Just had my first Bridezilla meltdown... at work...

I can sympathise! My mother, bless her is great but only if its the way she wants it, if its the way I want it and thats different then she is a complete pain and as awkward as possible! My CBM doesnt even know what my dress looks like, let alone the fact that its been chosen and on order! Nor does she have the faintest interested in the wedding, even though I have just done everything to make sure her daughter had the best christening ever! In fact, she will have received the save the date card by now and not a mention or a text. Nothing! I am quite self sufficient too and like to be in control but thought all the planning would be great fun with friends and family, and so far its just me! But i'm sure they would all complain if we said actually we are doing the wedding for just us!!

Sorry no advice there - just feel the same way as you! I guess we just cant let it get to us and ruin our day, and remember why we are doing it. If they dont want to enjoy it with them then never mind. There are only two poeple that matter at the end of the day! - Why is it so much easier said!?

x

I feel your pain i told my mum last weekend that we may finally have a venue and she didn't seem to care in the slightest whereas oh mum was trying to force a grand on us for the event some people just dont seem to care that much

I thought I'd been doing pretty well to be honest, dress and flower problems aside, although last night I just completely went off on one because I was getting myself stressed over confirming things with the chair cover people and our florist and the fact that the two of them need to liaise with each other, blah, blah, blah. After a little chat with mum I realised that it was such a small thing to be getting worked up about but I'd managed to give myself another stinking headache and blurt out, "this better be bloody worth it" and "this stupid poxy wedding" infront of OH. Oops. He knew I didn't mean it though!

Beccy

You can't start freaking out, then I will have to start panicing too!! Don't worry, I would rather have no-one there rather than people who are not as interested or excited as you. it totally kills my spirit when i'm hyper and excited and then someone kills it. Damn them!! Chin up - they will all be sorry when they realise its too late to get involved!!

xxx

Sorry, really don't know why I posted it when I wasn't finished!

I meant to say I'm really sorry about people not taking an interest Beccy. It's such a horrible feeling and that's how I felt at the beginning. My mum is now rather actively involved in the planning! We're nearly there! Sending you lots of hug vibes x

1) I can sympathise. Mine called me yesterday (after organising a brilliant weekend) to talk to me about BM shoes. I tried to say that I really wasn't bothered and was letting them choose. I don;t know what else she said as I just left the phone on the sofa. I could have been bothered by her but frankly there are more important things to worry about. She probably felt silly when she had talked herself out and realised no-one was listening. She called again an hour later to talk about something completely different, without even mentioning the shoes so I assume she got the hint.

2)I went on my own to my first two fittings. It's really not a big deal. My first one took less than 10 minutes. I do have one 'slave coming with me to my (hopefully) last fitting, but more so someone knows how to do it up

3)You still have the best part of two months. I'm not really expecting anyone to get excited until the last week, I only started to get excited this weekend.

When you put it all into persepctive, it's not a big deal and certainly not worth getting upset about. Just keep doing it on your own, or with h2b, and it will all be worth it in the end.

Thanks girls.

Dec - glad to hear your Mum is taking more of an interest given how she's been on late.

SK - you're absolutely right, I'm a control freak anyhow so even if they were interested I wouldn't let them help me anyway! I think my frustrations are more deep seated non supportive family issues as opposed to actually being wedding related iyswim, they're just being highlighted now! 10 mins - blimey, I can be home in time for The One Show (joke!) - you're right, don't need anyone there until the final one so they can safely get me in it!

Will stop freaking out and treat myself to a glass of vino after the dress fitting tonight!

And maybe a Gu Chocolate pot....?

Am I the only one who said that they would never be a bridezilla or let planning a wedding become stressful or make them upset? Despite making all these promises to myself, I have still (take this weekend for eg.) had those moments. something to do with the magic of weddings I suppose, they hold a greater power than I first imagined...

? feel for you so much....

if it helps, which it wont, i went to my last dress fitting alone on Saturday, tried it on infront of my FIL2B girlfriend last night and bawled because she is saying/expressing/doing all the things which my mum should be doing. Apparantly i look stressed at the moment, but i think my stress = alone

Anyway, sorry taken over with the poor me again....listen where is your dress fitting? i would be happy to come with you but not sure where you are or if it is in the slightest geographically possible but if i can i will. Chin up chick, all that matters is you have everything you need in your h2b.

That's the spirit! It's such lovely weather today I might even have some myself tonight! Oh and have you seen those Gu Rocky Roads or Millionaire Flapjacks? I haven't tried them but they look yummy! x

Bless you CG, that's very sweet of you - as SK said I'll be in and out before I know it, plus this way they'll all be astounded when they see me on the day in it for the first time!

Dec - uhhh.... no had not heard of these.... will scuttle off to Waitrose in a bit and investigte!!