Just been to give Notice of Marriage .....Had my bubble burst

Awwwwww don't be upset ?

In my opinion, who cares what the registrar thinks! You and your OH obviously love the venue, and you have recognised and addressed the logistical issues there, don't let the registrar's opinions sway your decision!

Ignore the registrar! you dont know maybe the other weddings she has done there were larger or something. it'll be fine, stick with your original plan and have a great day

x

Sorry you feel sad when you should be so happy.

Look at it as a positive thing. At least now you know of potential problems and can go to your venue with your concerns. I'm sure when you speak to the venue you'll have your mind put at rest.

Beautiful venue btw. ?

Crikey how rude of the registrar to do that, what did she expect you to do/say 'oh no i hadnt thought of logistics, but hey thanks i will cancel it now'.....respect to people for speaking their mind, but at the end of the day EVERY wedding is different, so the venue maybe the same but each wedding will have its own size, needs, variety etc etc so your wedding cannot be tarred with the same brush. As said above just ignore it, check with the venue to put your mind at rest but guaranteed the tears will be a flash in the pan x

Thanks all for your kind comments

I have spoken to both my Mum and FMIL who both think she had no right to say what she did and are both livid... Typical parents lol!! Think i might compose an email not sure but i really dont want her to be our Registra now... not sure about how to say that ...

Anyhows i am glad i know as i am currently composing an email to our venue even though i have discussed the logistics previously as said above and arranged for Golf buggies but at least i will get something in writing now

ts just a shame it was said at that time when we were celebrating today and also in front of my OH as he is now not keen on risking it on wedding day and thinks i was being a bit rude getting uptight (Bursting Bubble Moment) however he hasnt been involved in any of the planning or meetings ive had discussing this issue so doesnt know the efforts i have gone to and arrangements in place!!!

K x

Maybe she was just trying to be helpful? May not feel like it, but maybe she was trying to help you avoid a potentially difficult day

Shaz

I think she was just being honest and warning you. I'm sure she wasn't being unkind, but actually trying to help to make sure your day went smoothly.

You've got to look at it as a positive thing - she's been there so might pre-empt something that could spoil your day. If I were you, I'd speak to (rather than email) the venue and tell them exactly what she said, and how concerned you are about it. Then they can go the extra mile to make it work and prove her wrong, and you can have a fantastic day and not be bogged down with guests being in the wrong place.

Awwwwwww kerryanneellis,

Well @ least she has given you a heads up on what could happen whilst you still have plenty of time to speak to the venue & make sure everyhting is going to be 100% ok. She probs thought she was doing you a favour by telling you.

Hi All

Thanks for your comments as i said im glad she told me but it only needed one comment from her which i then in turn thanked her and said im glad she had told me and although i have previosuly had discussions with my venue i would be having others to discuss again, based on what you have just said.

Unfotunately the whole Notice of marriage kept reverting round this issue and her trying to convince me the Terrace or Inside was better, to the point of i almost wanted to walk out or a hole to open up below and swallow me up!!!

Im an emotionally strong person as i work in Construction and spend my days dealing with hairy as***d builders (No offence if any of your OH are builders) and difficult situations but the conversation just went on till the point i could feel tears in my eyes and just wanted to escape, we were in there for almost an hour!!!

It has really put a sour note on what was meant to be a celebration, however im pleased to say that once i had recovered by having a rant, good cry and then splashing water on my face and redoing my make-up i had my glass of Champagne and we went to FMIL, FFIL for dinner and had a lovely evening.

Off dress shopping today wooooo

Thanks again

K xx

Glad you had a glass of bubbles - we take every opportunity to celebrate with a glass of the fizzy stuff!

Shaz

Cheers Shaz,,,, yeah me to love the fizzy stuff unfortunately drank all fizzy stuff then had gin then went onto red wine .... head not too good this morning ....ouch!!!

K x

I would'nt let her put you off. I would quiz the venue, tell them your concerns. It might be that they had a bigger wedding they were used to in the past. She may have thought she was helping but she just sounds pushy and unprofessional. I would have been upset too, you have clearly put a lot of thought into how it will work on the day.

I would really want to prove her wrong but thats because im secretly very immature ?

Hope the dress shopping cheered you up, we want pics!!!!

x x