May 2012 Brides ... How are we getting on?

I'm getting married on 20th May!! We've only been engaged since november, so I do feel slightly panicked about getting everything organised. It'll be a super small wedding - only 11 of us in total so I suppose I shouldn't worry too much!

I'm 14th May and getting married abroad in Italy.

I'm glad I'm not the only one getting panicked and don't have absolutely everything sorted, I feel that with only 4 and halff months to go, I should have everything "just about done"

I'm getting panicked at the moment, I haven't slept properly since November because I lie awake each night worrying about what still needs to be done and more importantly how we're going to pay for it all. I rent out a flat which was covering the wedding spending, but the tenant upped sticks and disappeared in November, so have had no income for 2 months plus it's cost me money getting it ready for a new tenant, and had a huge barny with the letting agent and sacked them, so need to hand out setting up fees to a new agent, GRRR!

I have:

My Dress, Flower girl dresses, BM Dresses, Ceremony hall booked, reception hall booked, in the process of making my brooch bouquet (all brooches wired but still need to put them all together in bouquet shape, then need to buy material to wrap round bouquet) Don't know what I'm doing about BM flowers yet? Should I make smaller brooch bouquets or get normal flowers?, WP booked, most of the invites are sent already (really worried I have invited too many people though, as a lot of my invitees are fmily who live in Canada and didn't expect them to come, but a few are sayig they might!! eek may have to hire a bigger reception venue), my shoes are bought, side tiara ordered, lake cruise organised, BM gifts ordered, wedding bands ordered, OH's cousin will do our photography, my brother will do video, my jewllery sorted.

Things still to be done:

OH's kilt (really bugging me cause he's just not interested in going to see about it), flowers for ceremony room (reception venue provide flowers), need to decide what I'm doing for BM flowers, veil decided on (just need to articulate what I want to the veil lady), need to buy make up and decide what hair I will be having, learn my vows (eek, keeping them short but sweet as I don't want to fluff them), need to order hoop for dress, underwear/ stockings, favours (know what I'm having, just need to order), Flower girl shoes (BM's can sort themselves out), Flower girl socks - does anyone know of any nice delicate ankle socks for kids? age 6 and 3. hair bands and flowers for flower girls. need to sort ceremony music (can't get OH to sit and go through it with mw, we were planning on hiring a violinist, and then a dJ for the reception though DJ is really expensive £800 ouch)

Is there anything I'm obviously missing? I'm so scared I forget something super important.....

My mum is doing my head in about invitations as well, it's almost like she thinks she has the right to invite people.

She insisted I invite her cousin and his wife, which I did grudgingly, then I wasn't planning on inviting her brother as he is an A**e, but she has now asked me to order an invite for him and said I cannot send the invite to my auntie and cousins (his ex wife and kids without inviting him, why not??? i don't like him and my mum doesn't either but she worries he will be upset. I tell her she shouldn't worry what he thinks as he never worries how his actions will upset others) She also insisted her friend gets invited, where I had planned only to invite family and no friends (other than my BM's) she says "I haven't got a lot of family from my side coming and feel that I should be able to invite friends to compensate" GRRR.

I think I'm doing ok.

H2B bought me my shoes and wedding ring for Xmas as a surprise and I got him his wedding ring.

Only things left to do are alter the dresses, make up the invitations and sort out how we're all getting to the ship.

Hope everyone's ok xxx

Hi All May 2012 Brides ?

Just thought I'd bump this as for some - we'll soon be getting to our 3 Month & x days marker!!!

Oh boy!!!!!

Has Christmas all now been well forgotten???

I've finally started making a move now that Christmas is out the way.

Invites are out, menu has been finalised, going to finalise cake and venue decoration on 28th, and finally making a move on underskirt, confetti, hair, make up, etc.

How are all my date (and month) twins getting on?

Booked myself onto a cake decorating course! Need it but not looking forward to it as rubbish in kitchen in front of others, I go all clumsy. I am looking forward to baking our cakes though.

Anyone managed to delegate wedding jobs to others? If so, which jobs and to who, and how did you do it politely (hate asking for help but could probably do with a bit more)??

I haven't managed to delegate to anyone yet!

Had my venue meeting today, which has clarified a few things. I can get my info sheets done now

Hi Date Twins

Currently putting our invites together - aiming to have them mailed out by the 25th Jan! A little behind you guys, but as our venue doesn't need final menu details till April - we've given our guests an RSVP date of 12th March.

Seeing both our favour ladies and our cake lady over the weekend - so fingers crossed they will be sorted by then!

First proper meeting with the Vicar on Tuesday - got some ideas for the Service and should have it all tied down by mid Feb.

What I really can't wait for is my dress - not due in till mid March and I'm itching to buy all my wedding day accessories!

Oh and saw our florist last weekend, really starting to all come together now. However did any of my date twins realise that we've picked one of the most expensive international flower weekends for our weddings?

Will your venue, caterers, etc. not require final numbers in march? What about a table plan? If you are doing it yourself you don't want the stress of doing it with hardly any time to go.

Date twin! ?

Hi Twins!!

Well we've decided to change where we have our wedding ceremony, got a meeting with the vicar on Friday.

Invites need to be ordered but obviously need to sort the church out first.

2 bridesmaids need fascinators and they all need jewellery. Still need to get my jewellery.

Then just to pay everything off.

Eeeek can't believe its 4 month tomorrow xxx

Shhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

double shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

Extremely unorganised!!!!! WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

Eeekkk!!! Can't believe how quick it has come around!!!

We sent our invites out last week, with an RSVP date of the 9th April. So far so good. A few extended family are a little annoyed at not being invited but we can't afford to have a massive wedding.

Ordering suits this week and hopefully my ring. Still need to pick hymns for the church and readings etc...

Can't wait!!!

We have a suit appointment this Sat..thats organised right?! *still no invites*

UPDATED FROM PREVIOUS POST

I paid the balance on our wedding bands yesterday, they arrive on Saturday (can't wait). My tiara arrive on saturday and it's gorgeous,...I've booked a make up appointment at the bare essentuels counter to give me ideas how to do eye make up at the end of the month (still not sure if I'm entirely comfortable doing my own make up but then I'm not going to have a chance to get a trial with someone in Italy and don't want to take the chance that they make me look like a clown!) I've contacted a violinist yesterday for prices, which seen to be the cheapest I've found. I've also managed to find a DJ for 400 euro instead of 800 so thats a big saving (I don't really know how each of them compare quality wise, again with being so far away and they don't have websites, I'll choose the cheaper one as my budget is dictating that is a must!). OH still isn't showing any interest in shopping for kilts, I'll push him in february i think. I'm trying to arrange my flowers for he ceremony, but I only have a telephone number and not an email address for florist in Italy, I'm slighty concernedthe language barrier could cause problems with talking, I prefer emailing Italy.

Most of my invites have been sent, but have requested an extra few that are still waiting to be made, my RSVP date is 31 Jan and at this rate the extra's won't arrive until the 31st Jan...aahh the stress.

My DRESS will hopefully arrive in store next month can't wait!!! and my veil will be here by the end of the month! Once I have that my outfit will be complete...so excited!

Ok boss ️?️ Surely you've got to be a little bit excited, right? I'm half excited, half anxious and a little bit scared.

We should be buying our rings on Monday or Tuesday. Just need OH to sort out his suit. No bestman or ushers to worry about so he can pretty much wear what he wants as long as its not white!

This is the thing thats worrying me most at the moment, meant to have them all made and ready to go by end of Jan but still not anywhere near. Havent even finalised timings yet so cant print invites till done that - teeny bit concerned as everyone seems to have either sent them already or are sending them soon!

On a positive note I think I've finally sorted all the transport so something else to tick off the list!

Thing is, they won't take THAT long to do once you start.

Yesterday I bought some ivory paper to do an info sheet to go in them, and need to print them off somewhere. Then I can get the invites written and sent

Think were getting there.

Not sent the invites out yet but all the day do ones have been written and are hopefully going to be sent out later this month - Im holding back on sending out the evening do ones at the moment as im hoping we get a few declines for the day do (that sounds awful doesn't it? hahahahaha)

i just need to decide about the cake because we cant decide what we want, get the other half to go and sort out his suits, sort out the flowers and then see the vicar sort out hymns etc and choose our menu.

I think thats all i have left to do

Plan is to write my invitations out this weekend as my other half will be about for my little one! Just purchased yet some more bridal underwear as la senza fleeced me lol. Just hoping it fits now as have a fitting on Friday! Can't believe I have just over 4 months to go...roll on 26 May

It's getting soooo close, our tickers very nearly say three months which I'm sure will make me throw up! I haven't contacted the organist for church yet, really must do that tonight, but we have just bought a house and moving in at end of January, been so busy with that I've forgotten we're getting married!! Eeeek x

Where are you date twins? Sorry Mellow_Yellow but it has to be said ... 4 months today!!!

By this time we should be coming to the end of our wedding breakfast and preparing for the speeches. How about you?

12th of May peeps it has to be said, its ? / ? day! 4 months to go!

Looneysh- I'm SO excited I have an actual date twin, I never thought I would with it being a monday, 2 days will our big milestone!

Invites arent a prob with us as they went out ages ago so people could get their travel sorted. I ordered my veil before Christmas but it has to go back as I wanted floor length and I got fingertip- the measurements are so confusing! Why isnt a 72" veil 72" long gah!!!

Otherwise I'm now all about trying to pin down my elusive flower woman, answer your emails dammit!

Did everyone else have a 'its our wedding year' cheer at idnight on NYE??

Scilly xx

Me ? Couldn't resist.

Eeek! We will just be finishing the speeches and getting ready for our starters!

Yep, sure did!

I haven't even decided on a timeline for the day yet.

Going to get our heads together this weekend and finish off the guest list depending on if its the ship or church. Then I can order the invites, my sister was meant be ordering them and making them up but she's dragging her heels so vistaprint here I come.

Got a meeting with the dress maker on friday to discuss alterations.

Decorations all got sorted today and got our deposit back off the other venue.

One last thing to sort is the cars but I'm struggling with this one. I'm wanting a beauford and a limo there and back. There's not a problem but coming back there is 1 extra person in the limo, so I'm going to have to ask one of the bridesmaids very nicely if they can grab a lift off someone as I can't expect my parents or my boys to.

Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeek xx

I know roll on Saturday!!! Our wedding bands are being delivered on sat too. I've just received an email today to advise my veil has been dispatched, so should be here on Saturday too hopefully!!!!!!

SaTurday us going to be an excellent day.

While we're not destination twins, the fact we're date twins and each of us are having a destination wedding is a good coincidence!!