Little rant

Try not to get wound up i sometimes (not always) feel that those who spend less put that little more effort into planning as they have to look around for the best deals (those that have money to spend i am not slagging yours off) everyone has different priorities and we all do the best with what we have by no means think your wedding is not as good as hers its what you want and thats all that matters, i just hope it doesnt get too catty and you fall out good luck bowski not long now i'm so excited to see how things turn out for you and can't wait for the report good luck xx

I know exactly how you feel.

A friend of ours was getting married recently and so keeps giving us 'hints and tips' of good suppliers for our wedding and would come out with remarks such as:

'oh we found a wonderful tog who we managed to get for a bargain price of just £2.5k!'

I just laugh and say thanks.

But considering our whole wedding day budget is miniscule, there is no way we will be paying anywhere close to that for anything.

But i do believe that i will have my perfect day and no matter how much extra money we threw at it it wouldnt improve

Just ignore her she is obviously jealous that you are using your imagination and creativity to make your day special. i will be doing the same next year as im on a budget and i think the personal touches are far better than paying someone 2k for some flowers which will be dead the next day...sorry got a littled annoyed there.

im having an autumn wedding next year so looking forward to your flashes for more inspiration ?

Try not to let it get to you i think at the end of the day its the personal touches that have a lasting impression on people not how much you have spent on the florist be it 20 pound or 2k pounds xx

Ignore it. She's probably jealous of your creativeness. At the end of the day it isn't how much you spend on venues/TOG's/flowers etc. that makes a wedding special, it is taking your vows and becoming husband and wife. Isn't that the whole point of a wedding? I'm sure your wedding will be perfect, at least you've put your own time and effort in to making it special and not just paid lots of money to some randomer ?

Thanks you've all made me feel loads better!

I can honstly say that even if I did have a big budget I'd not change much, I might have had pocket fold invitations but then again I really like my vista print ones and info sheets so maybe not.

I love my silk leaves and conker table centers and all the things I've spent hours making and putting my heart and soul into. I love the fact that I've managed to use things found in nature to make my wedding more personal.

Stacey - If you need any varnished conkers I have loads!!

Yes pls lol. also where did you get your leaves i cant find where to get them ?

Bowski - most of my wedding was homemade - bouquet, corsages, buttonholes, table decs, table plan, family tree, invites, stationary, children's party bags, table names, confetti cones, etc etc. A few people looked bemused and a few others were horrified when I explained what it would be like, but on the day they ate their words! It looked amazing! In fact I have just got off the phone from my MIL who can't stop telling me how amazing it all looked and how much she apprecaited all the time and effort I put in into little touches for everyone, homemade presents, party bags for OH's nephews and so on.

Stick to your guns and do it your way - it will be fab and reflect you and OH.

I got them from here, be warned they smell of wee when you first get them (it's the dye) but I aired them in a fabric bag on the washing line for a day and they're fine now. I just need to order some more.

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WTS. It's the personal touches (and food and booze!) that really make a wedding. The most costly weddings aren't always the best. Fact.

Agree with above

WSS I've stopped telling people my plans because they just look at me with a polite smile as they can't picture it. I haven't even flashed on here because I've only found one piccy on Google to show it. My Mum thinks I'm silly for spending "too much" on decorations to put in the trees, etc, but I think it will look good.

Whether you pay someone to do something, or whether you DIY, it's the thought that you put into your ideas that makes it special. You can have an amazing wedding for £20,000 or £2000

Was it the for sale bit or the hitched shop as i couldnt see any in the shop not having much luck ?

There is a flip side to this. My parents have contributed to most of the wedding so we have been able to have more than we would had we paid for it ourselves. It may not always come across this way but I am hugely grateful for their contribution. It's not a huge budget but it's not a shoestring either.

One of my BMs was CBM at a friends budget wedding earlier this year and has been really snippy about how 'wasteful' we've been and how unneccessary some of the stuff we're doing is. Yes, I have spent £200 on each of their made to measure dresses but this was so they could have something that they were comfortable in. Yes, our flowers have come from a florist and not picked by bridesmaids from a meadow on the morning of the wedding but I also work full time and am out of the house 14 hours a day unlike this friend who didn't work so could do loads of stuff DIY.

I have tried really hard to find unique and different stuff as cheaply as I could (after all neither parents nor OH&I are made of money) but sometimes its neccessary to buy things in for us. I think my wedding will be perfect, for OH & I, and I have had a great time at some lovely weddings that weren't my style and I hope my friends will see my wedding the same way. It's difficult when people make comparisons, especially sneering ones (whichever way they may be) but as long as you're happy with what you're having rise above it. x

Sorry i appear to have been a dumbass and not posted the link! (I blame first thing in the morning for that) http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/280661272676?ssPageName=STRK:MEWAX:IT&_trksid=p3984.m1438.l2649#ht_1876wt_1037

Anniepie, I've asked her if she'd like to help with anything but she's too busy with her new house and being pregnant which is fine but I don't need her making me feel like poo at work in front of everyone when she's going on about how much she spent on this and that compared to my minimal low budget wedding. It really upsets me when she goes on and on about how her parents paid for this and that when she knows I'm upset that my parents don't give a crap about the wedding they've not been any help financially or support wise other than telling me I'm wasting money when I bought a dress for my bridesmaid and then changed my mind so kept the dress for me as I really liked it anyway and the dress in question was £10.20.

I think she knows what she's doing but I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt, we'll see how she is on the day.

WSS. I went to a wedding two weeks ago where the total budget was about £3k. It was excellent and was one of the best weddings I had been to (apart from my own)!

I dunno, I dont know your friend but part of me thinks she is a) hormonal with being preggers and b) even tho it was her that stood down as bm she maybe still feels a bit out of the loop now and misses being involved.

Not making excuses or anything, I think you should rise about it and don't let it come between you too much, time wil tell after the wedding if she's changed that much.

Your wedding will be lovely, but I do understand where you are coming from.

By the time we get married next year there will have been three wedding in the family SIL to be was in July, MIL to be is in December and we are next year. Out of all the weddings we have had the smallest budget, but I have really enjoyed looking for different ways of doing things and negotiating with suppliers to get the best deals. The other two were just like that dress, those flowers, that cake at the first supplier they visited and because money was not really an issue they didn't really research anything or understand what they were getting or what they could get. I've had comments such as - I wouldn't have got my dress from there! I think sometimes people are a bit envious of your ideas too. The MIL was determined we would get our flowers from the florist they both used - I shopped around and have found florist (friend of a friend) who is going to do me double the flowers at half the price. Your efforts will pay off on the day and I'm sure it will be fantastic.

It isn't nice when someone is snipey about your wedding, or even snipey at all really! She sounds as though she is either a) hormonal b) jealous or c) regrettful that she isn't a BM anymore. I would really try to not let her get to you, I'm sure your wedding will be fantastic and really personal and on the day you wont even give this a second thought. I have to say though, that if it was a really good friend of mine, and I mean a true friend I would probably have to bring this up with her. A friend should be supportive of you no matter what, and this would make me question my friendship with her!

Be proud of yourself!!!

Nothing worse then going to a wedding were thought has not gone into it at all.....and it's just had money through at it !

Have your day how you want it...... forget everyone else .....!

bowski.....fellow hitcherand facebook friend...its times like these when you realise who are your friends and who are not....who is crazy enough to spend 2K on flowers and boost about how silly they were to spend that much, and more fool the parents for allowing it......

My mum is making mine and 5 bridesmaids and 8 buttonholes and something for her and mum in law...and i am very pleased she is...

sarah

Ive ordered them now so wait and see what they are like thanks again ?

They're really nice, I got the red ones as well to add a bit of variety. I actually need to order some more as I don't think the ones I have will be enough.

Have you done your centre pieces yet cant wait to see them

I've trialed them but had to deconstruct them to varnish the conkers. I'll make them up again tomorrow and take a photo, they're not that spectacular but I think they're really pretty and seasonal.