Just been on the receiving end of a money poem....

Haha! Worth a try though! I wouldn't send anything. I think it's a cheek to invite you from the other end of the country just for the evening do as well.

A polite card along the lines of "So sorry we can't be with you, we have booked a holiday to xx and will be out of the country" should suffice.

Yeh, it's the week before ours and we sent them a full day invite which they RSVP'd by text to saying they were on honeymoon. Fair enough but people who couldn't use the requested method's of RSVPing are winding me up at the mo too!

Our best man has just piped up saying he is planning his engagement party at the other end of the country that weekend too so looks like there won't be a mad last weekend for me planning ours, I'll have to be ready a week early now. argh!

That's a bit much! I really am not a fan of money poems or asking for money. My OH and I were discussing it the other day about what we'll do re gifts. We've lived together for 6 yrs so really don't need anything along the traditional gift line. We both agreed not to ask for anything - my family are coming from edinburgh to Kent for the wedding so are paying train fares and booking hotel rooms for 2 or 3 nights. As far as we're concerned that's more than enough for them to pay out in order to see us get married. Some friends have already asked us if they can contribute to our honeymoon and that'll be lovely. It's a tricky one though!

I was on the receiving end back in September time last year for my friends December wedding. I shuddered and cringed at the sight of it. I HATE THEM.

Cringe - how do you put an invitation together where the first thing to fall out is gift/money poem??

although, I am desperate to see this poem.......go on, give us all a giggle!

Oh man, I love that idea. Compose a poem about a repeat of Antiques Roadshow or something that you have to watch on TV that night.

Eugh.

I don't mind people asking for money so much (although I believe it rude) but poems are so much worse than just asking. I'm glad you can't go!

Hahaha love this!

Inviting us was a lovely thought
So we'll RSVP just as we ought
Have a great day with plenty of smiles
But as you understand it is too many miles
On top of that, we would love to be there
But unfortunately we are washing our hair.

That is AWESOME, RizzieRazzle! Please reply with that DrB, it would be brilliant!

HAHAHAHAHA!!!! Do this, oh please do this!!

Snap! We recently got one too, again for an evening reception and again for people we haven't seen for ages. It was super long and one part basically said "we want a new car and a hot tub, but we can't register for those sorts of things so give us money instead". So not impressed.

Definitely agreeing with the hair poem too, brilliant!

? love it!

Lol love the washing our hair poem too!!

We've had a few and I must admit I don't like them, even tho I would only ever give money as a wedding gift anyway! We even had one recently with an invite to a child's 1st birthday party!!!! It seems even as a baby it's all about the cash!

Love the hair poem!

I have no objection to money poems, in fact I'd rather give cash... I just find it objectionable in this case, where the guest hasn't even been invited to the actual wedding!

It also seems like it's a response to the full wedding invite the sender received. Like "Well they invited us so I guess we'd better send them an invite to our evening do."

I don't particularly dislike requests for money as gifts, but I wouldn't dream of even mentioning money or a gift list in the evening-only invitations (I doubt I'll include it in the day ones, tbh!). Even in all-day invitations, it shouldn't be the first thing out of the envelope! That's just cheeky!

I agree with the above post. I really dont get the issue with money poems but the combination of gift info in evening invitations,receiving an evening invitation whem you invited them to day...unless budgets are wildly different,and the poem being the main part of the invitation, would make even laidback,non-judgemental me (with others weddings...with my own I am far from laidback lol) a little wound up.

I would just ignore it if I got a poem asking for money... im not a 'money giver' (I know some are like my dad and thats fine its just not what 'I' do) because im a lover of presents and take a great deal of time picking individual things based around what I know of the person - also in general as im not very rich but im good at finding the cheapest deal I figure why give some £50 (which I cant afford and lets face it no one wants to be the person that gave £10 when everyone else gave £50-£100) when I can get a nice £50 gift for £15 on a deal ive personally picked and scouted out

as for the child party... I dislike that a lot really as its not really for the child (I know some say they are saving up for a bigger present but isnt that the parents job not the guests?)

example:

for my DS birthday although everyone brought a gift only 1 kid came with a 'toy' gift, which I personally find a little sad as getting excited opening gifts even if they are from poundland or you got out of a cracker etc... (children love cheap 'tatt') is an important part of childhood in my opinion and a happy experience for the child (even though I know his birthday is at an awkward and busy and rushed time for people) most the others kids gave cards with £5 each which is nice of them and appreciated by us but my son has no real concept of money at his age and a young child doesn't want/need money for anything so they could of actually bought something much cheaper than what they gave us and my son would of loved the gesture of just being able to hold and play with something more

all the money my son has ever been given just ends up sat in his money box as he has no real understanding of it and doesn't need it for things and probably wont until his about 13/14

Inviting us was a lovely thought
So we'll RSVP just as we ought
Have a great day with plenty of smiles
But as you understand it is too many miles
On top of that, we would love to be there
But unfortunately we are washing our hair.

Do it, do it do it. As for the best man I would be really miffed at him too.

I got one of those in an engement party invite.... Thought that was a bit cheeky. My relatives have asked about gift lists. We said we weren't having one, they thought we were crazy, so as we're are going to florida for our honeymoon we've set up a page via disney world that allows them to put money towards things if they want to starting at £5. Things like cocktails on room service or dinnersp in the fancy pants restaurant.

Every wedding I've been invited to this year has had one in *shudders*

The whole time I'm reading this I'm just totally miffed that I don't get invited to weddings! I'll take a money poem... Anything... I just want an invite!

Seriously think we are the last to get married.

Oh dear, I don't agree with asking for money from the evening guests! I won't even be asking for anything from the day guests! OH and I discussed the whole gift/money thing, and we have decided to not put anything about it in our invites. Our parents know we would prefer cash, and if anyone else asks we will just let word of mouth spread. Some people we know get quite creative and quirky with their gifts, so that is something I would happily risk receiving!

I had a wedding invite once asking for money, and the poem took a while to get to the point, I wasn't a big fan of it really.

I hate money poems at the best of times, but really detest them when they say they will use the money for one thing, but then don't, we had one recently where it went on about a holiday in the Med, but they didn't use it for that!

Please, please reply with the hair poem, it's brilliant!

Every wedding I've ever been invited to has had a money poem in!

Yeah, I've only been to like six in my whole life. Most of my friends and colleagues are younger and not getting married yet. Although that said, I got so stressed about my appearance and what to wear for my brother's wedding that I came out in spots on the bridge of my nose three months before and they didn't go away til after the event - as if anyone really cared what I looked like! So maybe I'm not the best candidate for wedding invitations

Short and sweet money poems. Long ones are not cool. I wouldn't be offended to receive one tho. I think £50-60 day and £20 evening. If I get invited to a wedding I expect to know the couple well enough to not be offended. If I was offended I probably wouldn't go as clearly not great friends or family in the first place.

I would love to reply with the hair poem but I'm not that brave and as they are OH's friends I don't think he would be very impressed.

I think what really got me about this one was how it was such a huge part of the invite and it asked for money for a honeymoon and a house! We haven't put anything in ours and people are now starting to ask us what we want. I just feel uncomfortable asking for anything!

I LOVE this! Please send this as the reply!

Christ. No wonder they put it in the evening invitations too - they must be expecting thousands!

If I'd known you could ask for things like houses I would have taken a totally different approach ?

You'll hate me then! I didn't want to mention gifts at all in our invites but my DF and our relatives felt it was important to write about money gifts and both our mothers liked money poems. Yes, we also had them on our evening invites. I hasten to add that I made sure the poem said we do not want or expect any gift whatsoever but if they wanted to.. etc. etc. We said the money would be towards our honeymoon (that we've paid for ourselves)

As a busy working mum of very young children I welcome money poems - saves me a (usually difficult) job trying to pick a gift! We've always given what we can afford at the time, which in the past hasn't been much but would be more now in our current circumstances.

I don't know, I'm so over the drama of wedding planning now.. just want to get on with the day itself!