Levels of prudishness

Am exactly the same. Never get involved in conversations like that (online or off). I remember on here once I replied to the question 'what comes first the chicken or the egg' with something like 'i always come first'. Bleugh. Why would I put that? 5 years or so on and I still cringe. ?

I would HATE going to an Ann Summer's party too, but regarding the "sex thread", sometimes it's good to get advice from people who "don't know" you.

I'm glad that I'm not the only one ? Definitely agree about male strippers. Urgh. But that is on the grounds of taste, not decency IYSWIM. . I really wouldn't say that I'm repressed (or doth I protest too much ?) but I am extremely uptight about discussing sex with anyone other than my partner.

I wouldn't answer no, its just not something I can be bothered to think about and i have no interest in how often other people do - Its completely pointless to know about and for a large number of people, I feel queasy even thinking about it....

Mind you I wouldn't get precious about it, I'm not prudish, i just don't care. Its like asking how often you masterbate- how could it be relevant to anyone else?

I am not a prude, but i didnt answer for the simple reason that i dont care how often other people have it, so i dont see why they should care how often i have it. then again, if i was having it 5 times a day, i may have answered!?

I'll hold my hand up to say that I tried replying to that other thread but my prude 'o' metre kicked in before I could post.

I wouldn't say I'm repressed, but I'm definitely uncomfortable with the idea of certain things. For example, I'm amazed at the number of women that have vibrators. The only way this conversation has come up is when enough alcohol has been consumed, but I've had to admit to never owning or have used one. That doesn't mean to say I don't like the idea of one, I would, it's just the physically buying one that I can't get over. Just last weekend, we were at a shopping park in Germany and we'd been joking about going to this sex shop across the carpark to buy one. The reality of it was just a bit too much, and to be honest a bit too seedy to actually go through with.

that's where the internet comes in handy ?

I'm not a prude by any stretch but I couldn't reply because I think it'd be disrespecftul to my H. I don't mean that those who did reply are being disrespectful to theirs but Mr Braw is quite a shy fellow and would be absolutely horrified if he knew I'd posted. I even deleted a post on another thread asking advice on relationship issues that we'd been through. It was left long enough for the OP to read but after that I felt it a little unfair to him to have his personal business a point of public record.

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I did answer on the other thread...I think it doesn't matter either way. I think respecting how people react to these kind of convos is the key.

I personally don't like the word prudish, it sounds so judgemental against people just being themselves and their own values. That isn't me saying in this sense it is judgemental as it is a discussion on a forum but in real life I have heard people use this word against others and it wasn't very nice.

It's a weird topic. I actually quite like talking about my sexlife (and my husband doesn't mind me doing so) but the idea of an Ann Summers party makes me cringe. I also think there's a time and a place, so to speak.

It's down to individual choice but I don't think people should be looked down upon for either wanting to talk about sex, or equally, not wanting to do so.

I'm more than happy to talk about sex - I don't have a prudish nature by and large. That said, I don't discuss mine and Mr JK's relationship here because he's here too. It would be something I'd want to discuss with him first. I'm happy to provide my solo sex details though - they're mine to disseminate, or not, (did you see what I did there - disseminate - disemenate) as I feel fit.

I nearly bought a friend a vibrator after hearing a very similar tale of woe. I didn't in the end because I thought it might send out quite the wrong signals (she was a close friend's younger sister, I'd known her since she was fifteen and it would just have been too weird), but I certainly wouldn't have been fazed by the actual purchase.

Mind you, I gave my ex a vibrator for Christmas once, and she took it to her parents and unwrapped it in front of them. ? The punchline was that it was her idea in the first place: she'd completely forgotten what she was getting!

On a more serious note, I think prudishness is only a problem in a relationship if there's a very sharp difference between your attitudes. JK has a mind like a sewer on a particularly hot summer's day, so we're very well matched - but we've both had problems in the past with people who were less... frank about certain things.

I must be completely slow tonight JK, that took a minute or two ?

I definitely don't judge people who replied on the other thread. I'm just unable to be so frank myself. Different strokes for different folks I guess (that was less subtle wasn't it).

That's pretty much how I feel. I have no issue discussing sex, or my own sexuality but it doesn't seem fair talk about H's sex life without his consent. He doesn't post on here but I have a couple of RL friends on here that he's met and will meet again.

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Me three. Plus, my sister posts on here sometimes, and well, that just wouldn't be right ?

Nope, I wouldn't. It's my business and that of Mrs Greenback. She doesn't post here so it's not even fair to discuss. That said, I think I can get away with my facetious reply at the moment ?.

You're not strange at all. I am a filthy caaah by my own admission and am by far a prude ? but my sex life is private. I like reading about other peoples though! I too, would feel disrespectful to Mr T. Fairplay to those who have replied though. I would just feel too guilty if I did iyswim.