and dozens of local people donated flowers, dresses, accessories etc... and they got married, by 2 months later she had died - not as creepy as people initially think when they just hear the ages

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_YaLRIpEpKs - video of the wedding on the news

good luck

Hi!

Nobody can tell you what age is the right one to get married I just wanted to say my best friend got married at 21 and is still happily married 9 years later and my parents were 18 and 21 getting married. They celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary in March so getting married young isn't necessarily a bad thing x

Congratulations to you both. I can only reiterate what others have said. You are the only one who know if you are ready.

Congratulations !! I don't think age really matters, nor the amount of time you have been together. My H2b is 5 years younger than me (I'm a demi cougar haha!) and we were together 9 months when he proposed. When we get married we will have been together almost 3 years. my relationship prior to this one was 5 years long and I never once felt ready to settle down with him....or even live with him for that matter.

It sounds like your on to a good one, I think you should enjoy the wedding planning and the support from your lovely friends and family! Who cares what anyone else thinks anyway?

Hello!

My other half an I have been together since we were 15, will be 22 when we marry and I haven't had as many too young comments as I thought I would! I do look very young so it worries me when I go dress shopping etc but people don't really say much it's just my paranoia!!

when you know you know

Good luck with your wedding planning,x

I'm the same age as you, and I'm getting married in 5 weeks, I'll be 20 in May. I know where you're coming from, people who know you will understand that you're ready. I have a similar mindset to you, as I want to have the same surname as my future children & husband. Of course, I love him and I know that, he knows that and our families know that but people will all have their own opinions depending on their own experiences. Some people are happier being on their own in their early twenties etc, but others don't. I suppose it depends if you've met the right on or not. Why wait if you're going to feel the same in 10 years time, I say. Good luck x

Hello & welcome!

Agree with everyone else, only you & OH can say if it's right or not, shouldn't matter what anyone else says.
Me & my OH met at 16/17 & are only getting married now 9 year later, only wish we'd have done it sooner!
People said we wouldn't last back then but we knew we would, trust your own judgement!

I think it is ok.

Hi congratulations on your engagement.

Don't worry about what ANYONE else thinks. Any comments will soon pass. I got engaged at 19, getting married on 31st July 2014 which is 3 days after my 21st and OH is 23. We've been together nearly 5 years, live together etc and I don't give a monkeys what anyone thinks of us. I've had a few looks from suppliers as if I'm just taking the mick and as soon as I felt that way I left and parted with my money elsewhere. All that matters is that you and your OH are happy.

I got with my partner when I was 16, had our first daughter when I was 18, second daughter when I was 22, mortgaged up and after 10 years he finally decided to propose, if we had married when i was 18 we would still be as happy as we are now, the point i'm trying to make is, no matter how old you are, where you are in your life if its meant to be it'll be... most peoples grandparents got married young and how many of our grandparents are still together? I think its a generation thing, I'm surprised that you think your grandparents will look down on your marriage... I bet they a thrilled really. XxX