Is this where the stress starts??

Did you state on the invitation when they needed to RSVP by?

2 weeks is not very long - bear in mind there has been a bank holiday and it's prime holiday season right now.

You will still have to chase people up though.

When is the RSVP date?

? No, with all the rush forgot to put a date on.

Guess, with all the excitement of finally getting them out, I had hoped the rsvps would come in quickly. Guess I just need to be a bit more patient

Whoops, if there is no RSVP date people may think that just telling you is ok

How long is it until your wedding?

I wouldn't worry about it, as everyone else has said 2 weeks isn't very long really. I have been waiting a month for some of mine!

Mine went out a month ago, I have a month to the RSVP date and got maybe half of them back. Some have been verbal ones which is fine by me! Will double check with them closer to the time just in case. There are some people I have no chance of getting a reply from so I'll chase those up at a later date. It seems most people leave it till the last minute so you may find you need to do some chasing up if you haven't given a limit. How far in advance do your venue need numbers?

I put a rsvp slip in there, and on the information sheet that I needed them to tick about dietary and childrens meals etc, but I know I should have put a date on ?

What date is your wedding ?

19th October so the venue is having the final meeting with us 23rd September so still time I know, its mainly not being able to do the evening invites.

I was just having a "moment" before mainly cos H2B is sooooooo laid back which is a really good thing really as we balance each other out.

Thanks for the reassurances

Don't want to stress you out but give it a week or so and then start chasing. I had the same predicament as you (although I did have an RSVP date which most people ignored) and I left it too late to send out the evening as waiting for the RSVPs from the days. This has meant 2 of the 3 couples that were up graded to keep up the numbers now can't come!!! This is now causing me a headache as it means we aren't making the minimum numbers and I wish I'd just chased them earlier.

Yeah thanks that what I think I will do, as its my worry too, that we leave it to late not only might they be busy but also cos of the confirming final numbers with the venue

Same here, we gave people 4 weeks to RSVP and have only heard back from about half - annoying as we're having to hold back our evening invites for the same reason.

They've got until this weekend - so fingers crossed we get some more responses by then. I think it's normal - most people don't think about how much planning and organisation goes into a wedding and that numbers really do matter. So they're all chilled out and going to send your RSVP when they get round to it, whereas you're stressing away worried about people missing out on the evening do.

If it's any consolation we got regrets very quickly. A couple of our extended family members couldn't come and they got back to us within a week. I think it's the ones who intend to come that are a bit more laxidaisical about it. But it is frustrating.

Pen

To avoid stressing, can I suggest you send your evening invites, wait for all rsvps until early September, then chase people. My sister forgot to put an rsvp date and did have to chase quite a few more guests then we did. You could then upgrade evening guests once you know your day guest quota - if you choose friends they won't mind.

I wouldn't worry too much about not putting an RSVP date, we did and we were still chasing people up. People dont read information, I know people who are vegitarian who haven't told me - just expected me to know - fortunately I did but you think they would make it clear - I also have someone who is pregnant, I put about requesting a non alcoholic drinks package which she didn't but when I asked her she did want one. I know others who may want the non alcoholic package - but tough they were all given the information!

I just dont think people realise you need this information. I would send evening invites out and then bump people up if needed, I dont think people will mind, generally people are quite pleased thay were on the reserve list.