May 2016 Brides

Goujon you don't need a colour scheme if you don't want one. Although saying that, you might accidentally end up with one, if you and your OH pick out a nice colour tie, then like that colour for the decorations, this is how it starts.

With our colour scheme, I was doing it the wrong way round. I thought find a nice dress then that colour will be the colour. Yeah, that didn't go to well, neither did the dresses. I had then narrowed it down to about 3 colours, and was proper faffing, and one evening OH said I like purple, can we just have purple. That's how we decided.

We didn't intend to have a proper colour scheme but it is possible that we will end up with one anyway! I am thinking about either a pale blue or pale green for the bridesmaids, and we have found some invites that we like that have pale green on. Also, pale green would go with the hessian table runners at the venue..... so if we find pale green bridesmaids dresses that we like, we may have a colour scheme by accident!

I think this is certainly one way to decide on a colour scheme (if you want one) - just find things you like and you might find that everything happens to tie together by coincidence (though I personally don't think it matters if it doesn't!).

Oo I've been looking out for a May 2016 thread, I should have started one! We're getting married 7th May and I'm beyond excited! I am naturally really organised so got a lot done quite quickly, I'm a Graphic Designer so want to do a lot of the DIY and designing myself, for this I need time so we've done all the big things quite early.

We've organised the church, the venue (which included the DJ), I've decided on my Bridesmaids, he's decided on his groomsmen, I have my dress, we have got my Sister's(MOH) bridesmaid dress, the other girls are choosing their own dresses and won't be walking down the aisle with me (I'm the most unsure about this decision and not sure what to do about it!), we have our rings, my Mum has her outfit (and is giving me away), we have chosen suits, we've sent save the dates, booked our honeymoon and we have booked a car and some decorations. It's just the flowers, decorations, invites and food that we've got to sort really. I guess the logistics of everything takes a while to organise ie. Table plan, who goes where, what music, what readings etc. I find it all so exciting!

I'm excited to follow all of you as we make more plans and finally get married. I have a countdown on my phone and it's 255 days to go until 7th May!

Xxx

HappyBlueConfetti - you're my date twin! I can't believe it's 255 days, I remember when I made a fuss about it being 300 days and that feels like a week ago!! x

May will be here before we know it!

Am super excited right now as I just booked our minimoon in the Lake District and it all seems gorgeous! And not only that... it's the first time I've been able to book anything under what will be my married name!

Oo yay! Hello date twin! :-) It still feels like we have quite a while, which is good. We had 465 days to go when we decided on our date and we went for Afternoon tea with 365 days to go, that all feels like ages ago now, which is good in a way, I'm really enjoying the planning :-) Xx

Hello!

I just wanted to drop in and say hi and I'm a May 2016 bride too! We're getting married May 27th, I blogged on hitched when it was one year to go and that time has already gone so fast.

We booked our venue, registrar and catering back in February, then I probably relaxed too much because I thought we had loads of time. Recently we've given ourselves a kick and got back into planning and have the photographer, florist and band booked.

Last week I found and ordered my dress but have to wait until December for it to arrive and we have a cake tasting in a couple of weeks - I think that's one of the things I'm most excited about.

I think my only wedding worry has been that I will cry too much in my vows! We've also had a few comments from teacher friends about having a weekday wedding but the majority of people have been fine about it, phew!

Lots of May weddings, seems like a very popular month!

My OH is going on his stag do next Wednesday (8.5 months before our actual wedding!) hahaha!

Hi!

I'm getting married 7th May 2016. I feel quite organised so far but I'm having weird dreams and worrying about silly things already!

We have so far organised:

Venue

Photographer/Videographer

Band

Bridesmaid Dresses

Candy Cart

My Dress (ordered, will be in the shop around December)

My VW Camper Transport

Makeup

Started buying little bits and pieces for gifts/decoration etc too

my worries are stupid things like...will OHs family comment on my bridesmaids tattoos (they will!), will my family fall out (quite likely). It's things like this that are really worrying me but I know I just need to get over it!

Anyone else have silly worries?

xx

My silly worry is that my mum is going to judge everyone for how much their drinking (she will!)

Yay for 7th May date twins! It seems to be a popular date :-)

I have had a few worries too, is the marquee too dark? will it rain? Is my dress enough? Just generally, will it all be ok? Will my bridesmaids be happy?

I had been having really weird dreams about the wedding too, there was one where my dress hadn't been altered, it didn't fit, I didn't have any flowers, I didn't have transport and then in my dream I knew that we had over 300 days to go at the time and just got really confused. I also had another dream that my other half was secretly arranging a Harry Potter themed disco (too much, don't tell the bride I think!) I also had another dream where I was 2 hours late! Dreams can be funny things but they have slowed down recently as I've tried not to worry about wedding things too much and started to calm down. It'll all come together, we've all got plenty of time! :-)

Fellow May brides I need your advice!

I selected my bridesmaids and asked them really early on in the planning stage, probably around this time last year. it was an easy choice for me - my sister, OH sister and my two best friends. I've had a couple of issues already over the past couple of months - one of my friends moved away last October and we've barely spoken since, I found ideal shoes and ordered them but had problems getting the girls to try them on, etc.

Anyway, now OH's sister has backed out today saying she is too terrified by the role and can't bring herself to commit to it. I'm really shocked and don't know what to do. I have an appointment to go dress shopping next week and the other three girls have taken the day off work but all the dresses I'd pre-selected with her in mind. I was going to have 2 girls in long styles and 2 in short so have picked only dresses that come in both options and that are also really conservative and not figure flattering. Also, the shoes I've now paid for (she ordered 2 pairs) are useless because I was having 2 wear one style and the other 2 wear another style but now it will look odd.

Am I best to try and persuade her to just be a bridesmaid even though she has anxiety? Do I replace her? Do I not replace her and have an odd number of bridesmaids compared to ushers?

I'm so confused about how to deal with this and really upset that this has thrown all my plans in the air.

Oh no, what a shame! How annoying as well, considering you had thought everything through with her in mind. I don't think you can force her to be a bridesmaid if she doesn't want to be. Most likely she's terrified about walking down the aisle with people looking at her, or something like that, and that's not really something you can change - unless she could be a bridesmaid without doing that? If she's pulled out this far in advance it's clearly not just a case of "it's really soon" nerves - she's thinking about this quite far in advance. What does your OH say about it?

If I were you I would maybe think about promoting one of your bridesmaids (I would guess your sister, rather than one of your two friends) to maid of honour. Then you could stick with the dresses and shoes you have found already, but your MOH will wear one, and the other two will wear the other. That way you've only got one lot of shoes going to waste.

I guess that's probably what I would do, but obviously it depends on the dynamics of the people involved.

Let us know what you decide to do!

Really sorry to hear about this, its not great situation for you to be in.

I agree with the other comments, I dont think you can persuade her to do it, unfortunately it sounds as though she's already made up her mind.

Playing devils advocate a little but.... would you be replacing her for the sake of it to have equal numbers or because there is someone else you actually want to do it and if so, why wouldn't you have asked them initially to be a BM? Would they know now they were a replacement and how would they feel about it?

I font think people will look at numbers and say you have more ushers than bridesmaids, I have 2 bridesmaids, 2 FG's and a page boy and OH has 2 Best Men and 2 Ushers so I actually have more in the bridal party than he does.

Its disappointing for you that you seem to have already spent time and effort on the look you are going for with the dresses and shoes but I am sure noone will notice on the day as everyone will be looking at how beautiful you look!

Oh that does sound annoying, but it is obviously a big problem for your sil to pull out this early. Take her out for drinks, if she's local, or a nice phone call to talk about her worries. This may put her at ease or you may get closure on why she can't do it anymore, but do spend time talking with her. Regarding the shoes, as you've already paid for them could you not (if she's adamant about not being able to be a bridesmaid) let her have the shoes as a present so it's not excluding her, but she still feels included?

As for having a different style for the chief bridesmaid and different shoes I wouldn't worry, and if the CB is in a long dress chances are no one is going to be able to pay attention to the shoes anyway so you haven't lost out on the shoes.

Just don't upgrade someone to BM if you don't want them as one. I was considering a long term friend to be BM and last time we went out for dinner it took me 37 mins (yes I timed it) to speak, and tried to speak about the wedding, I got interrupted because she was bored. So if you do replace her think very wisely and carefully. The numbers don't matter, just have two of one side, one of the other. It won't look odd and no one will think it, unless you mention it.

Hope it all works out

Forgot to mention yesterday, as someone who was drafted in as a replacement bridesmaid once (three days before the wedding!), it did feel a little weird. Don't just ask someone for the sake of it - I would only replace her if there's someone else who you were regretting not asking before.

Bridesmaids are a tricky thing. They are your best friends or closest family so it can be difficult and you don't want to upset anyone. Right at the beginning, I struggled to think of what to do for Bridesmaids, I had 5 friends and my sister in mind and just couldn't think of how I could find dresses for 6 girls who are all different styles etc. and how could I afford it either? I decided in the end to have my sister as my Bridesmaid and ask my 5 friends to be "honorary" bridesmaids, they can help as little or as much as they want, I've asked them to wear the same colour and they will be getting ready with me in the morning. I've too'd and fro'd about this decision a lot because they are literally my best friends in the world and I would do anything for them (and I'm sure vice versa!) I would go back on that decision in the blink of an eye but actually I think they are quite happy with their role and are probably quite relieved not to have to wear a dress they don't want to wear and nervously walk down the aisle. I hope they are happy with that anyway! What I'm trying to say is that, even if your future sister in law doesn't want the limelight too much, she's still your bridesmaid, she can still wear the shoes, she can still get ready with you in the morning, she just doesn't necessarily have to walk down the aisle with you. Xxx

7th May for me :-)

Sorted everything just about. Going to the venue's wedding fayre in 3 weeks to talk to the lady who is doing the venue flowers (they're included in the package but I'm worried they'll be a bit limited).

Dress is coming next month OMG!

Photographer booked, band booked, suits booked, I know who's doing bouquets etc, cake, hair and make-up, bridesmaids dresses bought (only having two, no sisters on either side) centre pieces sorted and I've got my shoes.

Just need my jewellery, bridesmaids jewellery, finish my invites that I'm making (and order of services).

Bumping this thread whilst taking the opportunity to report that I bought my dress yesterday! Had a lovely day out with my mum and MOH, visited three boutiques and settled on a beautiful lace over satin fit and flare Essense of Australia dress. I cannot WAIT to wear it!

There must be more May 2016 brides out there, make yourselves known!

Congratulations on finding THE DRESS!!!!! eeeeek....

I cannot believe how quickly time is going. 8 months today for us 21st May'ers

x

Congratulations on getting the dress! Had my first look Saturday.

I can't believe it's 8 months today, it seems so near now.

Thanks MrsLBtoB and Tidal Wave! I got halfway through yesterday before I realised it was exactly 8 months to go, and that was only because my MOH text me to tell me!

When are you planning to send your invitations out? We're not doing Save the Dates so I'm thinking we should get the invitations out a bit sooner than normal. I've got invitation blindness at the moment, have looked at so many!

We sent out std so will be sending invites out after Christmas probably January, after the blues and bills.

If you're not doing std, I'd say November for a reply but if you're having menu choices send them out nearer the date so less chance of people forgetting what they ordered. Also think if any overseas guests.

We havent done Save the dates but most people have been told anyway!

We will be sending invites in January or if we see people in the lead up to/over Christmas we'll give them to them then.

I just need to make them................. ?

Eeeeeeeeeekkk!!!! Got a call today while at work to tell my dress is in!!!! Going on Tuesday (hopefully) to see/check/try it on!

So excited!!!! Can't wait to see it again! This is going to make things feel so real!

And Tuesday is also my mum & dad's wedding anniversary and the 8 month marker for our day! Woopee!!!

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Hi All

Haven't been on hitched for a while and spotted you've started this thread. I'm getting married 7 may next year.

Had day off today & went and bought my dress - yey. Went with mum, sis & friend last weekend but didn't find anything so figured I'm the one that has to make the choice, so might as well go in the week when it's quieter & I have more time. The shop I went to today was so much better, lovely lady and dresses that fitted, rather than trying to squeeze in them & I'm only a size 14. It's a Ronald Joyce full lace one.

Off to bridal show in Manchester tomorrow - been told not to buy shoes till dress comes in, but I don't think I will be able to resist if I find something I like. Also can now start shopping for necklaces, hair things etc.

Got to sort my bridesmaids next - think I'll ask my sis to bring my nieces over in half term for a big shop. Keep nagging fiancée on his suits. Hoping he'll go when he gets back from his stag do which is next weekend.

Most major things booked / organised, just cake to sort and then the bits and pieces / decorations etc to sort now.

Will now start reading the thread to get to know you all!!

I'm off dress shopping today! Hope I find something soon, doesn't feel like May is very far away now!

Hi all not been on here for a while we get married on the 28th May it's coming round so quick.

Feeling a little stuck with what needs doing next don't know where to start.

Eeek! It's all very exciting! I love hearing that everyone is getting their dresses etc. 7th May feels like a very popular date at the mo, maybe because it just stands out to me, I don't know! Only 224 days for us 7th May lot and I started counting at 465 days to go!!

I went with my Mum to the dress shop today to decide a couple of things ie. Accessories etc. I had had a few doubts about my dress (was it enough? was it "wow" enough? etc) I don't regret having some photos of me in the dress but have tended to obsess about little bits based on those photos. However, in putting it on today, it was more perfect than I remember!! I loved it and some little accessories really added to it :-)

I also paid the deposit for the hire of some decorations for our reception venue today, they were quite expensive for things that aren't really needed but aside from my dress they are the most extravagant thing I've spent out on and in getting a few quotes, they were the most reasonable. If you can't be extravagant on your wedding day, when can you?

So, very exciting! I'm so looking forward to May next year and really enjoying the planning so don't want it to go tooooo quickly!

How did you guys sort out the photographer? We've started looking and just a bit baffled. We're getting married about an hours drive from where we live so is it better to get someone local to us or more local to the venue, and how do you know the quality is good if you don't have an eye for it.

We know to go with someone who has done weddings before, but any advice on how you found yours would be helpful. Thanks

Hi all. Went to wedding fair by trafford centre in manchester yesterday. Was OK. not as big as we thought and we've got most things sorted so most stands were dresses and venues, but it did give us some ideas and has got fiancee much more interested in helping chose things we do / have.

Can't remember how we found our photographer, think I started following him & a few others on Facebook. Went for ones that did the style of photos we wanted (natural, not staged). Arranged for him to come round to our house to discuss / meet him, liked him, his work and prices and booked him. One thing that put me off some of the photographers is that they were wearing company branded polo / sweat shirts on the day and looked intrusive, I wanted ours to blend in. He's about 30miles away, so fairly local to us / our venue.