Me again! Incorporating those who've passed at the wedding, ideas?

A friend of mine had a wishing tree at their wedding, and had photographs of family and friends who were sadly no longer with them hung on them. Then when everyone wrote down their wishes for the happy couple they were hung up with them.

Obviously, it completely depends on personal circumstances and opinion but I don't think there is a need to do anything specific.

The people that OH and I were close to, who won't be there, we're putting nods towards - so I used to grow sunflowers with my nanny, so am having them in my bouquet, and OH's grandad was a massive scrabble fan so we're having scrabble place names. We'll know what they mean but to others, they're just nice things.

When we got engaged, my friend gave us some example orders of service, and one of the them has a fab paragraph that we'll be putting in ours.

'On this most special milestone in our lives, we wish to lovingly remember those close to our hearts who are no longer with us. We know that they are here with us in spirit.

The wonderful memories of the precious times shared with each of them will be cherished forever'

Think it sums it up perfectly.

We are in the same position.

Over the last couple of years we have lost , my OH's dad, my brother , my grandad and 2 of my uncles, one of which I was very close to and my OH lost both his birth mum and stepmum prior to meeting me , also my gran isn't able to attend due to ill health.

Given how many of them have passed away, we both feel it would be too overwhelming and morbid to do something for each and every person but want to include them in the day somehow, so have decided to have my son light a single candle in memory of them all on our behalf right at the beginning of the ceremony, the candle will be in a lantern that will move around the venue as we do.

Kirstabubble - we are still looking at what will be said during the lighting of the candle so I've noted what you have here, its not too long but as you say it kinda sums up what we want to achieve.

The order of service message is a lovely idea - a good way to remember them.

We are having wedding pictures of our Grandparents at the wedding. My Nan passed away suddenly a few months ago and is going to be very much missed on our day - she was a lovely lady and we were very close so losing her has been very difficult.

We are also going to keep one of the front pews of the church free in honour of them - we don't care if it's a bit morbid - in our minds they will be with us and if they were there they would be sat up at the front. I'm also going to leave my bouquet on their grave.

Could you have a small photo of each incorporated into your bouquet - you could have small photos put on ribbon and wrapped round the stems perhaps? You should be able to buy very small frames.

Thanks for all the lovely ideas. Mr. Sadie said he'd like little photos of each person on a side table with some tea lights and flowers.

I think I'll have my Gran & Grandads wedding photo, and I'll find a nice one of Nathan.

Thanks guys.