limited numbers.. who to invite

oh i am in totally the same predicament- i was thinking of inviting work colleages and partners to th evening- ive never met any of the partners

Only one problem- i get married valentines and dont wana b rude &take them away from their nearest &dearest.

I would probably invite the couple to the evening.

Work colleagues and partners? - evening for both....

there are few people whom would I consider close enuff to invite during to the day, so evening invitations it will be.

I invited the work colleagues I am really friendly with (socialise out of work) and their partners throughout the whole day. Other colleagues I work close with I invited at night along with their partners.

I've never believed in inviting people all day to a wedding without their OH's. If I was restricted in numbers in this way I would have just invited colleagues plus their partners at night.

Thank you all for your replies.
The reason i posed this question is because I'm one of the wives. H works with the groom and was handed an invite today... The invite did not have anyone's name on the envelope or on the invite itself. So he asked if it was for "me and the wife". The groom said no, its just for you but you're wife's more than welcome at the evening do.

To be honest, I would never split a couple up, I didnt do at my wedding. I personally think its wrong to invite 1 to the daytime and the other one to the evening. I thought that it should have been evening only for both of us. I just wondered if anyone else had planned on inviting a couple to different parts of the day.

I am not offended I didn't get an invite, I'm just confused.. why would they do this - having said that, i think "your wife's more than welcome at the evening do" was an after thought.

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hiya!

I have a different pov than everyone else. My dilema is that my venue will take 120 guests in our room.

I work with 29 people and would like to invite 12 of them to the wedding. Our list has been cut from 160 to 120 so we have had to remove a lot of people and change them to evening only or nothing at all.

I spoke to the girls and one guy in work and said that i have a dilema now. I still want them to come but if I have to have partners/wives/husbands, then only 6 couples can come to the day. This would be a hard choice to make. I asked if they would be offended to not receive an all day invitation given i've been talking about the wedding for the last 18 months and know some of them have booked hotels etc as it was given that they would be going.

The general concencus (sp) was that they would go to the day as a group from work and their other halves would come out to the venue for the evening.

This was their decision and i'm delighted with it. I've been at work weddings before without oh and he was only invited to the evening.

It was never seen as abnormal as we were invited as the work group rather than collegue plus one.

just reread the post. They are low on funds so can only invite colleagues, not partners. I think that its lovely that they still want to invite your hubby and include him in their day as they could have easily said no to any colleagues.

I bet the bride wouldn't have thrown you in as an afterthought. Its just the way men say things

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I don't actually like anyone I work with so none of them will be invited to any of it (hopefully I won't be working here then anyway!)! H2B worked for a company with only 5 people in it so its all or nothing with them really. Going to wait until we have a better idea of numbers before inviting them as we may not have enough space for them in the day time - there would be 15 people with partners and kids! otherwise they'll all just be evening invites!

I work in a hair salon, we're quite a close knit team of 20 and we do socialise a lot together with and without partners. When we announced that we'd set the date for our wedding I explained the situation to people with regards to numbers (that we wouldn't be able to invite OH's to the day due to restrictions on numbers and budget, and that we wouldn't mind if they would prefer to only come to the evening as a couple) and every single person was more than happy to come alone and invite OH's to the evening. The general consensus was that they would prefer to come and see me get married alone rather than miss out just because their OH wouldn't be able to come.

It is a difficult one and I think it really depends on if the bride/groom know the colleagues' partners in which case keep them together or if they often socialise as a group and they could be asked their opinion as stated above.

We invited H's boss & wife to the day (worked for him for 13+ years) and everyone else with partners to the evening. For him that was all the other lads he works with (small company) but I could only invite my team and direct colleagues plus colleague from my last job that I'd only left 6 months previous and were still good friends.

im in a similar situation with some family. I have to decide which cousins etc get to bring their partners with them. All of my cousins are young and unmarried, but it is still a case of having to invite 1 to the day and both to the evening. This isnt through choice or trying to keep the cost down, it is literally because the ceremony can only hold x ammount of people. If i was inviting someone to the ceremony, i would automaticly invite them along with their wife/husband. I am choosing which partners arnt comming on seriousness of relashionship!!!

As far as colleuges are concerned i would have invited them and partner to the evening only.