Is there anyone on your guest list that you wished wasn't?!!!

One, a plus one who I've never met...not totally stressed about it though, just slightly miffed.

Yep,!! we are getting married abroad aswell so have to put up with them for a week!!! ? Hopefully they decide they cant afford it tho! xx xx

Another plus one of a cousin who i'm not particularly fond of!

Yes - one of oh's friends who I shared a lecture with at uni - he is a right nobber. He also has a cousin who has a habit of trying it on with young females and I fear one of my two older nieces will be his target for the night ?

Yes, I haven't done the invites yet but I know theres people I'm going to have to invite that are going to cause hassle!

oh and I banned my OH from adding plus ones onto people, you never know who people might bring!

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Yes, one of my 'friends' who basically hasn't bothered to keep in touch for the last 2 years, but I couldn't really get away with not inviting them. I can't wait until after the wedding so that I can properly phase them out of my life.

Yes!! Infact I have three, one of whom has a criminal conviction...I'm kindof hoping the relationship has broken down by then and he doesn't come!!!

Interesting Red baroness....I too am mulling voer this dilema!? I have 2 sets of friends who i go way back with to primary school and back then and throughout school we were very close, ie best friends but since then weve grown apart etc etc we now meet up once a year mainly at xmas but even then if im honest i could take it or leave it....

now...i was invited to both theirs but if i had a choice (which i do but sort of dont) id just say evening do but then think i have to invite them etc etc one lives abroad so would have to be all day the other have 2 little ones so probably.hopefully couldnt make all day!?!?!

It's sooooo hard!! x

Yes for sure- a couple of OH's cousins and a few plus ones i could do without having. think everyone is in the same sort of boat, there are always a few you dont know as well or dont really like!

Definitely a few of OHs mates I could do without - they never bother to attempt to socialise with him apart from when they need a lift to away matches during footy season. OHs drunk and unstable mum. A couple of my family friends who I have had nothing to do with for years but my mum said it would be awful if I didn't invite them. One plus one of a friend who neither Oh or I have ever met.

Yeah my brother that has an attitude problem and the last time he spoke to Dad he told dad that he 'needs knocked out' - attitude problem

OH brothers and sisters and their OH's - they not that close and they think they are better than us and it will be constantly slagging everything off

Some of OH friends that i feel is a waste of money to have there as we dont see that much of them.

Not many then hahaha

Too many unfortunately. Latest is OH's cousin & daughter. Apparently said cousin thinks it's within my bridal duties to make her daughter a goodie bag. Errr don't think so lady. Entertain your own kid.

Who is yours? And what will be the embarrassment?

Yeah pretty much everyone apart from twenty ? I've got a big family on both sides, so we have to do the whole 'I went to their wedding so they have to come to mine.' ☹️

Not to the ceremony and wedding breakfast because we're only having 16 guests who mean a lot to us both. To the evening reception....pretty much the whole of my extended family and about half of OH's extended family too! lol

I have one particular person, who I really dont want at the reception and partner and I have already had several arguments about it. I went to secondary with her and she is an ex of my partner from years back, we're talking like 10 years ago. When I told her that we were meeting up as friends, she was so nasty to me and spiteful. I have invited one her friends, now a very good friend of mine as well, to the wedding, but old school is only having an invite to the recption and I am so, so worried she is going to kick off. OH says not to worry, there will be another 120+ guests to think about. Its not the point. He's now changed his tune and says we dont have to invite her, but that, if I dont, I have to think of the consiquences and losing a friendship, but tbh, there is no friendship to lose. She never phones or texts me, she ignores comments I make on fb and the only time we do talk, is if I ring her. She has not once asked about how my plans for our wedding are going, and there is 5 months to go til the big day.

We've not even sent out our invites yet but....

I wish we didn't have to invite our best mans wife and a friends gf who we have never ever met.

Some OH family! Lol! X

Yes unfortuantely!

Work Friends of H2B who are brothers who live alone and have a reputation for bad personal hygiene!! Yuck!!? xx

Unfortunately mine is my sister, she drinks way to much and tries it on with anyone with a pulse. Bearing in mind her partner of 15 years will be there plus her 3 kids, this will not detain her from her man hunt mission. It doesn't help that she has tried it on with most of my close friends brothers/partners lol. Think there will be only my parents there who like her x

Yes, OH's friend's wife who is so vile! OH REALLY cannot stand her..if it was up to him she wouldn't come but of course we couldn't possibly do that ? They got married in same venue that we will be getting married in. So I'm preparing myself for her snide comments about the venue as bitchy remarks is her speciality! *sigh*

Exactly this for me too! One of my 'friends' is such a nightmare and hasn't even got back to my bridesmaids about coming on my hen do when I classed her as a good friend. When I found out I'd already invited her all day and I'm miffed to say the least. Plus she's got a new fella too so I just know I'm going to get the "can he come too" question...no he blinking well cannot!!

I have 2! One is best man'a partner, cant stand her, annoys me to even look at her. The other is a friend who just split from her husband for the man she had affair with, they have broke up 2 families and she wants to bring him as her plus 1, her husband also wants to still come lol not a conversation i am looking forward to! have decided her new man can come to evening only!!

Yes! A couple of friends that my OH knew when he was younger and their partners. They don't ever send a card at Christmas, didn't congratulate us on our engagement, never keep in touch and live miles away, yet he insists on inviting them. We don't even know their partners names. I have met them once in the 3.5 years we've been together and I don't really fancy near strangers being there on our big day, but I'm biting my tongue and letting them come. Even my MIL-to-be doesn't think they should be invited (having her side with me was a first!).

Also a couple of my girl friends who don't keep in touch, but as they're close to others that do keep in touch, I feel I have to invite them all to avoid any 'problems'.

Yes, unfortunately a few. I don't really have a problem with any of them, but they're part of my h2b's family and they don't all get along with each other. Hopefully they can keep it civil for a day though. ☹️

So pleased I am not the only one with guests I don't want to invite!

My mother....who spoils everything through bitchy comments and obvious jealousy and she can't handle her drink.

My sisters partner and one the potential fathers to her son as he came out of prison recently.

OH dads side of family who are bit stuck up....here's my law degree shove that up your backside I am good enough without it to marry your nephew!

My uncle and partner who wears the same denim skirt to every function she has ever been invited to.

We were firm with plus ones to be honest and stuck with it so no partners I can't stand which is a bonus.

Oh and not so keen on the best man to be honest.

Here's hoping with it being a Friday people struggle with time off ?

Wow, I am surprised at all these responses that I've got to count myself lucky! Firstly, the responses were about plus ones... who we are not inviting anyway, we can't afford those kind of numbers and either don't know or barely know some of them. But then I started reading all the responses on family. Wow... there are people who are a little annoying, maybe have bad hygiene but they are all people we want to share our day with and we both want them to be there. I feel for all of you who have felt that you have to invite all these people that you don't want to be there

Haven't finalised the guest list yet but I know there are going to be a couple of issues ... I have no problems with any of my friends or fiancé's friends but there is one cousin and one aunt on my mum's side of the family who I think I'll be expected to invite but the fact is, if I invite them I will feel on edge ALL day. They're very religious and although we're getting married in a church, it's more for tradition more than anything else. The religious cousin and aunt I know for a FACT will sit there and judge the fact that I'm not getting married in the church that I was originally born into (haven't been back for over 12 years now) and then they will sit there during the wedding breakfast and drinks, judging everyone that dares take a sip of alcohol (both tee total which is fine, but I don't like to be judged when I choose to have a drink). It's clear to me and my fiancé that the best thing to do is not invite them as I don't want to feel edgy on our wedding day ... but because I want to invite my favourite aunt & uncle on the other side of the family I think I'll be expected to invite the other side. Gah, politics.

That was rather rambly, hope that made sense! Guess this sort of thing comes with the whole wedding territory ☹️

We have two - both husbands of good friends who are complete idiots.

One has no social skills whatsoever and makes no effort to get on with people. I feel so sorry for my friend for marrying him.

The other constantly makes snide remarks to me and my OH, I expect because he has insecurity issues.

Unfortunately we can´t not invite them as we´re getting married abroad and inviting everyone in couples.

On the day I just plan to stay serene and ignore them if they get up to their usual tricks!

My OH's friends. There's a group of 10 invited. There's only 1 and his wife who I know really well. The Sept are just names to me. My OH has had troubles in the past with cocaine, not really bad, but enough to cause us to break up for 3 months a few years ago.since then he has been amazing about distanc himself from that scene. He's not done coke since we got back together and even though he still sees his friends every few months he tells me they try to encourage his using it. He has stayed strong and I'm really proud of him. He knows how much he has to lose if he goes back to that. So I'm not worried about my OH but really am concerned that the friends may bring Anything to the wedding and cause a scene. I'm prob worrying about nothing but I'm still hoping most of them say they can't come.

Yes!!!

My mum - She will surely cause a argument with my father and his wife. She gets cocky around large groups of people.

My Step mum - She has called me fat every single time I have seen her for 2 years now. We have never got on but since my dad has taken to spending more time with me she's hated me even more.

My OH's uncle - He's a controlling, nasty little man.

And last but certainly not least my mums mum (she does not deserve the title Grandma).

If it was up to me there would only be a handful of people at the wedding.

I havent invited my auntie and 2 cousins, i havent seen them for at least 8 years, she has a new husband that i have met once. And also it would cost an extra £200+ for them all to come. My grandad thinks it would cause problems but it's our wedding at the end of the day. It also annoys me that she didnt bother her arse to come to my dad's funeral. So im not too bothered to be honest. Everyone else is fine ?