Looking for a lodger

his actual words?

Im so sorry PP , really. Do you have any annual leave to take? even if its like a fri and mon?

Good to hear from you PP... keep strong, you can do this.

Fvck him. You don't need him or his selfish childish behaviour. You are better than him.

Do you definitely need a lodger? Can you not stretch to the rent yourself? You would get 25% off council tax which may help?

I'm so sorry Pompey. I don't know anything about getting a lodger but I hope someone comes along soon with some info.

Has he definitely agreed to move out and let you have the flat then? When is he leaving?

I would have about 50quid left to myself a month.

Is that £50 free cash or still bills/food to pay for?

For food I think. I'm just going to try to do a spreadsheet.

Oh love. I'm so sorry. I hope you can find someone to move in and help with the bills.

Lots of love. You are amazingly strong and I know you will come out of this happier in the long term xxx

Awww xxxx I left my 1st hubby after 19 years being together, it was hard as I had 6 year old daughter. It was the bravest thing I did! It was awful for ages, but it made me a much better and stronger person. I divorced aged 34 thinking that was my life over.. You will be ok, will take some time. Good to hear work are supporting, in my circumstance, going to work kept me sane xxx

Work out your finances and get everything sorted. I took in a lodger for a couple of years x

**duplicate**

Do some numbers and see where you get to... no harm in getting a lodger but you might want your own space for a month or so to find your feet. x

Has he said when he is leaving? Make sure he does otherwise it's just words and then if he's still hanging around next week then it's dragging out the pain.

Anything we can do to help please shout even if it's just to help you with your spreadsheet or advertise for a lodger - I can't say I know anyone in Portsmouth but would 100% share/retweet if you put a few words together on property details/rent etc, someone might know someone who might know someone...

Don't rush into getting someone else in though, take a good look at the spreadsheet obviously but you might need time to adjust first - or you might think maybe getting someone else in asap would kickstart the moving on process.

Lots of love xx

Sorry to hear this, but at least he isn't dragging it on and on. Seems a bit crap he gets to just walk off scotfree, but from what I recall on previous postings, he hasn't been responsible with money or anything so I guess he will go back to Mummy and Daddy and continue to live like a selfish 18yr old. Whereas you will thrive, flourish and have gained nothing but wisdom and strength from the whole experience.

In terms of wanting someone to share - what about going on easyroommate or flatshare? I think I used Easyroomate once upon a time? You could also see if there are any Facebook groups or use gumtree? For all you know, there could be someone out there in the same position as you who needs a place to go to sort themselves out for a bit.

I know it's tough, but you have plenty of weirdies here to help you through it xx

Do you want me to share your status in Facebook?

P good to hear from you but sorry to hear this is definitely it for you both.

I think there is a website called spareroom.co.uk that I used in the past to find a room. Don't rush into anything make sure you have some time for yourself x

I've just asked a friend that used to have lodgers and she recommended spareroom.com. The other idea us advertise in hospitals for nurses etc? Your not far from st Mary's.

Nothing useful to add, but thinking of you and here if you need to rant ?

I'm really sorry to read about what you are going through. It must be so difficult for you.

Just for you to think about/be aware of...you can rent a room tax free for upto £4250 per year (just over £350 per month).

I hope you get thinks sorted and he leaves sooner rather than later.

Good luck and lots of hugs xx

PP, sorry he's still being so insensitive and unfair to you. It sounds as though you're starting to take steps to look after yourself though, that's a good sign. Just think of you and the kitties now.

I also used spare room.com. It's actually how I met my H.

Oh chicken, I hope you are taking care of yourself. Remeber to eat, yeah? Mrs C speaks the truth - F*ck him.

Get an ad up with the university. Mine are always looking for rooms for visiting academics.

My friend found her flatmate on gumtree.

he is a total nob P. Please do not let him come crawling back it will be hard but you deserve and will have so much better x

Thought you meant te friends flat mate was a nob for a second there!

Duh! Why diddnt I think of this? You are in student central.

Ha! No, the flatmate is lovely I assure you!!!

Oh P - what everyone else has said a millon times over - and massive hugs xxx

Check about having a student staying though - as I think that means you can't claim your 25% Council Tax discount, and students don't pay council tax at all - so may not be happy with splitting it with you.

Also try hospitals if you have contacts who could share for you - they often look for rooms for visiting staff.

What a twunt!

I can't add anything else but am send you a hug and a huge jug of pimms 'cos its summer. ?

So sorry to hear what you are going through P I have little to add other than it will get better!

We have had lodgers for 4 years now and would recommend using easyroomate.com and spareroom.co.uk, I would also say maybe look at advertising for a Monday-Friday lodger, this is what we have had for the past few years and it makes so much difference having your home to yourself at the weekend, plus Mon-Fri lodgers tend to mainly want the use of their bedroom and bathroom only, not the run of the whole house. Has certainly kept me more sane during the whole time of needing a lodger!

So sorry to read this lovely. No advice sorry but sending you hugs.

What a fecking twat face. He will regret this, I can promise you that. He is going to end up sad and alone and regretting this decision.

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Can't help with the lodger thing, but wanted to say how sorry I am - he's behaved like an utter d!ck and didn't deserve you.

So sorry to hear this. I would second/third spareroom.com and I found a room using Gumtree. The girls I shared with were lovely. I would suggest hospitals and universities. Also I don't know much about your work but we get placement year students at ours who are always looking for rooms so could be good to see if anyone is starting a placement at your work or any friends places of work.

I know diddly-squat about lodgers (although I used to host bank employees on training courses) but am sending hugs and vibes and other Ottery stuff.

I am also flippin' good at budgeting (read "mean"!) so if I can help at all in that direction you've only got to say.

One day it will not hurt as much as this. Promise.

Sorry to be doom and gloom but I've just realised that if you're renting your agreement would probably prohibit sub letting?

That's actually a valid point

I'm really sorry you're going through this Pompey but you're tough. Don't let him call all the shots. If he's leaving get him out now.