life after weding

Hi, have you spoken to your OH about your worries? I don't think anyone expects their new married life to suddenly be 'perfect' though.

Well I am not married as yet, but I sure do hope my life will not change after marriage! Why would it do you think?

I'm not expecting much to change TBH.

I'm not a perfect girlfriend or DIL now, but I try and everyone seems happy enough. ANd that's all you can do!

As much as I've enjoyed wedding planning, I am looking forward to just being married and having time, energy and money to start putting towards our furture rather than 'the wedding'. I can't wait to start looking to buy our next house (although I will be sad to wave goodbye to our first one), saving for maternity leave and holidays and just doing all the things married couples do!

The only thing that changed, was when we argued I threw my ring at him rather than a lamp, so he's far better off now.

Am not expecting anything to change after we are married, apart from my name and maybe a bit of hassle remembering who i have to inform about my name change, but as far as mine and OH's relationship, well nothing will change. Neither of us are pefect as it is and nothing will change. :-)

The fact that you are even thinking about these things says alot about you. Clearly you care very much about building good relationships with both your OH and your in-laws so as long as you keep this as a goal, I'm sure you'll do well. No one is perfect and you shouldn't expect perfection of yourself. Just be caring, compassionate, and communicate and you'll be fine.

Don't be afraid of what's to come because you and your OH will have committed to facing the future together and your support network will have grown now that you are officially part of his family too.

I literally can not wait for married life. i know things wont change drastically...but for me & my oh theres always been something in the way of just being...firstly it was distance...then wedding being the all consuming act it is. i cant wait to be us and lovely and have money back & enjoy each other.

the OH doesnt thing marriage will change anything.

for you thought jenifer, i would maybe think that you OH is wanting to marry you now so must think you are perfect person for him

Hee hee hee hee heee!!!!! I love this!!

I cannot WAIT to be married. I also don't expect anything to change except more chat about things other than the wedding!!

Nothing really changes after your married except (if you have rings) your hands are a little heavier!!

The only change for me was that i got my mind back! The wedding really is all consuming on you at times and to wake up and know that you don't have to plan anymore is just wonderful!

? @ ER! I'll bet the lamp was happy too!

It's a piece of cake.

In all seriousness... spam tags aside... nothing changed.

I am not perfect, neither is he. But we are perfect for each other.

Life doesn't change! For us, being married felt different and that was lovely. Little things like calling him my husband, but general life is the same.

I have to disagree. Even though we lived together pre-wedding, so nothing technically changed, our relationship does feel different - in a very good way - since we got married. Not that we weren't committed before, but now it feels like we have stood up and said to the world "This is us, and we are going to be there for each other forever" and it DOES feel stronger. I'm not a perfect wife all the time, and he's not a perfect husband always, but we try our best!

Erm no...because you are human! Dont put pressure on yourself. Your relationships with your OH & MIL2B are what you both make them. Things seem more 'serious' after the wedding - you've made the ultimate commitment. But that should be a positive attribute.

Life after the wedding is good....bit more disposable income, free time for other pursuits etc.....

Enjoy the run up though - I miss wedding fairs, cake tastings and generally looking a girly sparkly things ?

Post-life wedding for us was quite stressful because we had a lot of house problems to deal with and the fallout from that has taken us a while to recover from. The nicest thing has been not having to plan a wedding anymore! It's like we've reached the top of a big hill and it's all strolling along at our own pace from here on in. There's no "next step" for us to try and get to (we already have kids so that wasn't a huge pressure) so we can just sit back and let our lives unfold now. That's a very soothing outlook.

I'm probably going to get shouted down here, but if theres no change then what is the point!

Our life/relationship is dramtically going to change, we dont live together and dont plan to until we come back from Honeymoon, yes this is very rare these days Its a choice we have bother made as it just feels right for us and makes it all the more exciting and special. But regardless of that its a new chapter of your life, more secure, a stronger team, and a best friend to grow old with ?

Love it! Absolutely right ?

Hi,

thanks for your advice.but you know m just worried about that i am going in different family which very differ from my family and am not very adjustable in nature .....that why i was thinking may be my nature would make trouble.otherwise i am very exited for my wedding and wedding cake too....??