It's all getting too much...need some help de-stressing!

When I'm REALLY excited about things I make myself sick (I've been the same since I was little - everyone always laughs because before holidays I always end up feeling really sick and queasy!) so it definitely could be a mix of excitement and nerves!

Maybe it's not a case of something your OH can do but (because I know when I'm stressed or worried there's nothing my OH can say to make me feel better)maybe ways that you can relax and try and stay calm? Maybe silly things like long hot baths and stuff?

Thanks - I used to be the same before going on holiday as a kid, the butterflies of excitement were so bad I did feel sick. Mum used to give me travel sickness pills as always said I felt sick. I wonder now if it was more to do with nerves/excitment rather than the actual travel xx

I think it might be, or could definitely be a mix of both!

I'm not sure how to stop pure excitement though?! It is horrible though so I definitely feel for you!

Oh you poor thing I think often we don't acknowledge or realise that we are putting ourselves under such stress. Best thing I find for me is to just sit quietly and breathe (seriously, sometimes I'm sure I forget!). Definitely second the immodium (get the instants, they are tiny little things and dissolve on your tongue) or maybe ask your doctor for some different ibs medication?

Just remind yourself that you've done all you can and that your only task will be to enjoy your day x

I'm similar, not so much my tummy but headaches. I tend to have a massive headache as a release of a lot of tension or stress. It can sometimes be over something really minor as well, eg. Today I had to go and get my haircut (so not stressful I know I know!) but it's the first haircut I've had in this country and was worried I wouldn't get my point across in French well enough. I woke up at 6am thinking about it and now after the appointment I have a headache! Anyway so I'm at risk of getting a bad headache either on the wedding day or the day after, especially as I probably won't be sleeping well. I'm going to try rescue remedy and dose myself up with nurofen and night nurse (not at the same time!)

For now can you delegate some tasks to other people, maybe the more minor things...do you have any bms, a parent, sibling etc to help you do some things? Try and switch off from the planning, this is what I struggle to do. Set some time aside to plan and then leave it and do something else that is fun and/or relaxing.