Just engaged! How long has every got to plan wedding?

Firstly, congratulations and welcome to Hitched!

I am taking 18 months to plan but this is mostly down to budget and our desire for a winter wedding. It makes no difference however, my friend got married 10 weeks after her engagement recently!

Sometimes people are like that and are just too wrapped up/busy in their own lives to be that interested, and some just dont see the fuss in weddings and marriages.

As far as your mum is concerned, is there another reason for the stress? Would she wish to be able to finacially contribute and now is panicing over the timescale to do this? Have a chat with her.

At the end of the day you go ahead with your plans and just dont tell the people who arnt going to be happy/interested for you.

We are though so keep the posts coming ?

Laura x

When me and OH got engaged, nobody thought it was a serious thing, his mum didn't even congratulate us! We'd been together 6 years already so it was clear we were serious about each other lol!

We have booked our wedding for 27th August 2010, so just less than a year to go now.

We gave a year for our planning as we need time to save up first. Although my Sister in law to be got engaged and got married 6 weeks later!

It really is down to personal choice.

With regards to people not being interested, i found that once dates had been set etc. people start getting more excited! Our day has only been booked just over a week and already i'm getting fed up with people asking me about it!

Good luck with the planning!

Many congratulations on your engagement and welcome to Hitched.

We got engaged in June this year and have just booked our wedding venue for October next year x

I got engaged 1/1/09 and get married tomorrow, which is about the same length of time you are talking about. I've easily managed to find at least 3 of each supplier to get quotes from. Venue was the only thing that was slightly more restrictive (we still had a choice of 3 with Saturdays in August/September). It's meant I've rarely had a week without something wedding related to do but I've quite enjoyed that. I'm sorry your friends and family don't seem that excited for, I'm sure they'll come round to the idea though.

Thanks. OOOOOOOOOhhhhhhhhhhh how exciting, best of luck for your special day! x

Awww hun don't let it get you down. My mom didn't believe me when I told her, I went running in with my ring and she said 'Don't be silly, no you're not' and carried on brushing her hair. We've never had the closest relationship but I expected a bit more enthusiasm than that. So I just decided to not include her in my planning and focussed on my more enthusiastic friends and family members, and before I knew it my mom had told me nan she was feeling left out and wanted to get more involved.

People will come round, they're obviously just very busy. Me got engaaged on the last day of May and booked for the following Sept, so 16 months. Its one year today actually, and those 4 months have gone very fast.

Oh no, that's such a shame that they're not joining in on the fun. OH and I gave ourselves 6 months and we have less than 3 to go now. We chose to go for a mid-week wedding and everyone has been happy to take time off. OH is American so picking Thanksgiving worked out well for him and his family to come over. I'll be moving to LA next year so didn't want to have to do everything at once (wedding, honeymoon, pack, leave job etc). I knew my Mum would be excited, but its my Dad who has surprised me - he walks around the house apparently going 'Father of the Bride coming through, make way'. Its so sweet. Hopefully when they've had time to digest the news they'll come round and get onboard. Enjoy the planning. I would thoroughly recommend organising your Internet favourites - all the websites start looking alike after a while so find a system that works for you. Good luck!

Congratulations and welcome to Hitched.

So sorry to hear that your friends and family have been the way they have. YOu can get excited on here and we will share your excitement with you. We got engaged in March 2008 and are getting married in August 2010. So basically nearly 2 and half yrs. But that was mainly due to money. We are paying for it all ourselves and wanted to have exactly what we want and not look back and regret not having it later. If we'd been happy with a registry office and village hall buffet then we would have been married by now!

I got engaged 18 months ago and got a temporary ring, have just sorted getting my proper ring this week. Not even had an engagement party yet. hoping people will be asking about my ring aswell.

We are planning on getting wed around Aug 2011, so everything in our world seems to take 18-24 months but then we needed that to save.

Good luck with yours, most importantly do it when YOU want to do it.

Hi,

I just want to say hello and welcome to Hitched :-)
Sorry to hear people are not excited for you... I can asure you that everyone on here will be very excite for you :-)
We met and got engaged 8 years ago, but have only recently decided to actually seriously talk about the wedding, were planning it for May 2011 (hopefully) so i think it vary's for everyone :-) Im sure when and whatever you decide it will be right for you :-) Good Luck

Nic x

Congratulations and welcome to Hitched!!!

I my experience, people who say nasty things like that to you and refuse to be happy for you are mostly just jealous. Don't you worry about it - get stuck into your wedding planning and you'll be fine.

I've had 16 months between booking the venue and getting married but we have been engaged 2 years past in July. We didn't want to get married straight away but that was just a personal choice. Its totally up to you what you want to do and when.

Firstly, Congratulations! what a wonderful, romantic proposal - you really are a lucky girl!!

My fiance and I got engaged just 6 months after meeting and i guess people just thought it was a flash in the pan thing so they didnt take much of an interest. 5 years and 2 kids later we finally got around to setting the date (15th april 2010), and now people are like, OMG thats so soon!!! ?

Hmm, anyway, the main thing is that is YOUR decision and if you are happy to organise it in that time frame then you go for it! I have kept mine really small and simple (budget is v-e-r-y stretched) but at the end of the day you have to do what makes you happy.

Dont let peoples reactions get you down, im sure your mum will soon be as excited as you!

Happy planning x

Hi, congratulations and welcome to hitched. We've been engaged a year this month and get married this time next year, we're just under 2 years. We we're thinking this year originally but because we're getting married abroad our family and friends wanted time to save up and come with us. Plus an extra year of savings is nice. x

Hey lucie congratulations on the engagement. My fiance proposed to me in july 2008 and my wedding is booked for sept 2011. I would have wanted it sooner but we got a lot of saving to do for it and I hate being rushed and dont deal with stress very well, but thats just me. Its really up to you when you want to get married, no-one else and some peple even arrange a marrage within 6 weeks. If you are planning on getting married in may 2010 I would recomend you get the main things booked asap (venue etc). Also reading magazines for inspiration and attending wedding fayres will give you ideas and prices for everything else. Although we are getting married in 2 years I am really enjoying planning it and looking for ideas so good luck and have fun x

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Hi Lucie - congratulations ? the seemeingly negative reactions from firends/family is surprisingly common. For me my biggest support/people interested are a few of my close girl friends - H2B also has friends who are really thrilled for us. Both our parents are supportive but only one of H2B's siblings has been happy for us (there's 2 brothers and 2 sisters plus OH) the rest have been a bit like "oh it's so soon". I think this is mainly down to the fact that we are both the youngest in our families and neither of us have had a previous serious relationship - we're just lucky we met each other young ❤️ We got engaged last November on my birthday and are getting married on 9th Oct (reg office) with church blessing in December. Once people got used to the idea and started getting more involved things get better - OH's oldest sister may be making us a cake!! I don't think people realise how hurtful their reactions can be especially if they've never been in the situation themselves. As others have said - we're always excited to hear about everyone plans are going ? sorry for the long post!! Neph x

It was exactly 15 months from getting engaged to getting married for me. To be honest I had loads of time to plan and in terms of planning it could have done it loads quicker. You work with the deadlines you have got. I had nothing left to do a good 6 months before the wedding, other than last minute bits you cant do till nearer the time.

Good luck

Hi! I'm getting married on 29th May 10 and we've allowed 19 months (got engaged October 08) - mainly due to having to save up to pay for all of it ourselves. I'm sure 8/9 months is plenty of time to arrange your wedding. When you have such a long time to plan there are many things you can't plan because it's too far in advance which gets very frustrating - you will not have that problem! Good Luck!

Thank u to all u girlies!! I'm pleased im not alone.

We've decided to wait til May 2011 to give us time to save up and plan. I've also lost a friend which is upsetting (she has been a friend since age of 11years old) but when i told her we had got engaged her reply was 'you are the most sefish person i know and i'm not interested!'

This reply was totally unexpected as she has been one of my best friends for nearly 15years. Unfortunatly her life is not going so great at moment so im not allowed to be happy or have anything good happen in my life or even talk about my life! Apparently i should be listening to her problems and sorting them out (This is a regular occurance with me regularly having dump her abusive boyfriends, sort out problems she has at work etc). Nice huh! So she is now an ex friend which means one less bridesmaid to pay for i guess!

Sad i know but i've decided a friend is someone who is there for u through good and bad and should be happy for you regardless. Not nasty and vicious at a time of happiness!

xxx

Hiya, Congrats!

I think you have plenty of time!

We have been 'engaged' without a ring for a while and been talking about getting married for ages but kept putting it off due to money.

But we decided at the end of June this year to set a date as my partner was left a small amount of money and we wanted to put it to good use, we are getting married on nov 6th this year, so had just over 4 months to plan and pay for everything.

I have 3 kids, who've just gone back after 7 wks of summer hols (1 with a broken arm!), and so have lots still to organise as I really haven't got anything done or sorted over the hols. I'm now starting to panic just a little bit as hitched is now telling me there is only 59 days to go!!! agh! I am mostly organising things on my own as my partner works full time and I'm not overly keen on getting my mum or mil to be involved too much as they tend to get carried away and take over!

Anyway, as I said before I'm sure you'll be fine, good luck!!!