Life is cruel

So sorry to hear about your fiancee.?

3 days is a very short time, I imagine everything still feels very raw and painful still. It will take time for you to feel better and you need to mourn for Jimmy. Do what you need to survive at this sort of time, whether it be venting on here, talking to RL friends or speaking to someone impartial.

Take care?

Thank you so much.

I guess i just needed to know i wasnt totally alone. My son has gone to his dads till tonight and the house is so cold and empty - bit like me right now.

It is a short time but it feels forever. My memory is awful at the moment, I cant think straight. I have no idea what i am doing. It's so painful having to tell other people too.

I know it will get easier, i will find a way to live my life with Jimmy still inside me rather than beside me but i really cant see it right now.

Thanks again

Of course your memory is awful - you must have so much running around your head at the moment. Try and make sure you do the basics - eat and sleep. The rest doesn't matter as much at the moment. Also keep a pad and pen handy so you can write things down as you think of them. Is someone helping you with the funeral arrangements?

Life will get easier but that is no consolation now at all. 3 days really is no time at all but they have probably felt like some of the longest days of your life.

Maybe it would help to have someone staying with you - a friend or relative?

I cant eat but am managing to catch a few hours at night.

Jims was part of a big family, It was decided by them and me that it would be easier if they arrange the funeral but are running everything past me first. So far we agree with everything so working out well.

Pad and pen good idea and i have notes everywhere in the kitchen but no incentive to do anything about them right now.

Family and friends are constantly texting and asking me to go over or want to come here. I have put most of them off. They cant bring Jimmy back to me and I would rather be alone but find i need to talk sometimes hence coming on here.

I cant talk when crying but i can type, its much easier.

How terribly unfair life is ?

sometimes saying things on here is easier than face to face with family and friends and there are plenty of people on here to listen to you

RIP Jimmy

Sandie, thats just awful, I am truly, truly sorry for your loss ?

3 days is an incredibly short time to deal with everything, things will settle in time, maybe you could have someone come and stay with you for a while until things start to settle down?

Nothing I can say can make it better but just I couldn't read and run. Take care lovely ? RIP Jimmy ?

Sandie I cant say anything at all because it wont help you right now. I just wanted to give you a ?

Thank you so much. Your messages have made me cry (again) but that is i have done since Thursday night anyway.

I am sure i will feel better in time, i just cant see that at the moment but i will get there. I have to, i have 2 children and they need me and right now i need them.

I am worried that i cant eat and being a bit personal sorry, but i am bleeding and i shouldnt be. I got another 2 weeks before i should be and i cant sleep but i know i will sleep when i get tired enough.

Thank you for your kind words, they mean a lot

x

The bleeding is probably down to stress but if you are worried go to the doctor,

have you seen the dcotor about something to help you sleep or just to cope with what is going , when i lost my dad the doctor gave me something to get me through the week or so of hell after he died and also gave my mum something to help her sleep

Life really can be unfair and I'm so sorry for your loss ?

RIP Jimmy.

I know eating will be tough at this time but try and make sure you eat something even if it is only the odd biscuit with a cup of tea.

Don't worry about not having the incentive to do things - I am sure that will come back eventually.

Do think about seeing some of your friends or family. I imagine they are desperately worried about you and want to give you some tlc and maybe even take care of some of the practical things for you - ensuring you have food and drink etc. Don't worry if you don't feel you can talk to them now - they will understand.

And come on here as much as you need ?

Oh Sandie I am so, so sorry for your loss.

It has been such a short time - i'm not surprised you're finding everything so, so difficult.

In practical terms, severe stress can do strange things to our cycles - just as it can prevent your period from arriving, it can also make it arrive early. Keep an eye and if you get concerned go to the doctor.

You know where we are if you need to off-load

Redbedhead is right. I did not want to say it because I know seeing them is the last thing you want to do and it will be painful for you but they will look after you even if it is just for an hour or two.

You are right. Life is cruel. My thoughts are with you.

Rest In Peace Jimmy

I'm so sorry for your loss. I have no real worrd but ewcho what everyone has said previously, just take care of yourself. (((((HUGS))))

Gosh, I can't say anything that will make things different for you, but you are in my thoughts ?

RIP Jimmy x

I'm so sorry for your loss. You poor thing, how devastating.

Don't worry too much about the memory loss, it's the shock, and in my experience of sudden loss, it seems to be a protection mechanism. Because some memories are too raw.

Just get from one day to the next. No-one will expect anything else, and nor should you. I'm glad you feel you can come here - grief is a lonely, lonely thing.

Oh, how devastating. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. ?

Life can be so incredibly cruel.

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss - you sound a very brave lady though. Try to take some comfort from your family and friends at this sad time for you and take each day as it comes.

Thinking of you - take care x

Thank you all so much. But i cant go on like this for long, i will have to go back to work soon.

My family are trying but i am not making it easy and i dont mean to. My sister is coming over tomorrow whether i like it or not and Jim's sister is constantly hassling me to go down to her.

I find it easier to talk on here. No one can see me crying and i can type better than talking right now.

I am lonely and i feel so alone. Even when i have people around me i still feel alone. I just find them all suffocating and need to be on my own.

I have to cancel the wedding cause Jim didnt have any life insurances. He always said they only invite what they stand for so cancelling the wedding will pay for his funeral.

I'm so sorry to hear your awful news. i can only echo what everyone else has said. Your hitched friends are here for you to offload at but your RL friends will be too.

Take care. x

What an absolutely horrible thing to have happen. You must feel so raw and painful I don't have any words of comfort,

only that my thoughts are with you.

Please feel free to post on Hitched.That's what this community is good for: Support.

Its is horribly cruel and I really feel for you.

I hope you start to feel better soon, but things will take time.

Please look after yourself and take as much time as you need to grieve ?

I'm so sorry for your loss Sandie. We're here if you need to talk x

I am so sorry to hear your sad news, life can really suck sometimes.

Take care of yourself and allow yourself to grieve in whatever way you need to.

I am so sorry for your loss, be kind to yourself.

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Don't worry just now about going back to work. If you're not ready to go back (and it sounds like you're not) go and see your doctor.

Please let people help you. They will not mind that you are crying. ?

I'm so sorry for your loss, Sandie, what an awful thing to happen.

Do come here if you need to talk, try and take care of yourself and let people help you ?

I'm so sorry for your loss, life is so horribly cruel.

Please try and look after yourself and everything will take time so just do what you can when you're ready. Take care ?

Sandie, I'm so so sorry for your loss. You're right, life is cruel. I'm just so sorry.

Just take it all one day at a time, it's still so soon and the pain must just be so raw. If you feel you can open up or "talk" on here then please do whenever you need to, Hitched is a wonderful community at times like this and there will always be someone here to offer support or just to listen if that is what you need.

Once again, I'm just so sorry.

Roobarb ?

Oh Sandie, how utterly tragic and I'm so sorry for your loss.

As everyone else has said, Hitched is a great place when you just want to talk, rant, offload whatever.There's usually someone around even in the early hours.

Oh darling, I'm so very sorry for your loss. ? It really isn't fair at all and you're right, it is cruel.

Take one day at a time and please try to take care of yourself, even if only a little.

Much love, please remember we are always here. ?

To Jimmy. ?