lost for words.........[:@] [banghead]

Well I am not often lost for words, but oh my feckin god, my jaw is hanging open !!

What a bloody cheek ! and for what it's worth I would have punched her in her filthy mouth for slagging off my son and if/when she comes around to apologise she would also have a footprint on her arse as I kicked her out of the door sheeesh !

Unbelievable !

I can't believe these brides are for ACTUAL REAL. i just can't. are people just so fcuking rooooood nowadays? i am seriously biting my tongue to stop all the sweary words coming out !

hillier, even if an apology is on its way, you're not going to accept it, surely?

I'm with Bluewater. There are surely not people out there that think this is acceptable?

no bluewater, i cannot accept her apology on any grounds. she has had this attitude for years and i think for me (and alot of other family members) this was the last straw. i have said before that mr hillier & i are not getting married for money or gifts (as none of you ladies are) but she thinks it part and parcel of getting married - to be showered with gifts and money which is just shallow.

i have yet to get this so called apology which i am in two minds to even answer the phone. in the mean time im about to leave for edinburgh to see what John Lewis has on offer...............................................x

I have to say hours later I am still so shocked. I would have slapped her one two, hopefully it will smack some sense into her but I doubt it. If anyone spent £50 on us I would surprised in this current climate and I'd be incredibly touched and grateful, twice as much if they didn't even come. I'd cull her quicker than you can say "bridezilla".

I just cannot believe the nerve on some people, really!

SiL got married few years ago, we gave her £50 quid and a love spoon, we never recieved a thanks, and I knew she was less impressed, but H2B and I have two morgages to pay, so things were tight, between nights in the hotel, outfits etc.

We got married this year, we had the no kids rule, for our own reasons, she refused to come (fair enough), but didnt even send her brother a card!

People are just dam right rude in my opinion!

You did right!!

? I can't believe people can be so rude! You get married and share your day with people, you don't ask them to (basically) pay for themselves! Some brides are on another planet.

I absolutely hate the question 'What would you like as a present' my stock response is 'you to be there'. I cannot understand how anyone could possibly consider returning a gift like that. I would be embarrassed to accept such a generous gift, but I would lol, and I would thank whoever the giver was. This woman has obviously been dragged up and is only good for one thing - the cull!

I would tell her there has been a change of plans and you are no longer able to accomodate her at your wedding........

I really can't believe this. Was sat here going Oh My God and OH was asking what was wrong!

I think £50 is actually more than generous for a wedding present and wouldn't expect anyone to give me that. I normally spend around £30 on a gift because that is all I can afford. What a bloody cheek!!

Don't blame you for losing your temper. I would have done too! Enjoy spending those vouchers on your little ones! Your cousin clearly doesn't deserve it.

? OMG that is so damm rude, I give what I can afford. I think that is a really genereous gift considering you did not attend as well. I normally give between £10 up to £30 depending who it is and what I can afford.

I hope her mum gave her a good talking to and told her to grow up and get a reality check, I think she will be a bride who ends up with no gifts the way she has gone.

We have had a decline to an evening invitation with £25, she is an 87 widow. I was made up as she did not have to send us anything.

Jaw is on floor.

can I go and slap the silly cow??? can I? I can get the next train through easy.......... does she have no manners?????? I cannot believe SEVERAL of you recieved your gifts back!!!!!

Karma is soooo gonna jump up and bite her on the arse!

Me too! Actually as the day has gone on it has made me really cross that someone could be so rude and ungrateful.

I can't believe people like that actually exist, I think £50 is more than enough for your cousin, I probably would have sent £30, I'm totally shocked!

I know! I even asked a couple of non B2Bs at work and the reaction was the same - their jaws and the floor were in alignment!

I don't even think its about the amount though - whatever someone might buy you (albeit wedding/brithday/Christmas) its a GIFT - and therefore saying you don't want it for any reason is damn rude. It polite to say THANK YOU, not you didn't spend enough have it back.

I'm am truely shocked to the core that people do this. If it cost the B&G £150 to have a gues there that is their look out - they chose the expensive venue/meal/trimmings NOT the guests.

I'm really riled by this - can you tell? ?

I hear you Sister! I feel exactly the same.

Rude, rude, rude rude.

Seriously.

I would have given her a slap too.

The bad fairies will catch up with her one day.

Enjoy the vouchers!

OMFG.

Some people are so fcuking rude. makes my blood boil. Grrrrrrrrr!!!

If its not a reasonable amount for what they wanted to buy, why couldn't she have put the vouchers & money together to buy something more expensive. A colleague of mine got married last year & put all the John Lewis vouchers together towards a new sofa.

That is truely amazing. How dare she????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

Your Aunt must surely be devastated that her daughter has been just SO rude.

I am really sorry that this happened to you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Is this for real? I can't believe anyone would do this

BL**DY HELL! The cheeky, offensive, self centered, egotistical, thoughtless waste of space!

Who the hell does she think she is? SO glad you slapped her, sad you didn't knock her teeth to the back of her head when she started on your kids. If she attempts to apologise I'd ram it down her throat and our pocket thanb herstell her you've met pigs with more manners.

I HATE people who think weddings and celebrations are all about how much you can get out of people. £50 is loads of money, you get spending- all the sweeter in your pocket than hers.

Tha'ts really PIS*ED me off.

x

? How f'ing rude of her! that so rude and i don't blame you or anyone else for taking back their gifts if she's going to be that bloody ungrateful! I can't believe she sent that card to so many people! well to anyone at all. How on earth do you even think of doing something like that?

Treat you and mr hillier and the kids to something nice! i think you bloody derserve it after that kind of cheek!

OMG

I realy cant believe this!

I cant believe the cheek of your cousin sending that card, i would never dream of doing anything like that the thought would never enter my head, its a very strange thing to do.

I think £50 is a very generous gift!!

*what everyone else said! *

aboslutely gobsmacked. I mean there are just no words.

well ladies what an eventful day!

i have still not had the 'apology' but to be honest - im not interested, it wont be an apology that i would be accepting anyway.

i did however have a tearful aunt at my door just as we got home from edinburgh she asked if she could come back once kids were asleep to 'talk' - to which i agreed.

so we sat down & had a chat - seems bridezilla has had the 'worsed day of her life' as apparently ALL the guests at her wedding AND the ppl who could not attend got the same card - so the long and short of it is...................there is a bounty on her head lol.

i do however feel sorry for my auntie she has had so much hassle all day (she has been returning the gifts to ppl who were sent the card) coz of the ? who has infact buggered off on honeymoon early as WAIT FOR IT..............................

"its all too much for her - all she wanted was the best start to married life" = WTF?? by insulting basically everyone who was invited to her wedding. she has left our 76yr old gran in tears as the wedding present she bought (pic from their engagement shoot & 1 wedding photo the photographer gave her & framed it) was refered to as 'tat' and said to my auntie 'we will just hide that hidious thing away till she comes over then put it on the wall' this was the last for my auntie and she started to fire back at her, calling her all sorts & said she didnt want any contact with her when she came home from HM.

which i was VERY surprised as i have never seen my suntie act like this before - she is just so embarassed at what bridezilla has done.

my kids got the benefit from it though - a lovely sandpit will be delivered to them sometime this week.

just so sad that greed can get the better of ppl like her, when she does come home she will have a few angry ppl to answer too......................x

I really struggle to beleive this

I read this post a few hours ago and i can't stop thinking about it! I'm outraged! My OH is gob smacked!

WTF

What a loon! I echo what everyone else says.

Hope the kids enjoy the sandpit

x

Hurrah for the Kidd-ili-winks and their new (soon to arrive) sandpit.

Glad you spent it on something lovely for them, just hope the weather gets better so that they can use it!

x

OMG!! I can't believe what i'm reading here!! I'm with everyone else - I can't believe that there are actually people like that!!

what an ungrateful cow! Oh, that's made me really angry!

I feel so sorry for your aunty - no wonder she is so embarrassed.

your cousin has brought a whole new meaning to 'bridezilla'!!

Hope the kids enjoy the sandpit, they must be delighted!

xx

I am so so angry on your behalf! and on the behalf of your aunt as well who must be so ashamed of her daugher. I also cannot believe any person would ever be so insensitive as to make their grandma cry like that! thats such an amazing gift that she gave them. i would have to say that if it was me receiving those photos from my grandma i would have cried at how lovely it is, not thrown it back at her!

I'm just so angry about it for you! i really can't believe anyone would ever dare to be so rude and ungrateful.

I really hope your babies enjoy their sandpit. Much better for them to enjoy it than for the ungrateful b**ch. Your children are worth ten million bazillion times what she is!

I've just read this post, and probably like everyone else, was just in utter dis-belief!!

I read it to my OH and got the reply of " what a ungrateful b****!"

Glad the kiddies are getting use out of it!

I will be grateful for any "tat" as she puts it, let alone £50.00 in vouchers!!!

What a pants way to start your week hun!! ?