I was having a discussion with MrX last night, and it seems he doesn't count my habits as part of me - they're what I do, not who I am... I've always been told that when you love someone, you love all of them, habits, personality, actions, all of it... I have some bad habits, so does he, but I love the habits because they're HIS habits, even though I might not love what the habits are at all...
He can't comprehend this (loving them and not loving them) and says quite emphatically that he doesn't love the habits whether they're mine or not, he doesn't view them as part of me and he'd love me regardless of whether or not I have the habits... However, he only counts personality, intelligence, stuff like that as 'me' - not what I do...
I'm feeling confused because I love everything about him because it makes up him - even if I don't love his habits - but he's saying (to my definition) that he obviously doesn't love me completely then because he doesn't love my habits - because he doesn't view them as part of me... I think I know what he's saying (love the sinner, hate the sin) but I view habits and stuff as part of who I am... If you had to build a new Xarra, then I'd not be quite the same Xarra if you didn't include how I act and my habits... Which he understands, however... :/
So, essentially, he loves me unconditionally, but has a different definition of 'me' than I do of 'him'... Can anyone explain this one in a way my poor brain will understand?