loosing the will.....

Have you considered eloping?

I know it's hard, but out of your whole post one thing stuck out at me.

You are fed up with all the hassle of the wedding itself, but you're still very much in love with each other and wanting to get married.

That's entirely understandable, especially on top of the other circumstances you mention, but I think most of us go through that sort of thinking from time to time then get a splash of inspiration and it all fires up again.

Make a list of what you still need to do, and prioritise it between "critical" (such as catering numbers and registrar details) and "nice" for the less important things.

Work out if you can get stuff from Ebay or whatever - so much quicker than actual shopping - and post your list here, I'm sure plenty of people are willing to help you.

Remember the most important thing of the day is that you end up at the end of the day as Mr & Mrs; the registrar bits are critical, but everything else really is gravy and just embelishments. That's not to say that having 'the dress' and all your close family and friends around you aren't important, but you can get married without them.

Sounds like you need some "us time" - but only you can work out how to get that in.

Thanks aj... that reply was just what i needed i.e. being reminded that as long as we have a good day & we become mr & mrs that all will be ok :o) I reminded the OH of that when i got back off my night shift as well :oD

Been looking at my list of things to do to prioritise as well... thanks!