I have sorted the TOG! Money is back in my account and he is very apologetic! He has been proactive and in touch to make sure money has gone in so all good there! Thanks everyone for all your support and kind words! I was going stir crazy and you all helped!
Also on the bay of e dress front...sent back and should be receiving a refund and have bitten the bullet and bought a shop one, alfred angelo and its stunning, i feel 10 times more amazing in it which is hard to beleive!
So thanks everyone for all your help over both the tog and the dress!