Well this has taken some writting! Our wedding day really was everything I could have asked for, and i've now finished writting my memory diary to find it's 50+ pages in A4 long - so i've struggled to cut it down to a readable size... It's a bit better but still more of a bottle of wine needed than a glass!
No professional pics as yet - so just guest pics but will get back with those later on!
Our wedding week!
So, Wedding-14 days – I find myself in a car, with my belongings, signing for our new house, 250miles from “home” using my new married name (which wasn’t yet technically mine!). The unpacking started, but I was calm, relaxed and happy – no excitement, no nerves, just calm….
W-13 days was spent unpacking as were W-12, W-11.
At W-10 at 11pm my OH came home to our new house, seeing it for the first time, he loved it!
On W-9 I carried on unpacking the moving boxes, and packing the honeymoon bags!
W-8 and I found myself in my OHs old “single man” room, on my knees on the bathroom floor scrubbing it, so he could hand back the keys and this is where I spent most of the day.
W-7 and all chilled out – until I started going through the million and one packing lists I’d made, realising, I’d not got all the little bits. At this point, I learn that labelling boxes is a fab idea when moving – 30 boxes and one little plug adaptor was some fun!
OH then chooses this moment to tell me he still needs to pick up bits for his kit – this was 10am and we were leaving for my Moms at 6pm! So we race to get them – a belt and some boots. He picks up the boots and I hate them – not just a little bit, full on tears-like hated. However, these particular boots cannot be bought brand new – the polishing takes weeks, so you have to wait until a pair comes up. We went to the shop, and a size 11 was sitting there waiting for us! H is a 10, but 1 size won’t hurt – much more reasurrred we head home. I stress over the packing so send OH to return the key to his friend. He comes back to find I no longer care, and have stuffed everything in, in a round about way!
By 6:30pm we had packed up the car and my lovely man decided he was going to drive MY car which is always argument invoking! As we got in the car, we just sat in a stunned silence for a moment until I said “Wow, we really are going to get married” and off we went….We’d got about 15mins in to the journey when my first “***” moment came. TBH, thinking back now, I can’t even remember what it was that I had forgotten. OH was calm though and reminded me we’d left a spare key with his Uncle who lived in the next street so we could always send him round for it.
We continued down to my Moms with my poor H feeling more and more sick and nervous. It was bed time by the time we got there, and so we unloaded the car, scattering the contents all over poor Moms house.
Saturday morning looked very busy! We woke up and I left OH in bed as I headed off at 8:30am for my final dress fitting. My mom and auntie came too, so that they could learn how to tie me in and bustle my dress. We were there for about half hour – lots of cooing going on when I walked out, and then the woman laced me in opposite the main mirror. All I could see over my shoulder was the look of sheer concentration as Mom and Auntie Deb watched, taking mental notes! Auntie Deb then had a go at doing it – and we were all happy, set and confident to go! I’d arranged to pick my dress up as late as possible, which was 10am the day before the wedding.
So, off I, Mom and Auntie Deb went into town to do a bit of last minute shopping, to pick up the BM dresses and to grab a lovely breaky in this old-world type café I love. I got a message from H saying he and my stepdad were there and so we all ended up going to breaky. I later found out he was there buying my wedding gift it’s always last minute.com with OH!!
That evening we went to dinner and my H, with his “I am too nervous to eat” polished off 4 courses… On Sunday morning me and OH babysat B our flowergirl because my darling brother had told his GF “I don’t like your dress, it doesn’t suit you” with 8 days till the wedding!! He took his punishment as he had to be dragged around the bullring on a Sunday morning until she found the right dress… 4 hours later!
We also went to see my Nan, who got out these little Babycham flutes I used to love when I was a kid, and did a toast to me and OH – was such a precious moment as at this point we still weren’t sure about whether or not they would be able to make the wedding.
Sunday afternoon was spent doing more packing, and visiting my Dad. I gave him written instructions detailing the exact times when we would need to be there and what he would need.
On Monday morning I had MORE packing to do as we were heading down into Milton Keynes to pick up PIL. As we went, the list of things we needed to buy got longer and longer. We got there, and raced around doing all these jobs, before finally having a bit of downtime. OH had decided at 9am that day that he wanted his suit dry cleaned, and so had bought it into the city for express cleaning – like I say, it’s all about the last minute with OH. FIL cooked a fab meal, and we went to see my 2 SILs new houses. This was when B our 2 year old pageboy said my name for the first time – so cute!!
Another heavy night was over, and on Tuesday morning I got up with MIL and headed to my favourite salon in the world for my pedicure and waxing. At this point, despite me preparing for the wedding for months etc, it still didn’t feel real, or like it was going to happen. I certainly wasn’t nervous, and being completely honest, wasn’t really particularly excited either really.
Once we were done in the salon we packed up the car again, and headed back to my Moms. FIL has asked me to drive home because he was too scared of OHs driving, which was only going to get worse with the nerves!
So, we did the hour and half journey to my Moms and we all stopped and had a cuppa. We then dropped my PIL at their hotel to check-in before me, Mom and my Mother in law went to Morrison’s, again, for more last minute bits and pieces while the boys went to pick up the suits. I arrived back at Moms to find there were 7 suits laid out on the lounge floor! I’d also taken a call from the florist who needed to see us (again) and who needed us to provide our mother’s handbags as their corsages were going on there rather than on their jackets. We agreed I’d pop in the next day.
FIL tried his on first – to find that the trousers were too short! Argh!! So I called everyone else to get them to pick up their suits ASAP and all the men, or should I say the men’s wives, rallied round to sort it out. My brothers GF even took his to work for him to try it on as she was so sure it wouldn’t fit – but it did. My uncle tried his suit on, only to find that it was about 5” too long on the leg, so we pinned those up and the only other slight issue was I read the best man’s measurements wrong and ordered him a 16” collar not a 14” one – oops, but as it turned out, those few inches didn’t make much difference and when he got to try it on, it was fine!
We phoned the shops and they agreed to sort them out at 10am the next day.
It was now that I had my first “arrrrrgh” moment. As you might remember there had been some rioting in London, and on the Monday night it had spread to Birmingham and some of the other cities close by. By 4pm on the Tuesday it was kicking off in my nearest town – Wolverhampton and even my little village had a noticeable police presence. I was panicking about OHs sisters, niece, nephew and Nan who were all coming via train on Wednesday morning, via Birmingham new street. Eventually, OH and his Dad made me switch off the news and agreed that if it came to it they’d meet them at New Street or even drive down and back twice if that’s what it took. After all that I was really ready for some food and so we got ready and wanted just something cheap and cheerful for dinner so headed up to a carvery.
The carvery was alright; it did the job in filling us up but was not exactly the luxury I had planned! As we stood there, a queue of about 20 people waiting to be served my Mother whispered “Get some canestaen for your honeymoon”. When I say whisper it was more of a quiet bark– my brothers GF heard and was in fits of giggles. I then assured her that as I didn’t know what exactly it was for, I was pretty certain I wouldn’t need it?! Cue more giggles.
The rest of the evening passed without much fuss – another quiet night in preparation for the madness!