Maid of Honour

If they are both very close to you , why have one at all ??.........., can't they share the duties , there is no hard and fast rule to say there must be a MOH .

Hi,

I'm in the same situation to you. Have 2 bm's but there is one who in my head I'm calling MOH but I won't be telling anyone really as I don't want to offend anyone. You don't have to have a MOH so I will just be asking one bm to help more than the other as we are closer & she'll be more help anyway.

I would have only bridesmaids, if you MUST differentiate you could have one as Chief BM, but at least they're all the same 'rank' so to speak!

Like above, do you definitely need to appoint one as MOH?

I don't think it's really needed unless you really want one. I'm having 3 BM's but no MOH. They all want to help and be involved, so no need to differentiate.

You don't need to appoint a MOH, but if you really did want to have a chief, don't worry about offending. If the others get offended, then you'll know you made the right choice, because a good reliable friend (as opposed to a friendzilla!) would just be happy to be supportive in any way they can, you wouldn't want a MOH who thought the day was about them type thing. Being a bridesmaid is already a great honour, and hopefully your friend would be respectful and just happy for you!

I have had the same issue, I have 2 best friends, both are being bridesmaids but over the last year I have become a lot closer to one of them who I would ideally choose to have as my MOH - However I didn't want to hurt my other friend so I chose my sister instead, I was quite lucky that I had that option!

The only difference really is that traditionally the MOH acts as a witness and signs the register. If you allocate this to someone else then problem solved, just dont have one.