is it wrong to be feeling this way....

No its not wrong... well if it is we can be wrong together ?

I feel exactly the same.. does it matter if we don't have flowers??!!?? i will still marry the man i love but apparently to quote mother 'you cant be serious' lol!!

I just want to be Mrs P and personally i think it's great to be this way!!

(Tho have spent the afternoon looking at BM dresses lol!!)

I completely agree with you after all that is the point of getting married isnt it? Not to show off how much money you have etc .. x

It's not wrong at all and I totally get where you are coming from. I luckily got married 2 weeks ago but the past year of planning the wedding has been difficult in the sense that all I want to do is start ttc but then i didn't want to be heavily pregnant as at my wedding. Now that we're married though we are faced with what we do about having a proper honeymoon - I want to go away ASAP so that we can then focus on ttc but its proving a bit difficult as we want to go to canada and thats going to take a bit of saving and planning!

Anyway, I think you and your OH should do whatever is right for you and have the day you want, when you want. Family and friends will always have something to say if you do something different to normal 'tradition' but its not about them, its your day and your life!

Good luck with it all!XX

It is not wrong, quite the contrary. I think you have a very healthy perspective. The wedding is just one day, marriage is for the rest of your life ?

Not wrong at all, marriage is about far more than just 1 day. I feel the same!! However its not too healthy to dwell on it too much as you'll only wind yourself up. I know this because OH has recently kept talking to our imaginary child in my tummy and yesterday randomly said he's been thinking about how we'll tell our parents we're pregnant - I had to remind him that we're not!!!! LOL

I think you and your OH should do whatever is right for you and have the day you want, when you want. Family and friends will always have something to say if you do something different to normal 'tradition' but its not about them, its your day and your life!

Thanks for your replies....i do feel better i just wanna get married and live life being his wife and sometime after that the mother of his children.

thats the part im looking forward to not the day itself but actually being married

xx

I have been starting to feel like this, I wanted to get engaged so badly obsessed about when he would pop the question and dreamed of planning a wedding but when got engaged and started planning it doesnt seem to matter as much! Looking forward to our life together planning holidays and babies!

No, you're sensible!

When H2b proposed, initially I said "hmmm, maybe" for various reasons, all of which I explained to him (I said yes a week later!). One reason was that I really really don't want to get married. I want to BE married, but not go through all the rigmarole of organising stuff and dealing with family stress I had first time around. I want to say the vows to H2b in private, and be his wife, but not have a wedding, as such. Due to that, we're eloping, no friends, no family, just us. Reception will be a month later if people want to celebrate with us, but that's because H2b wants one. I don't.

I am wavering a little about it all now (after a beaufiful Christmas Mass in the church near our new house) but tbh, even if I could have a UK church wedding now (I'm having one, but overseas) I would want the service, the vows, the prayers and the blessing, then everyone could go home. I don't want to speak to people about it afterwards, meet and greet, grin and smile, all that stuff. I just want H2b and I do decidate our lives to each other and have done with it!

Whilst I am really enjoying planning, I do also totally get what you mean and I just want our wedding day to come round really quickly so I can finally call him my husband!

I'm also really broody at the moment, and once we're married it's going to be a killer waiting to TTC (timing wise it will suit our situation best to have our first baby in Autumn 2013, so we won't be TTC until after the New Year 2013 - so just over 5 months after the wedding - argh!) I'm just beginning to plan our postponed Winter honeymoon for the February that year, so preparing for that (and putting off pregnancy until we're home) will hopefully distract me a little.