Is it wrong to be pleased about this?!

Not wrong at all, what a massive relief! It's going to be so much better for you AND your OH if she isn't there.

Just being nosey...did she give you a reason? Do you think she was expecting to get a reply saying "oh please come!"

No she was quite pleasant surprisingly and said that her OH would rather she didn't come as it would be too awkward! Which is right, but glad we didn't have to make the decision on it ?

Hell no it's not wrong. The last thing you need on your big day is someone like that. I don't think I could've even invited her, so at least she can't complain you didn't invite her. She sounds a nice piece of work though. Hope you have a fab day xxxx

No I don't think your wrong to be pleased about it. In fact I think things have worked out for the best. You did the right thing by family etc by inviting her, and by declining so that things aren't awkward she's done the right thing too. Sounds like everyone is able to be quite grown up about it.

Not wrong at all. Had similar issues & its such a relief. The ball was in her court, so no one can say that you didnt invite her. Happy days!

You're not wrong to feel pleased at all. I would feel the same. In fact I'm pleased for you! I would hate to pay for someone I don't like to be at my wedding.

Not wrong at all!

My Auntie (Dad's sister) is an absolute MOO and is like the black sheep of the family but it would upset my Grandma too much if we didn't invite her daughter which is fair enough - she gets invited to everything but she never ever turns up (didn't come to my sisters 21st, didn't come to my engagement and I don't think I've seen her for about 4 years)

My Mum has told my Grandma that she'll be invited but if she doesn't come we'll be sending her the bill for her place as she'll be taking up the place of someone we actually want there haha... Grandma has said fair enough but I'm secretly hoping she RSVPs no (but she won't do!)

Brilliant! Not wrong at all in my opinion, and by inviting her to begin with you have just become the bigger person.

WSS!

I think your future brother in law deserves a great big hug for recognising that her presence might be awkward & asking her not to come!! Kudos to that man and yay for you!!!! Xx

Definitley not wrong at all, I think I owuld be pleased if I was in that situation! At least you showed that you were the bigger person by even inviting her in the first place xxx

Not wrong. You showed you were the bigger person and got the reply you hoped for! I wouldn't want anyone at my wedding who hates me so I understand how you feel!!

You are not wrong for feeling pleased!! I'd be bloody elated!!! x

I am elated! It's a shame to think how things have changed so much over the last year but such is life!

I have replied to her email now acknowledging that I have received it.

I know how you feel in that respect. I asked OH's 2 nieces to be my BMs, one of them has turned out to be a complete nightmare - she's just a nasty little moobag and I can't stand her! If only I knew back then what I know now!!

LOL I feel your pain! Nothing better than families!!