Do you guys remember months ago i asked your advice on sending out 2 lots of invites? One for the day and one for evening, but people in the day to recieve seperate invites to the eve too?
This was because this is how my inlaws did it when their other son got married, and after thinking and looking into it and getting advice from you guys decided no - it would confuse people and be double the work for me as i am making my own invites.
Well, i sent out day invites about 3 weeks ago now, and was going to send eve ones out in mid feb.
On friday mil came up so i could show her all the pics from my dress fitting, and then she gave me a list of people that she wants to come to the evening.
I comented that most were invited to the day, and i would only have to sen off 6 more invites.
well, she wasnt happy with this. She wanted all the guests , day and otherwise to be invited seeratly to the eve and answer seperatly. i explained that we made our decision based on tradition of invites coming from brides parents, but that the seperate eve ones were coming from them.
Then she said something that i genuinly think i must have mis heard.......because i swear she said 'but we are hosting and paying and we might not want to invite all of them....' or something like that. And i just thought, hang on, its our wedding i couldnt give a rats backside who you dont want to invite......
This is the first thing i have ever disagreed with mil on, and it was a weird situation and i held my ground, but after half hour on my own picking dp up from work decided to keep her happy.
I said i would double up on invites, but i want to write and send them. (so i know everyone has been ivited that we want to come!)
She was o with this, but still not totally happy as she felt that they should be written and sent by them as they are hosting.
Its so stupid, and really not a big deal, but i spent the whole night at work last night with a heavy sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. So, i got home after work, finished invites (at 2am) and wrote lists and split the invites up. I took them all round there today so they can write them and send them (and pay the postage!)
I split them into day guests, and evening only guests with the eact no of invites and addreses etc so that it was clear who is invited.
I feel so much better now its done, but still feel a bit bulied into a situation. I understand that they are paying, i just didnt realis that it meant so much to them having everyone know they are paying for the evening.
Dp ever helpful as always agreed with them (even though we decided on one invite to day guests months ago together) and decided to blame my mum because she is recieving the replys instead of his parents - i pointed out that its tradition and his parents will recieve the eve ones....he pointed out that mum isnt paying for the day like my dad is blah blah blah.
Then just as i thought all was settled after the invite fiasco, they call this evenign to ask if they can take our eldest away at half term - lovely normally, but my mum aske to have him ages a go, and so i had to say no as i dont know which days he is with mum yet. Andhe cant do either sat, or the thurs or friday. Now im getting it in the neck again from dp because his parents can thave him, as nothing is set in stone. I hate confrontation and the last thing i want is to annoy or upset anyone, but i can hardly tell y mum 'no, you cant have him to stay cus the came up with a better offer' can i?
and just to finish y moan i watched that julie walters thing on bbc 1 tonight. How depressing. as much as death is awful, i hoped it would be uplifting. Unfortunatly, it want the subject matter that got me (well apart from some similarities between her and my mum) it was the fact that she was just a horrible character.....at least i thought so.
Ok thats it for me and my moaning. I feel so much better now, cus i have been feeling bad since friday, so thanks for reading if you even got this far.
xxx
edited to say sorry for my poor typing - i was going v fast and made many typos.
