Life Sucks - depressing story Final update

Big hugs for you hun xxx

I don't know what to say, so have a ?

You are right, life sucks.

xx

hun im so sorry, i know life is a bugger sorry for using that word, but i can understand ur point my best friend died when he was 13 of cancer and i will never forget that day, but stay strong for yourself and for your family they need you.....

can't think what to say really but have a hug?

What makes it worse is that I tried to tell my brother (not had contact for over a year) and he wasn't interested. How someone can be so heartless is beyond me.

I want to be a child again and not have to deal with this, how sad am I. My poor cat keeps looking at me and meowing, bless her.

i dont get that either when someone is heartless it makes me mad!

your cat knows ur upset and wants to give you "love" give her a cuddle

First things first, have a ?

You're right, life does suck, and it is unfair. And getting it out your system will make you feel better. Vent as much as you like. You know we're all here to offer support/opinions/comfort.....whatever you need. And all without prejudice.

I know it seems like theres no point in looking forward to anything right now, but thats not the case. I'm sure your family wouldn't want you to put your life completely on hold. Yes, do what you have/need to do as regards to your aunt, but don't stop looking forward to the good stuff. When rubbish like this happens, it only makes you realise how little time we may have, and how we should enjoy every single second. Make the most of the time we have.

Keep your chin up sweetheart, and stay strong and positive for your family, and for you. Letting it all out makes everything seem so much clearer in your head. You're stronger than you think, you know.

xxxx

Purrfect .... I know this feeling totally. And I also wonder how life can be so fucking unfair.... how some people can go thru' life being a pile of shyte whilst others get dealt a card like your Aunt (and my aunt....)

To reflect what others have said, you ARE stronger than you know and your cat will be picking up on your hurt, she wants to comfort you....

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Is it normal to feel so angry whilst being really upset? I've not had many deaths to deal with luckily but don't generally handle upset very well.

big hugs

Mazz that just made me cry more. Thanks though it all makes sense.

I was going to ask my aunt for a something borrowed or old for my wedding but bringing that up seems selfish now like I'm only interested in my day when hers is ending.

Absolutely totally normal. Its a big thing to take in and process, and you'll end up going through every emotion in the book-expected or otherwise. It sounds daft, but ride it out. You need to talk about it and get it out there. It'll pass, in time, I promise.

xx

I'm no expert but I have felt overwhelming anger at the same time as being an emotional wreck. It doesn't help when you feel you are on your own (OH away, brother not caring) ... I've had to deal with some pretty heavy stuff in recent months/years (infact sometimes it feels like most of my adult life!) to do with my immediate family and sometimes I've felt like the only person who gives a damn, or who is even aware of the problems. it can totally floor you, leave you confused and wondering how you are SUPPOSED to feel .... there is no hard fast rule - its a case of dealing with one day at a time.

I didn't mean to make you cry! Sorry.

I think it'd still be nice of you to ask her. It'd make her feel special and important, and if she can't be there in person, then you'll still have something of her's there with you. Personally, I think its a lovely gesture, and she'd be honoured to know you care about her so much.

I know exactly how you feel, my SIl has been battling on for almost 2yrs now, she is just over 5stone after being 13 st. She is riddled with cancer absolutely everywhere & has astounded the docs with her will to live. Unfortunately she is Terminal & will not survive but refuses to go down without a fight.

I have lost 4 friends this year to Cancer & buried one of them on Friday morning. It is totally unfair & I hate this bloody cruel disease.

thinking of you & you know where I am. xx

Thanks everyone. I'm going to switch the laptop off now and finish off some jewellery and then go to bed and try to sleep. Thanks for the hugs and support. xx

Sorry to hear about your friend and your sister. My aunt has just given up we think as she had hoped to have chemo but then got told she was too ill for the treatment and since then just gave up and didn't even want to get out of bed.

My poor parents are meant to be going on holiday on Saturday so they don't know what to do. Every time they go on holiday something always happens to ruin it.

Will update everyone tomorrow after I visit her. Night night xx

Oh Lyns I've been out all night so have missed this I'm sorry. So sorry to hear things have got worse. I really haven't got anything helpful to say other than you know where I am if you need a moan and rant and how life is crap and cruel sometimes. I'm sure there are better people to give advice about how to deal with things etc but I'm hear to listen. Oh I wish I wasn't a million miles away so I could give you a hug. xxx

Sherrie, I am so so sorry to hear about your sister and friends. Can't beleive one person has to go through so much heartache in a year :-( xxx

Don't know what to say really but didn't want to read and run, life is so unfair at times. Have a totally inadequate ?.

Like others have said I think your Aunt would still like you to ask about the borrowed/blue bits, give her something possitive to think about.

It's a horrible time for you , you shouldn't be so hard on yourself. I lost my best friend to cancer in June , she was just 40 , with 4 children , at first i couldn't bear to be apart from them or her husband , i was always checking on them , going round everyday. In the end i had to step back & grieve myself , i still see them often & always will , i went through some very strange emoitions , some a bit scary , but it does get better & i honestly never thought it would. So big hugs to you?

Lyns have just seen this now.

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Am so sorry to hear your Aunt is getting worse. You have had a really rough time recently and you have been dealing with things fantastically. Life is so cruel sometimes and I think yours and Sherries strories will hopefully make everyone appreciate what they have and their loved ones around them.

You know where I am whenever you want to chat or moan or shout or cry.

Love M x x x

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Didn't want to r&r, but a big big ? to everyone that has is going through this. i lost my MIL to this horrible disease 18m ago after fighting it so bravely for 17 years, and the loss and hurt is unbearable. it breaks my heart she won't be there to see her son and i married.

don't have anything else to say that everyone else hasn't already said.

xxx

Hope you are feeling better this morning Lyns. Take one day at a time & cry,shout, scream whatever makes you feel better. I had to deal with my Mum losing her Breast 5yrs ago and I remember being numb, angry,sad and thinking why us? It never gets easier but you learn to cope, if you ever need to talk xx

So sorry to hear about this, you're right in the grand scheme of things planning a wedding is nothing compared to what you're going through.

Thanks so much for all the kind replies. My Aunt is just the same this morning so going to see her about 2.30pm. My head is just mince today and I'm sat at work ignoring everyone.

Just a little update to say that my aunt is still holding on. Seeing her was such a shock but glad to have seen her anyway. I didn't ask about the borrowed or old item as I just knew it wasn't the right thing to do right now. She doesn't have any energy and I didn't want to upset her. I did take a picture of me in my wedding dress but even trying to focus on that was too much for her and she wasn't able to look at it.

I quite possibly hate life more today especially when her 15 year old granddaughter was being so brave but then broke down in floods of tears when she saw my mum and her papa upset.

We are just taking things hour by hour now. ☹️

Oh Lyns, I missed this yesterday, I'm so sorry. Really gutted for you all, I hope you can take some comfort from being there for your Aunt when she needs you and for your folks too.

You know you can call me anytime. ?

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I am so sorry to hear your news and really can't say anymore than what has alrerady been said. I just didn't want to read and run.

I often feel life is unfair. I lost my final grandparent last November and was incredibly close to her. She had been fighting fit, as bright as a button, but fell down, had a heart attack and died 6 weeks later. What made things seem cruel, is she recovered from her first heart attack and was packed and ready to leave the hospital, then had a second heart attack. Once again she recovered and was ready to be discharged and the doctors were impressed with her fighting spirit, then she had a massive stroke. How could our hopes be raised in such a way? It seemed incredibly unfair as she was so excited about my wedding and when I last saw her before flying back to Thailand I had absolutely no inkling it would be the last time, if I had I'm sure I would have made it clear to her how much I really loved her.

Perfect Gems, if you want to PM me to chat please do. I went through exactly the same thing just before Xmas and still cry every night...its bloody painful. There isn't anything I can say that can possibly make you feel better, but want you to know you're not alone, and i'll be thinking of you.

Cancer is s**t!

Hi,

Unfortunately my aunt has passed away. I'm glad though that her suffering is over and she can now rest in peace. Thanks to everyone for their support, means a lot. xx

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Lyns words are not enough. I am glad she is now at peace and not in the cruel hands of Cancer anymore.

May she rest in peace now x

Thinking of all concerned xxx

So sorry to hear your sad news, lots of love to you and your family x