just got engaged - where do I start???

Firstly, congratulations! I cried as soon as I'd said yes and was very emotional for the first couple of weeks, it will die down I'm sure.

Secondly, it's very possible! We started with a budget then a rough guest list to help us with numbers to find a venue. The venue was the next job, and I would try to get that sorted sooner rather than later. Good luck! And welcome x

Massive Congratulations!!!

I didn't get chance to cry as OH did all the crying for me ? He's such a big softie.

First things first.... This is you and OH's wedding day so do what you want. Don't let anyone try and persuade you differently. And 11months is ages.

I think the first things you need to book are things like venue and church, photographer, and cars if you're having them as they get booked well in advance. And then the dress. That's the exciting bit.

But we are always here to help out and answer questions.

Happy Planning x

Hello and congratulations!

It's definately possible to organise a wedding in under a year, we are doing it. Some things you will need to book sharpish especially the venue, photographer and cars as they get booked up quite far in advance.

Firstly though to combat the interfering parents have a sit down with OH and work out what is important to you both and don't compromise on those things. Make sure you have the wedding you both want and not what everyone else wants.

Definitely do-able, I got engaged in Jan and am getting married in Oct - abroad for 60 people, managed all the venue, accom, photographer, catering etc no problem.

We were looking in london though, there are so many options that you'll find something easily! It depends on whether you're looking for a church ceremony as they'll be pretty booked up - there are LOADS of different venues in London that hold ceremonies too; stately homes in richmond / kew etc, or even private members clubs for hire in central london. What we did was picture our perfect day (which for us was surrounded by just close friends and family, somewhere warm and private where we had the run of the place- found a perfect place in the french countryside) and work from there. So if you want a sophisticated formal affair, a traditional white wedding pr a massive knees up with as many mates as possible etc, just picture it and once you know the style and size, you can start looking accordingly.

Good luck X

Where do you start???? You started in the right place, here!

congrats to you both. We are all here to help

Congratulations and welcome to hitched!

I'd get your big things sorted first, church if you're having church service, venue and photographer. Possibly florist as well as June can get busy. Oh and dress as some can take 6 months to make and it can take a little while to shop around.

It's definitely do-able in less than a year - we have 9 months to plan ours and so far (touch wood) all is going well!

Congratulations and welcome to hitched - you are not mad you have lts of time to plan your wedding. There have been some previous hitchees who have planned weddings within a matter of a few months x Good luck and welcome once again x

hey hey!!

Congratulations!!! Well I didnt cry, but i did feel a wee lump in my throat when we told my mother and she hugged us both!! Aw you will be fine with getting organised in 11 months! We're doing it in 10!! You do need to start organising things pretty soon but enjoy it! And tell your folks to calm down! It will be totally fine! Remember its YOUR wedding, and explain it to your mum where you want to get married etc and she will come round! Her wee girls getting married!

O and this is a great place for advice and tips! Everyones very honest!!

Thanks ladies....

Mum's already being a real pain over the whole location thing. She did the "your father and I are hurt and disappointed you don't want to come home to be married and by getting married in London you will be cuttingus out of everything".

I can see that this is going to become a real problem. Thing is, location is not negotiable. my fiancee is French, so we have family comming from France (some of whom do not speak English t all) so I don;t think I can ask them to get themselves to a remote village in Cheshire. But London? yes, that should be do-able. Besides, it's what we want...

it enfuriates me, that the day we got engaged she sat there and said "it's you day, you must do things the way you want to" and then straight away turns around and critisises our firat descision (oh yes, and she wants the invites to come from her and Dad, not from us, despie the fact that I think this is a touch on the old-fashoined side!)

<sigh> did anyone else have these problems so soon??

My main family issue was and still is the guest list with 10weeks to go and all invites already sent!! My parents just can't get into their heads that not every single member of their familys are getting invited!!

They criticised my food, transport, weight!!! You name it, Parents think they can get away with it because they are your parents. I'm just waiting for the snide remarks from my nan (dad's mum) who told my mum that as it her daughters wedding she should have as much say as she likes. I don't think so. This is the nan I haven't seen in about 10years as she doesn't want anything to do with us really.

I thought invites only came from your parents if they paid for the wedding. Try that tactic with them and I'm sure they will change their minds lol.