"Its your day.... but" familiar words anyone

My mum hasn't been too bad - yet. I can see it coming though! I'm also getting married in September. Friend that is getting married this year also though is having nightmares with her family - they are very traditional and she isn't. The one bit of advice I've had is to stick to your guns and have the wedding you want - you won't regret it!

I bet you'll be a lot less stressed than some of us here!!!! at the end of the day its about you marrying your sweetie, i wouldn't tell her half of the things if i was you, that way you don't have to put up with the any comments that might upset you and if she mentions them afterwards you probably won't even care by then because you'll be happliy married and happy you did it your way!

Your day, your way thats what I say.

I know its tough when somebody is constantly saying you shouldn't be doing that, do this instead but try to keep your head and remember what you want. At the end of the day its all about marrying your OH so you could be anywhere, wearing anything and you'll still be saying the same things and the meaning is still the same.

Mum's are funny creatures.....lol

Congratulations, welcome to Hitched and best of luck with it all ?

Welcome to hitched! I know exactly how you feel, my mum has been a bit of a pain at times!

It wasnt until I sat down properly and spoke to her and told her that its my day, im paying for it, im gonna do what I want, and theres nothing you can do about it that she realised how unreasonable she was being about somethings, have you tried to talk to her and tell her how you feel? Its your day and it should be everything you want it to be, not what someone else wants, as long as you and your OH are happy thats the main thing, good luck!

When my daughters were born I dreamed of their wedding day, Church, big dress, and all the other things that go to making it a magical day.

My eldest daughter got married in a register office and had her reception in a pub. While it was being organised I had pangs of dissapointment and I'm sure I voiced a few of them too!

She did wear the big dress and she looked beautiful. I can honestly say it was one of the most romantic, beautiful weddings I have ever been to.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is, it's your day, do what you want. Dont exclude your Mum, she has dreamed of this day all your life and although its not what she dreamed for you, she will come around. Be firm but kind xx

Laineywhu, i was thinking exactly the same.

toriamasters its your day, you're paying for it & if you do things the way other people say you should then you might not enjoy it. they will get used to the fact that you're going to organise it the way you want. keeping certain parts between you & OH might be a good idea, stops people telling you they think its a bad idea when you know its not!

Congratulations!

I think it's great that you're stepping away from traditional and at the end of the day you need to be comfortable and if the 'less fuss the better' is your dream wedding I thnk that's brilliant.
I've only just started my planning, and when I told my mum what my plans were, and that I didn't want proper bridesmaids and I'd like her and my mother in law to be to act as my bridesmaids (a decision helped by the wonderful women of this site) she was a little less enthused than I'd hoped. I feel like I'm asking and asking for help and participation and well not really getting anywhere.
I think it depends on the person as to how they respond, and I know it's easier said than done, believe me, but I'd just take the support as and when it comes and just do what you know is best.
I don't know how much this has helped, if at all, but just know you're not the only one feeling frustrated and the chances are your mum doesn't mean to be so difficult and her opinions of how a wedding should be aren't as modern as yours.

Best of luck and congratulations